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We all go through something in life we never wanted, desired, or thought even possible. If it hasn\u2019t happened to you yet, well, consider yourself lucky and forewarned; something will happen one day, and you might want to have read these tips. Whether it\u2019s coping with not having internet or cell phone reception for a week, (something unthinkable to so many this day and age), embracing a new life direction due to drastic job change, family dynamic, or even something like me, with a life threatening mystery illness, there is one common denominator: you have to get through it. And you\u00a0can<\/em>\u00a0and will get through it; the\u00a0how\u00a0you get through it, is entirely up to you.<\/p>\n

Here are my 5 lessons from going through my own intense health battles for the past decade and\u00a0a half, resulting from a mystery illness and a sense of humor that simply refuses to give up in the midst of it all.<\/p>\n

5 Steps For Embracing Something You Never Wanted<\/strong><\/h2>\n

\u2022 1. Side step the fact that you never wanted it<\/strong>. Don\u2019t try to accept it or cope with it; just step around it.\u00a0Often what makes something so unacceptable is the shocking contrast to the current,\u00a0acceptable\u00a0circumstances we are in. The acceptable life compared to the unacceptable life can seem too big a leap to grasp, reconcile, cope with. So, don\u2019t try at first. Allow yourself to be in shock by simply going around the news. This way you have a little time to let the new reality sink into your mentality before actually dealing with it.<\/p>\n

\u2022 2.\u00a0Find something outrageously positive about it<\/strong>\u2014even if the reasoning might be slightly skewed.\u00a0It\u2019s a scientific law of nature that there is an equal and opposite element to every being. So, after the unacceptable has been able to seep into your consciousness, try to find some light to shed on it so it becomes as positive as can be. Perhaps you could compare it to something that would be way worse.<\/p>\n

For example: my illness has left my body with terrible veins, a real difficulty as blood work is a necessity for my survival. One time, when I was having a particularly sick bout, I had a doctor take 3 hours of continuously poking me trying to find a vein that could hold an IV line to give me antibiotics necessary to save my life. In a particularly long \u201cfishing\u201d expedition of his needle deep in my arm, my positive thinking of was how much I would rather be in this scenario than at a banquet of a picnic that was covered in ants.\u00a0That would really suck.<\/p>\n

\u2022 3. Become a salesman<\/strong>\u2014 pitch the positive perspective to your friends, family, and self.\u00a0Time is passing, the acid taste in your mouth piles up every time you think of the unacceptable you are trying to avoid. Yet, it has slowly been turning into a part of your consciousness, and your outrageous comparable are slowing making the unacceptable seem an actual existence. You are bravely trying to put your chin up and somehow go forward. Not yet coping with it or even embracing it, more co-existing with it.<\/p>\n

Now you need to sell it to everyone<\/em>. Those who are closest to you will see the act of your sharing all the positives for what it is\u2014an act (or at least we like to believe they do). If you can convince everyone, slowly, you might even start convincing yourself that this will somehow be survivable, maybe even okay. Perhaps you can even find pleasure in the act of trying to convince yourself of the positive. Sometimes the more ludicrous, the more amusing it can be\u2014try it<\/em>!<\/p>\n

\u2022 4.\u00a0The Time of Acceptance Has Arrived.<\/strong>\u00a0No, you never wanted it; yes, the positive reasons are outrageous. Life the beautiful way you imagined, knew, is no longer an option\u2014maybe only for a time, maybe forever; who really knows? But you\u2019re here; you can choose to be miserable, or choose to embrace this change and experience it to the fullest. *Remember, choosing to embrace the journey to the fullest doesn\u2019t mean that you need to be positive, doesn\u2019t mean that it will be all sunshine and daisies; it simply means that you will be fully alive, fully aware, and fully present.<\/strong> It\u2019s your choice.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\u2022 5.\u00a0\u00a0It\u2019s Your Choice; Your Power; Your Decision.<\/strong>\u00a0You always have a choice. Even if you hate the circumstances, didn\u2019t choose them, didn\u2019t deserve it, whatever; it\u2019s your choice in how you get through it. With bitterness, delight, tears, or laughter, or a combination in between\u2014it\u2019s your choice. You are not a victim, your life is not a result whim of Life\u2019s folly; you do have a say in how you act, how you express, how you live this moment. There in lies the power within you.<\/p>\n

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Cecilia Baldwin, Living As A Mystery Girl. After becoming a quadriplegic due to an unknown illness at just 15, Cecilia has spent the next 15 years fighting to recover what best her body could, search for answers, endure through misdiagnoses, cancer, and maintain her quirky sense of humor. With an amazing support system, super-hero Mom who is also her primary care giver, and faithful service dog at her side, she strives to not only survive but to thrive. You can follow her on her blog at : www.livingasamystery.com\u00a0<\/a>or on Twitter at @living<\/a>amystery<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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