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Experts talk about the pros and cons of cash gifts, earned money, dole outs, and allowances. Parents wonder, which is right for their families. We\u00a0may be\u00a0missing the bigger picture. How our children get spending money is irrelevant. It\u2019s what they learn about money that matters.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When we say we want our children to know about money, what do we mean? Do we mean we want them to know how-to make it and how-to spend it? If we teach them the why<\/em> we make money and why<\/em> we spend money, they will know how-to<\/em>.<\/p>\n

If money is the end, there will never be enough. If money is a means, there will be plenty.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It is not necessary for children to have their own money to learn to manage money.<\/strong> They are learning by everything\u00a0we do \u2013 how\u00a0we hide it, how\u00a0we spend it, if\u00a0we share it, and if\u00a0we waste it. The subliminal message is transferred with the money.<\/p>\n

When we give with conditions, pay the bills begrudgingly, or spend whimsically; when we harbor, hide, or compromise, we spread the fear.\u00a0 When we give without conditions and spend from conscious choices, we\u00a0spread the peace.\u00a0 Living a fear-less life requires us to be\u00a0a Peaceful Chief Financial Officer.<\/p>\n

We are the CFOs of our money, our homes, and our businesses. There are two types of CFOs \u2013 the peaceful CFO and the paranoid CFO. The peaceful CFO manages money with love; the paranoid CFO manages money from fear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n
<\/td>\nPeaceful CFO<\/strong><\/td>\nParanoid CFO<\/strong><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Purpose<\/strong><\/td>\nEarns, Saves, Spends with Purpose<\/td>\nSpends without purpose; Never has enough<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Creativity<\/strong><\/td>\nThinks Both-And; Growth Mindset<\/td>\nThinks Either-Or; Fixed Mindset; entitlement<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Influence<\/strong><\/td>\nWonders \u201chow\u201d can I afford that<\/td>\nThinks I \u201ccan\u2019t\u201d afford that<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Love<\/strong><\/td>\nEarns money from highest self<\/td>\nCompromises highest self for money<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Authenticity<\/strong><\/td>\nPromotes worthiness and value of self and others<\/td>\nUnworthy, undervalued, victim to justify cheating<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Trust<\/strong><\/td>\nOpen to receiving new opportunities<\/td>\nSees only obstacles to growth<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Connection<\/strong><\/td>\nThinks Big \u2013 Chooses to help thousands of people<\/td>\nOne for all \u2013 There is no succession plan<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n

Are you a peaceful CFO or a paranoid CFO? A peaceful CFO creates; a paranoid CFO hordes. This is not to say paranoids don\u2019t have money. They may have lots of money. And, they are attached to it. They are always fearful they may lose it. A peaceful CFO knows there is plenty \u2013 enough to share and more to make.<\/p>\n

When we are peaceful, it is always from our highest self. The peaceful mindset is \u201chow can I expand the pie.\u201d\u00a0 When we are paranoid, our highest self can be compromised with fear. Paranoid fear can come in the form of achieving, conforming, and performing. The fear mindset is \u201cthere is a limited supply, and I must get my piece of the pie before it is all gone.\u201d<\/p>\n

As a Life Entrepreneur, conscious parent, and a business owner, I am teaching my children about money by means of practical life.<\/strong> We talk about money at home. We use real numbers and real life \u2013 how much we earn and how we get paid, what we spend it on, and what we save.<\/p>\n

When my 4 year old wants a plastic gadget off the dollar isle, and I say no, I always include the why I say no.\u00a0 It is more than, \u201cNo.\u201d\u00a0 I communicate that it is not about my power or just because. I simply state, \u201cWe don\u2019t need that and we are here to only buy useful things.\u201d It has never failed me; my children have never had a temper tantrum in a store over stuff.<\/p>\n

Our oldest daughter has outgrown her bicycle. We were talking about getting a new bike and she asked how much one costs. When I told her, she thought for a moment and knew how many hours dad would work for her bike. I thought that was pretty cool. It doesn\u2019t matter who pays for it. Our money is her money. She recognizes the value of life used in exchange to have something. She values time; she will never waste money.<\/p>\n

I am training my children to be peaceful CFOs of their own money, lives, and businesses.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Give and you shall receive.
\n\u2022 Create more; consume less.
\n\u2022 Don\u2019t waste your resources.
\n\u2022 We have a life of plenty.<\/p>\n

Michelle is a Life Entrepreneur:\u00a0 wife, mother of 3, triathlete, and advocate of life, love, and learning.\u00a0 One the side, she is a business owner, volunteer, and holds a Master of Social Work.\u00a0 She writes about conscious parenting and simplified living at <\/span>My Child’s Gardener<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

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