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It\u2019s amazing how much we all spend on beauty \u2013 hair styles, makeup, manicures, waxes, diet products, stylish clothing. I went to get a makeover the other day and could not believe the cost of all the skin products to clean my skin! That was even before we got to the point of covering it up with beauty products! Call me old-fashioned (or call me cheap) but good old soap and water works just fine for me.<\/p>\n

And while women may spend a lot on beauty products, men do their share of spending in order to up their sex-appeal quotient. I\u2019ve known more than a few men who talk about buying a car meant to impress the ladies \u2013 a \u201cchick magnet.\u201d \u00a0Fancy cars may impress some women (gold diggers!) but I think most of men and women alike are attracted to certain characteristics that don\u2019t cost a penny.<\/p>\n

So here are 3 Free Sexy Secrets:<\/p>\n

Confidence<\/strong><\/p>\n

Confidence is one of the most attractive traits someone can have. If you ever watched the movie, \u201cThe Full Monty,\u201d you may have noticed the transformation of a group of somewhat ordinary men to a group of very sexy performers, once they had confidence. Now sure, it\u2019s just a movie, but in my experience, this phenomenon is absolutely true in real life.\u00a0 I have known plenty of people who might be rated low on HotOrNot.com, but were very popular and attractive because of their confident personalities.<\/p>\n

Of course, there\u2019s a fine line between confidence and arrogance. As attractive as I find confidence, I find arrogance equally unattractive. What\u2019s the difference? An arrogant person will act as though he is better than others. She may gossip or put others down in order to elevate her own status. He may spend most of his time telling you all about his accomplishments without any interest in yours. Arrogance may seem like confidence, but my belief is that it\u2019s a form of insecurity \u2013 the opposite of confidence. Arrogant people need to prove their worth by putting others down or by talking about themselves. Confident people feel good enough about themselves that they don\u2019t need validation from others. They also make a point of helping others feel good, too. It\u2019s an \u201cI\u2019m OK, You\u2019re OK\u201d attitude.<\/p>\n

A Genuine Smile<\/strong><\/p>\n

I read once in Men\u2019s Health<\/em> that women notice a man\u2019s abs first. I don\u2019t know how many women the writer interviewed to come up with this little factoid, but I have never heard of a single woman who said they were attracted first to a guy\u2019s abs.\u00a0 First of all, where are these women hanging out? Unless we\u2019re around the beach, pool, or \u2026 ok, maybe watching a performance like \u201cThe Full Monty\u201d\u2026 we don\u2019t even get to see a stranger\u2019s abs.<\/p>\n

So what do we notice first? Well, for me, it is absolutely the smile. Whether you\u2019re trying to attract a romantic partner or a friend, nothing beats a smile for putting someone at ease. If it\u2019s natural and genuine, you\u2019ll be seen as positive and friendly. Who wouldn\u2019t be attracted to that?<\/p>\n

But a smile is just the start. \u00a0If there\u2019s a true rapport between two people, the smile will lead to laughter, and who amongst us doesn\u2019t feel a high when we meet someone who laughs at our jokes?<\/p>\n

Show Your Interest<\/strong><\/p>\n

I once read that the single-biggest reason we like someone is because we think they like us. I don\u2019t remember where I read this, but unlike the comment about the abs in Men\u2019s Health, this is something I agree with.\u00a0 It feels really good when we think someone is interested in what we have to say or admires us, or again, laughs at our jokes.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s funny, but many people do not openly express their interest in others for fear of rejection. They feel that if they tell someone new how much they like them, the recipient may back away or not return that interest. While it\u2019s true, you may not want to go overboard with your admiration too soon, everyone likes to hear nice things about themselves and they usually feel very grateful for the compliment.\u00a0 If you are attracted to someone and they don\u2019t feel the same way, it\u2019s no reason to feel embarrassed or rejected.\u00a0 They still are most likely going to be very flattered and grateful for the attention you\u2019ve given them.\u00a0 But, more often than not, especially if your interest is not needy or dependent on their reciprocation, you will find that they are just as interested in you as you are in them.<\/p>\n

Three sexy secrets, all free.\u00a0 Have confidence, smile and show your interest to those around you. You will undoubtedly attract everyone you meet.<\/p>\n

Guest blogger Yvette Francino is the author of The Laptop Dancer Diaries: A Mostly True Story about Finding Love Again<\/a>. She currently is hosting The Love Project at http:\/\/singleagainonlinediary.blogspot.com<\/a> where she gives monthly exercises designed to give and receive love.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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