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When I was a child, my parents would ask me, \u201cWhat do you want to be when you grow up?\u201d and I would reply \u201cHappy!\u201d Somewhere I have always known that if I was happy, everything else in my life would work. However, for many of us happiness seems just out of reach, like a place we will all \u2018get to\u2019 one day when certain conditions are met: maybe when we find the perfect relationship, when we\u2019re earning a certain amount of money, or when we\u2019ve reached our ideal body shape.<\/p>\n

Ironically, seeing happiness as a destination is the very thing that keeps it so elusive. In truth, you can choose to be happy, for no reason! It\u2019s a space of being, something you are, and it\u2019s not as complicated as we\u2019ve been led to believe. Let\u2019s take a closer look.<\/p>\n

A New Perspective on Happiness<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s about your point of view<\/strong><\/p>\n

Your point of view creates your reality, reality does not create your point of view. This is a vital element in finding your happy and creating your life. Being happy comes first: it\u2019s the catalyst for creating the life you truly desire, and accessing all of the experiences, people, possessions and situations you\u2019d like to have in your life. What if all it takes to be happy, is to alter your perspective? Which bring us to\u2026<\/p>\n

It never looks the way you expect! <\/strong><\/p>\n

A lot of us have fixed ideas about what happiness will look like for us. What does it look like for you? Take a second to think about it. Now, is it really your idea of happy, or could you have absorbed it from your parents, teachers, friends or even the media? What if what would make YOU truly happy looks entirely different? When you allow yourself to be happy now<\/em> amazing things can show up and yes \u2014 they might take you to whatever you pictured at the top of this paragraph \u2014 or they might take you somewhere even greater.<\/p>\n

Being happy is not selfish <\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s common to think that doing more of what you love makes you selfish. But consider this: can you contribute more to the world and people in it when you\u2019re happy, or when you\u2019re unhappy?<\/p>\n

Money is not the key to happiness <\/strong><\/p>\n

If you made the choice to be happy, then you wouldn\u2019t have any problems and the money would show up. Happiness is where your potency lies. This is such a big one. When you\u2019re happy, you have the power to change anything. If you\u2019re anxious about money, finding love, raising your kids, losing weight \u2014 anything at all \u2014 happiness is the space from where you can change any of that. Ever notice that when you\u2019re happy, everything just works out? As if by magic?<\/p>\n

6 Ways to Choose Happiness \u2014 Today<\/strong><\/p>\n

What lights you up?<\/strong> Find out what lights you up and do it daily. Hang out in nature, visit that friend who you feel great around, go window shopping, create, watch your favorite movie. Treat yourself, take a day trip somewhere you love, or buy a donut and eat it in the sun.<\/p>\n

A lot of us lose touch with what makes us happy over the years.<\/strong> If that\u2019s you, ask yourself: What is it that makes me happy, that I\u2019ve never acknowledged?<\/em><\/p>\n

Say this out loud:<\/strong> All of life comes to me with ease, and joy and glory. <\/em>Say it ten times. In fact, say it ten times every morning, and every evening. It will invite ease and joy and an exuberance of living into your whole life, the good the bad and the ugly. Who doesn\u2019t want that?<\/p>\n

What if you lived every day as a celebration?<\/strong> Reach into your wardrobe and wear that special dress or shirt you\u2019re saving for the perfect occasion. Prepare that meal you love to cook for guests \u2014 just for you. And eat it on the dinnerware you\u2019re saving for Christmas. If not now, when?<\/p>\n

Be willing to be different.<\/strong> Here\u2019s the deal, you can either be wrong, or you can be joyful. Choosing to be happy, despite the world around you, is actually a radical choice! It rejects the dominant world view that happiness is conditional. Making this choice is stepping away from being normal or fitting in. It\u2019s inspiring \u2014 and it inspires others to choose happiness, too.<\/p>\n

Move your body:<\/strong> There\u2019s a reason this is recommended by doctors the world over \u2014 physical exercise releases endorphins, giving you that beautiful, natural sense of happiness that comes with a side helping of vitality. Put your favourite playlist on and move your body! And, if you\u2019re happy, could you let your face know it? If you don\u2019t, your body never knows it\u2019s actually happy! Just saying!<\/p>\n

Happiness is actually your natural state. Once you start accessing more of it, a momentum is set in motion, and more and more will show up with ease.<\/p>\n

Get Happy & Stay There! \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s a question: has anyone ever got mad at you for being happy? I\u2019ve definitely experienced this. Why do people do it? Because when someone is happy, they can\u2019t be controlled. When others get dramatic, traumatic, angry or sad when you\u2019re happy, they might be doing it in a effort to contract your happiness and take it away.<\/p>\n

Recognize you\u2019re not wrong. You don\u2019t have to earn being happy or prove yourself. Your happy is your own \u2014 it looks different to mine, to your lover\u2019s, and to your most treasured friend\u2019s. No one else\u2019s happiness is bigger or more important than yours.<\/p>\n

If you make the choice to be happy today, what could your life be like this time next year? What about five years, or ten?<\/p>\n

Would you like to find out?<\/p>\n

Dr.\u00a0Dain\u00a0Heer<\/em>\u00a0<\/em><\/a>is a bestselling author and internationally renowned speaker. He is a co-creator and leading facilitator of\u00a0Access Consciousness\u00ae, a personal development modality available in more than 170 countries that has contributed to changing the lives of tens of thousands of people.\u00a0<\/strong>Dr.\u00a0Heer\u00a0draws upon his personal background and unique perspective to facilitate positive change in the world, and to empower people from every culture, country, age and social strata to create the life they truly desire. For more information on his latest book, Return of the Gentleman, visit:\u00a0<\/em>https:\/\/returnofthegentleman.com\/<\/em><\/a>. Follow <\/em>Dain<\/em><\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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