{"id":60737,"date":"2018-11-06T20:06:23","date_gmt":"2018-11-07T04:06:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=60737"},"modified":"2018-11-08T19:09:38","modified_gmt":"2018-11-09T03:09:38","slug":"we-all-have-scars-let-go-of-your-childhoods-pain","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/we-all-have-scars-let-go-of-your-childhoods-pain\/","title":{"rendered":"We All Have Scars: Let Go of your Childhood’s pain"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Between the moment we are born, to the moment we reach adulthood, many of us experience incredible, profound pain.<\/p>\n

Some of us have been sexually, physically, or psychologically abused\u200a\u2014\u200aand then\u00a0left to pick up the pieces on our own.<\/em><\/p>\n

In the most vulnerable and sensitive stage of our lives, we\u2019ve been exposed to the deep flaws of those around us. And with that, our deep innocence and natural reverence for life has been buried into the pits of our psyches.<\/p>\n

But however far our primordial innocence and reverence for life has been lodged away, for most of us, our innate attitudes towards life are still recoverable.<\/p>\n

And our past doesn\u2019t have to decide our future.<\/p>\n

Life can still be worth loving.<\/p>\n

The Kind of Experiences We Collectively Go\u00a0Through<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Right now, there are daughters who are experiencing the feeling of being unloved to their very core by their parents.<\/p>\n

In the last hour, countless kids have been violently hit by a parent for a simple, innocent mistake they\u2019ve made.<\/p>\n

Right now, there\u2019s an autistic kid in school who is being picked on by everyone in his classroom.<\/p>\n

What Kind of Adults Will These Abused Children Grow\u00a0Into?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Today, teenagers who have been bullied year after year, have been told to go out into the world and\u00a0\u2018make something of themselves\u2019,\u00a0<\/strong>with the slippery foundation of a past story that makes them feel\u00a0deeply subconsciously inadequate.<\/em><\/p>\n

And let\u2019s not forget the many who have been abused at home.<\/p>\n

In 2016, according to Childrensrights.org, there were 4.1 million reports of child maltreatment in the United States involving more than\u00a07.4 million children.<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

It will be much harder for many of these individuals to move forward in their life in the way they want, if they\u2019re being dragged down by the past.<\/p>\n

Not everyone ends up getting the help they need. Not everyone ends up doing the work to heal their past. And for many, they \u2018manage\u2019 (just about) without any sort of intervention.<\/p>\n

But life isn\u2019t about\u00a0managing<\/em>.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s about\u00a0thriving, and living closer to our potential.<\/em><\/p>\n

If you have scars from the past, you\u2019re not alone. And the feeling of not being alone, can at the very least, bring some semblance of solace.<\/p>\n

But it\u2019s not enough.<\/p>\n

Modern Self Improvement Negates the\u00a0Past<\/strong><\/h3>\n

With the virality of motivational videos from people like Eric Thomas, Gary Vaynerchuck, and Tony Robbins, we\u2019ve been told that the way to a better life is through hard work + strategy + hustle.<\/p>\n

And while there is plenty of wisdom and value in some of the common ideas shared on success today,\u00a0the common rhetoric about living a good life, is often void of a holistic understanding of what shapes us as human beings.<\/strong><\/p>\n

For many of us, very little will help us move forward in a significant way -until we\u2019ve healed our past. A garden can\u2019t grow until it\u2019s roots have been tended to. A soil patch can\u2019t grow thriving luscious wildflowers if it\u2019s devoid of nourishment.<\/p>\n

Stepping back and looking back at the story of our lives, and how that story is shaping our identity today, is perhaps the most productive thing we could ever do.\u00a0It\u2019s the metaphorical equivalent to tending to our roots.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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After All\u200a\u2014\u200aHere Are The Symptoms of Childhood Traumas<\/strong><\/h3>\n