{"id":51203,"date":"2017-09-02T19:50:48","date_gmt":"2017-09-03T03:50:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=51203"},"modified":"2017-09-12T14:08:44","modified_gmt":"2017-09-12T22:08:44","slug":"trick-others-into-thinking-that-youre-an-extrovert","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/trick-others-into-thinking-that-youre-an-extrovert\/","title":{"rendered":"4 Ways To Trick Others Into Thinking That You\u2019re An Extrovert"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Is it just me or does it seem like this world was imagined, custom built and modified for extroverts? <\/span><\/p>\n

Technology can only get so far in minimizing human interaction to the deliveryman, the person at the final window in the drive-thru and a magical thing called, \u201cThe Internet\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n

For the rest of the time, you will have to deal with people\u2026 If you\u2019re a budding entrepreneur or someone who wants to move ahead in life, you have to network!<\/span><\/p>\n

So what can an introvert do in a networking setting to minimize discomfort?<\/span><\/p>\n

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  1. \n

    Have a game-plan<\/span><\/h1>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    You don\u2019t have to automatically get in the middle of the room, pick a crowd and start hobnobbing. You could, if you wanted to, but you should ease your way into the room and scope the place out. <\/span><\/p>\n

    If there\u2019s an open bar, maybe head there first, and who knows, you might start conversing with someone while you\u2019re there. <\/span><\/p>\n

    Pretend that you\u2019re a lion trying to make a kill and you\u2019re looking for the right antelope \u2014 the lion rarely picks the slowest antelope, but moreso the easiest to tire out. Don\u2019t get overwhelmed, scope the room out.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Pro tip:<\/b> Look for someone who is also alone. Getting in with a group that\u2019s already mid-conversation is best reserved for confident networkers. Since we\u2019re doing this to succeed, stick to one person and avoid two people, because they might be having a private conversation.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Once you\u2019ve narrowed in a good target…<\/span><\/p>\n

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    1. \n

      Bring them to you<\/span><\/h1>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      Give this person a gentle smile and lift your eyebrows while nodding. These two actions, nodding and lifting eyebrows, give the other person an impression that you two may have met before. <\/span><\/p>\n

      \u201cPerhaps they don\u2019t remember you, but thank goodness you\u2019re there, because now there\u2019s one more person that they know!\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

      Hold your eye contact and smile. Resist the urge to look away \u2014 this urge is your subconscious mind screaming, \u201cWhat are you doing? We have to get outta here!\u201d Ignore that and keep holding your gaze and smile.<\/span><\/p>\n

      This perfect stranger will now approach you out of curiosity.<\/span><\/p>\n

      Pro tip:<\/b> Try to do this to someone who looks different than you. If you\u2019re female, use this technique on a male and if you\u2019re male and in a multicultural setting, do this to someone of a different race.<\/span><\/p>\n


      \n<\/span>Why?<\/span><\/i> This will prevent people from assuming that you\u2019re having a private conversation, and you\u2019ll attract a large group to your conversation.<\/span><\/p>\n

      3. Let them do the talking <\/span><\/h1>\n

      Now that someone has approached you, their first question is probably going to be, <\/span>\u201cHave we met?\u201d<\/span><\/i> Answer honestly and let them speak if they have something to say. Hand them your business card. <\/span><\/p>\n

      If, based on their business cards, they seem interesting to you, ask them questions based on your natural curiosity, and reciprocate when they ask you something.<\/span><\/p>\n

      If you notice that the conversation is dulling out and you don\u2019t want them to walk on to the next person that they might deem interesting, allow them to do most of the talking. Ask them a question and if they partially answer it, just remain silent and maintain your eye contact. They will continue answering\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

      This technique will make them think that you\u2019re a really good listener and are genuinely interested in their industry, niche or position.<\/span><\/p>\n

      Seeing two very different people engaged in conversation will pique the interest of someone else, perhaps an extroverted networker, and they might approach you.<\/span><\/p>\n

      If they do, you\u2019re almost home-free!<\/span><\/p>\n

      4. Make the group do most, if not all, of the work<\/span><\/h1>\n

      Once you\u2019ve got a good rhythm going, and are now referring to people in your group by their names, allow them to do most of the talking.<\/span><\/p>\n

      If someone tells a joke and everyone in the group starts laughing, whoever that you look at while laughing will build a stronger bond with you, and gain the impression that the two of you are the closest in the group.<\/span><\/p>\n

      You would have made a very strong impression on them, and didn\u2019t have to speak! Allow the new group dynamic to take over.<\/span><\/p>\n

      Being an introvert is not a curse. While others are busy trying to curry one-another\u2019s favor and make impressions, you\u2019re observing and waiting for the perfect opportunity to speak up.<\/span><\/p>\n

      The problem with this approach is that the opportunity may never come.<\/span>
      \n<\/span>Networking is about leaving an impression and taking risks.<\/span><\/p>\n

      Don\u2019t let your fears hold you back from participating in a memorable evening!<\/span><\/p>\n

      Photo credit: Edu Lauton<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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