{"id":65191,"date":"2019-06-09T19:04:41","date_gmt":"2019-06-10T03:04:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=65191"},"modified":"2019-06-09T19:04:42","modified_gmt":"2019-06-10T03:04:42","slug":"top-5-effective-ways-to-deal-with-the-narcissistic-partner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/top-5-effective-ways-to-deal-with-the-narcissistic-partner\/","title":{"rendered":"Top 5 Effective Ways to Deal with the Narcissistic Partner"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;\" class=\"sharethis-inline-share-buttons\" ><\/div><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Having a narcissist as a partner can be extremely challenging. Narcissists think that the world revolves around them, and they often get close to someone only for their own wish-fulfillment. They are completely self-centered, and their needs always come first.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You certainly know that this isn\u2019t the way to go in a relationship. Healthy relationships are based on mutual respect, honest communication, trust, and real connection. This isn\u2019t something that a narcissistic partner can offer.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you fell in love with a narcissist, only to realize it later, when the personality traits you were initially attracted to started to annoy you and get in the way of your own happiness, you should definitely do something about it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Getting out of the relationship may be the easiest thing to do, but it\u2019s not always the smartest. Choosing the path of least resistance is easy, but what if you\u2019re married? What if you have children together? Even if you don\u2019t, it may be really worth to fight for your relationship, but you first need to know what kind of narcissist your partner is.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>What Type of Narcissist Are You Dealing with?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not all narcissists are alike, so you need to know which one your partner is so that you can effectively deal with them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>There are two types of narcissists:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Vulnerable narcissists<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Grandiose narcissists<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/communication-success\/201601\/7-signs-covert-introvert-narcissist\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Vulnerable narcissists<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> are quiet, reserved, and sometimes even appear shy. They\u2019re introverted, very sensitive, easily offended, and seek a lot of attention and sympathy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They often resort to manipulation, playing the victim card to get the attention they need. They mask their low-confidence with arrogance. Their narcissistic traits are often difficult to pick up, as they kind of fly under the radar. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.healthyway.com\/content\/interview-with-a-narcissist-looking-inside-the-grandiose-and-equally-anxious-mind\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Grandiose narcissists<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> are hard to miss, with their huge confidence, self-esteem, charm, and extroversion. They believe that they are better than everyone else, have a huge sense of entitlement, lack empathy, take people for granted, and want other people to admire them. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That\u2019s what makes them feel powerful, which helps them compensate for their deep insecurity. They often seem cold and selfish, and they\u2019re actually proud when people call them out as such. To get the admiration they need, they resort to guilt-tripping and trump their partner\u2019s confidence and self-esteem.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>How to Deal with a Narcissistic Partner<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whichever type of narcissist you\u2019re dealing with, the following tips will help you take huge steps toward effectively improving your partner\u2019s behavior.<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><b> Identify the Source of Their Narcissistic Behavior<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Knowing where your partner\u2019s narcissistic behavior comes from will help you know exactly what to do. Maybe their parents pampered them too much or expected too much from them. Perhaps their parents taught them to hide their emotions, which bottled up for years.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s also common for physical violence, or witnessing any kind of abuse as a child, to turn someone into a narcissist. Find out where your partner\u2019s insecurity, anger, and arrogance come from so that you can effectively reassure them, and calm them down.<\/span><\/p>\n<ol start=\"2\">\n<li><b> Kill Them With Kindness<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being kind and positive all the time isn\u2019t the best solution, but finding the right balance will help you. Don\u2019t add fuel to the fire whenever your partner starts a fight, or become mad at them when they criticize you or get on your nerves in any way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.meganredshaw.com\/how-to-communicate-with-a-narcissist\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Communicate with your narcissistic partner<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in a kind way, without sparking arguments, even if they try to do so. Speak to them about acceptable behavior, as well as about consequences for breaking the rules, without any reprimand.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Talk to your partner without fear, showing them that you are a kind, loving, caring person who deserves love and respect.<\/span><\/p>\n<ol start=\"3\">\n<li><b> Stay Positive and Keep Your Self-Worth<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You need to understand that you truly deserve love and respect and that you\u2019re capable of admiration. This is why you should try and stay positive, even when you feel like burying your face in the pillow and crying.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That would only irritate your partner, and fuel their aggressive behavior. If you choose not to show that you\u2019re ruffled by your partner\u2019s behavior, they\u2019ll eventually stop getting under your skin. They\u2019ll see that they\u2019re not making you suffer, so they won\u2019t find any more pleasure in it. <\/span><\/p>\n<ol start=\"4\">\n<li><b> Keep Your Sense of Humor<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissists have no sense of humor, and they often don\u2019t appreciate wits aimed at them, as they offend very easily.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, you can crack a joke about your partner\u2019s egocentric traits, and make them actually smile. You can point to the stuff they need to change that way, but make sure you\u2019re not cruel about it. Make humor constructive, and it may become your most powerful weapon for battling narcissism.<\/span><\/p>\n<ol start=\"5\">\n<li><b> Seek Counsel from a Professional<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s important to know when a narcissist may need professional help to change their behavior. As many experts suggest, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.huffpost.com\/entry\/can-narcissist-change-their-ways_n_5a95a5fae4b03a8f3a23288c\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">narcissists <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">can<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> change<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, but they need to truly want to change.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s an enormous step for a narcissist to even admit they have a problem, let alone to decide to take a very long road for treating it. If you recognize that your partner can benefit from professional counseling, kindly and very carefully advise them to do it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If they\u2019re not comfortable with in-office therapy right away, suggest taking an <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/marriage-courses\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">online marriage course<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. There are plenty to choose from, so take the time to find the best one for dealing with narcissistic partners. An online marriage course will help you strengthen your marriage, teach your partner how to value you, and help you build a better future together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>What If Your Narcissistic Partner Can\u2019t \u2013 Or Rather, Won\u2019t \u2013 Change?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You need to understand that changing anyone\u2019s personality traits is extremely difficult. It will take a long time for your partner to cure, so to speak, their narcissism, if they do decide to try.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But if they remain stubborn and don\u2019t want to try and change for the sake of your relationship or marriage, you should seriously think about whether they deserve you. Ask yourself if that\u2019s the life you want to keep living and make a smart decision for yourself. Put yourself first, and choose to be happy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Living with a narcissistic partner can be a chore, but the aforementioned tips can help you turn it into something better that\u2019s worth fighting for. But regardless of whether your partner decides to improve, or you choose to move out of your relationship, remember that you deserve love and happiness. Let that guide you, and you\u2019ll emerge victorious.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Having a narcissist as a partner can be extremely challenging. Narcissists think that the world revolves around them, and they often get close to someone only for their own wish-fulfillment. 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