{"id":54022,"date":"2017-12-19T20:16:58","date_gmt":"2017-12-20T04:16:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=54022"},"modified":"2017-12-21T20:44:39","modified_gmt":"2017-12-22T04:44:39","slug":"6-relationship-killers-every-couple-should-avoid","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/6-relationship-killers-every-couple-should-avoid\/","title":{"rendered":"6 Relationship Killers Every Couple Should Avoid"},"content":{"rendered":"
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According to studies, most couples have their first divorce by the age of 30. These same studies suggest that most marriages don`t last more than eight years and that one of every two marriages in America ends in divorce.<\/p>\n

These studies and surveys simply mean that our relationship management sucks. As a generation, we can no longer understand or tolerate each other. We live in our own heads and nobody taught us how to nurture close relationships or manage conflicts without ruining them.<\/p>\n

For that, I`ve compiled you a list of the six deadliest relationship mistakes, according to John Gottman, relationship expert, and bestselling author of The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Mistake #1: Being caught up in your own bubble<\/h2>\n

This means you no longer pay attention to the emotional needs of the other person because you`re so caught up in your own life, that you no longer prioritize the relationship or stop to think about your partner`s needs.<\/p>\n

According to Gottman, you have to stop every now and then and ask, ‘What are my most important relationships, and what do I want from each of them?’ Am I in it for the love and intimacy or am I in it to acquire something or prove that I`m always right?\u2019 If you make it a habit to stop and ask such questions, then you`ll always have time to save a relationship before it stalls.<\/p>\n

Mistake #2: Fighting the wrong way<\/h2>\n

All couples, friends, or partners get mad at each other and sometimes fight. The difference, however, between good and broken relationships is the way the two sides handle such fights.<\/p>\n

This, according to experts, is a matter of choosing your words. Pick the right ones, and things will likely end on good terms. Pick the wrong words, however, and the barrier between you and the other person will grow inches taller. According to Gottman, there are three steps to make sure your conflicts are as clean as they should be:<\/p>\n