{"id":6446,"date":"2011-06-08T20:17:58","date_gmt":"2011-06-09T04:17:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=6446"},"modified":"2013-09-10T12:39:06","modified_gmt":"2013-09-10T20:39:06","slug":"how-to-silence-your-inner-critic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/how-to-silence-your-inner-critic\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Silence Your Inner Critic"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Inner Critic?\u00a0 Are you there?\u00a0 I can\u2019t hear you?\u00a0 Must be a bad connection\u2026\u00a0 CLICK! <\/strong><\/p>\n

I never read movie reviews. Sometimes this means I make mistakes and see things like \u201cJust Go With It\u201d. (I know, I know.) Still, I like to make up my own mind and not have someone tell me whether or not something is worthy of my time. Also, it\u2019s easy to avoid reading movie reviews. I just turn the page or click on another tab. But it\u2019s not as easy to navigate away from the Inner Critic. That\u2019s the part of ourselves that\u2019s made up of all the negative message we got from our teachers, parents, peers and other authority figures we met growing up. The Inner Critic has a direct line into our heart because it was made by many of the people we cared about most. But the good news is, when this oversized, outdated bully dials us up, we can learn to hang up the phone.<\/p>\n

The first thing we have to learn is when the Inner Critic is calling. She usually rings in when we\u2019re struggling with an issue or doing something new and unfamiliar. What\u2019s difficult in your life today? Dating? Starting a new career? Moving to a different city? Whatever it is, jot it down. Give it some attention and see how it makes you feel. Next, keep a little notebook with you at all times and write down what you hear every time you\u2019re dealing with this struggle. This might be a little tough at first- we\u2019re not used to listening to the voices behind our thoughts. But the more you pay attention, the more you\u2019ll hear your Inner Critic.<\/p>\n

After doing this for a while and learning what kind of messages you\u2019re getting, it\u2019s helpful to see if you can remember when you\u2019ve heard those words before.\u00a0 Like that mean girl in your High-School gym class, the Inner Critic loves to repeat bad news. So, if your Inner Critic is telling you, \u201cYou\u2019ll fail at starting a new business just like you failed math in 8th<\/sup> grade\u201d, it\u2019s time to see who shamed you about that in the first place. This is a great way of learning that the cruel self-talk that the Inner Critic encourages, is based on lies and false equivalents. Your battles with Algebra have nothing to do with your dream of being a restaurateur. But the Inner Critic doesn\u2019t want you to know that. Soon however, your new tools of listening and writing will lead you to the sources of the Inner Critic\u2019s power. Surprise, you\u2019ve got caller ID.<\/p>\n

Now that you\u2019ve got a good handle on when the Inner Critic is calling and what it\u2019s saying, you can begin to interrupt the connection.\u00a0 When you find yourself vulnerable and the negative inner-chatter is ramping up, you\u2019ll know it. Replace those voices with simple truths. For example, if your Inner Critic likes to harass you about your appearance, it\u2019s possible to stop it in its tracks by listing some of the qualities you love most about you. Don\u2019t try and replace \u201cYou\u2019re fat\u201d with \u201cI\u2019m a supermodel!\u201d- it won\u2019t work. The trick is to tell ourselves things we already believe.\u00a0 Try, \u201cI have a beautiful smile\u201d or \u201cI\u2019m doing a great job losing weight every week.\u201d These things are accessible, immediate and best of all- true.<\/p>\n

The world wants you to give the best of who you are. The world needs your unique magic! The Inner Critic however, would like to see you tied up all day on the mental telephone with her. Sorry, but that bill is just too expensive. It\u2019s time to hang up- and change your number.<\/p>\n

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