{"id":5018,"date":"2011-01-26T08:55:02","date_gmt":"2011-01-26T16:55:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=5018"},"modified":"2013-09-03T08:37:44","modified_gmt":"2013-09-03T16:37:44","slug":"the-simple-secret-to-astonishing-success","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/the-simple-secret-to-astonishing-success\/","title":{"rendered":"Day 65: The Simple Secret To Astonishing Success!"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Anyone who knows me knows that I have the greatest respect for my life coach, Tim Brownson. He helped me make the transition from a stay-at-home mom of five boys to becoming a successful writer and content manager. I could go on for pages about his qualifications and training and techniques, but none of that would have done me a bit of good had I not done one simple thing: listened to him.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re reading this post and the 90 Days series, it\u2019s because you want something.<\/p>\n

You want to become more confident, to experience more happiness, and to achieve more success. These are all things that are imminently achievable by each and every one of us and the first step is to listen to those who are there to coach us through it.<\/p>\n

Sounds simple enough, but it doesn\u2019t always come naturally. While we might hear what our coaches are telling us and pay lip service to agreeing with it, we often put up roadblocks to really listening to what is being said.<\/p>\n

First, let me clear up one thing \u2013 this post isn’t just for people who have life coaches.<\/p>\n

Whether you have a formal coaching arrangement, or are working with a mentor, or using self-help materials, listening is the secret to getting the most benefit and starting your trajectory towards success. You could be getting the best advice in the world, but it does you no good, unless you pay attention.<\/p>\n

Absorb what is said, before you argue against it<\/strong><\/p>\n

Has anyone ever started to tell you a story and you realized you weren\u2019t paying attention, because you were thinking of an even better story to tell them when it was your turn?<\/p>\n

It\u2019s human nature to concentrate on what we\u2019ll say but it\u2019s often much more beneficial to us to focus on what others are telling us. This goes double when it\u2019s somebody trying to help us!<\/p>\n

It could very well be that after careful listening and putting some thought into it, that you still disagree with what your coach is saying, but if your first instinct is to react defensively to what you think is being said rather than to listen and glean out the truth and wisdom, you\u2019ll have a difficult time progressing.<\/p>\n

Take the lessons to heart<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s not enough to just listen once and never think about it again, you have to remind yourself of what you\u2019ve learned and look for ways to apply it. All of the encouragement and solid advice that my coach gave me about being more confident would have done me no good had I not believed in it and used it to motivate me to take that first chance.<\/p>\n

I write a lot of humor as a hobby and sometimes I\u2019ll write \u201cletters to my life coach\u201d where I ask him absurd questions and present him with conundrums. The truth is, I often have internal dialogues where I will \u201ctalk\u201d to him and he\u2019ll \u201cremind\u201d me of what I\u2019ve learned. It sounds a bit nutty, and perhaps a bit obsessive, but it beats listening to any of the negative voices I\u2019ve got stored in my head.<\/p>\n

The fact is, we\u2019ve all got conversations going on in our heads at all times and we\u2019d be better off if we could replace that inner critic or nag with an inner life coach.<\/p>\n

If you find yourself resistant<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you have truly opened yourself up to fully listening but still find it difficult to take advice to heart, it\u2019s worth exploring why that might be.<\/p>\n

Do you feel like your coach truly has your best interests at heart? Perhaps you feel like they aren\u2019t listening to you and the advice they are offering is shallow and trite? There is nothing wrong with finding a new coach, mentor, or self help program if you feel like you’re mismatched.<\/p>\n

All of the coaching and advice in the world doesn\u2019t do any good until you make the choice to listen to it. If you can learn to listen to those who want to help you, you\u2019ll be well on your way to achieving astonishing success.<\/p>\n

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Tracy O\u2019Connor blogs about ghostwriting<\/span><\/a>and blogs about living a better life<\/span><\/a>. Follow her on Twitter<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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