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\u201cWhen you are courting a nice girl an hour seems like a second. When you sit on a red-hot cinder a second seems like an hour. That\u2019s relativity.\u201d \u2013 Albert Einstein<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Growing old with the person you love is a dream for most people. It\u2019s a relationship goal you may be hoping to achieve, but let\u2019s state the obvious: it takes a hell of a lot of time and commitment.<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure at this point you have heard a lot of (unsolicited) relationship advice from your friends and family. Perhaps you don\u2019t even know what is trustworthy and what is not anymore!<\/span><\/p>\n

One of the most authoritative sources we have as humans is science. Science can give us definitive answers where nothing else does. It\u2019s a source we can use to find answers to some of life\u2019s greatest questions. Including those regarding our long-term romantic relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n

To help you make it to the big 5-0 anniversary, here are seven science-based tips you can use in your marriage (or committed relationship). <\/span><\/p>\n

Idealize your partner<\/b><\/h2>\n

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A <\/span>research study<\/span><\/a> published in <\/span>Psychological Science<\/span><\/i> found that couples who had idealized images of their partners were happier in their marriage than those who had more realistic expectations. This seems like the opposite of everything you have been told about having relationship expectations, right?<\/span><\/p>\n

Science has shown that this \u201cidealizing\u201d is not necessarily about holding your partner up to a high standard that will ultimately lead them to disappoint you. It\u2019s actually more about convincing yourself they are the perfect fit for you. If you persuade yourself they are the absolute best person for you, you will feel totally fulfilled with who they are. And that means a happy, long-lasting relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

Seek self-growth<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"self-growth<\/p>\n

This also may seem like a counterintuitive tip, but once again science has proven common sense wrong. <\/span>An article in the New York Times<\/span><\/a> explains that relationships are most fulfilling when each person is allowed to grow as an individual. Each partner needs to put their focus on themselves, rather than the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

Each of you should feel comfortable being yourself with each other, even if you change throughout your relationship. If you focus on self-growth, your partner will be there to help and support you through this process, as you will for them. You are two individual and unique people who are fit for each other.<\/span><\/p>\n

Truly commit to your marriage<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"commitment\"<\/p>\n

This one might seem a bit obvious: Minimal effort won\u2019t cut it in marriage. If you\u2019re in it for the long haul, it will require real commitment. <\/span>Research<\/span><\/a> indicates how significant commitment is in a romantic relationship. Being committed means that the intention behind your behavior within a relationship is long-term oriented. Your actions serve the long-term interest of you both as a couple, not your short-term self-interest. <\/span><\/p>\n

Commitment shows in many aspects, from being there through the hard times to celebrating the important milestones, like <\/span>wedding anniversaries<\/span><\/a>. Spend time with your partner, listen to them, ask them about their day and make sure they do the same for you. Don\u2019t take the moments you are together for granted, and work towards making them count.<\/span><\/p>\n

Communicate Effectively<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"communication<\/p>\n

Every person has their own way of communicating, and every couple has created their own style of communicating with each other. But what is important is the effectiveness of communication in your relationship. You should each be able to express your own feelings and opinions while also being able to listen to your partners\u2019. A study by <\/span>Lavner, J.A. & Bradbury<\/span><\/i> pointed towards communication being an even greater influence on marital bliss (and respectively, marital misery) than commitment, personality traits or stressful life events. <\/span><\/p>\n

When problems arise, you and your partner should communicate in a way that will lead to a solution, not a bigger problem. Learning effective and productive communication will help you both stop viewing an argument as an individual battle to win, but rather as something you can work on together.<\/span><\/p>\n

Have sex<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"intimacy\"<\/p>\n

Okay, so obviously how much (or little) sex you and your partner have is entirely your own personal preference, but here are the scientific facts – <\/span>the more sex, the better. <\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

Scientists call this effect an \u201cafterglow,\u201d which pretty much refers to the happiness and bond you feel after having sex. This feeling can last up to two days. So if you would like to always feel this \u201cafterglow,\u201d then the solution is to have sex fairly often. So turn that phone off, and get busy!<\/span><\/p>\n

Do not overdrink<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"alcohol<\/p>\n

How often you go boozing is up to you, but it is essential to know that the amount of alcohol you consume affects your partner and your marriage. <\/span>Studies have been done<\/span><\/a> on couples with different drinking habits and found when one partner drinks significantly more than the other, the relationship becomes strained over time.<\/span><\/p>\n

You and your partner are more likely to stay together if you both have the same attitude toward alcohol. If you both love it, then you have a great thing to bond over. If your partner does not drink, but you do, you may need to cut back a little. It will help to make them feel more comfortable. It’s a lifestyle choice that you should be on the same page about, whether that is for or against it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Do exciting things together<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"couple<\/p>\n

Spending time together is important, but even that can start to feel like a chore. Especially if you constantly go to the same restaurant or visit the same shopping mall. <\/span>A study has proven <\/span><\/a>that a great way to keep a relationship going is to try new things and seek thrills with your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n

Trying new foods, going hiking, taking a class together and anything else new and exciting releases dopamine in your brain. This is the same chemical you feel at the beginning of a relationship. It keeps that spark alive and keeps you feeling like you did when you first met each other. <\/span><\/p>\n

Making a marriage last is probably one of the hardest jobs a human can do. Life gets messy and can push people apart. But with a little bit of science to help, you can fight to keep yours going. \u2018Til death do you part\u2019. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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