{"id":50101,"date":"2017-07-07T20:59:12","date_gmt":"2017-07-08T04:59:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=50101"},"modified":"2017-09-12T14:12:08","modified_gmt":"2017-09-12T22:12:08","slug":"9-things-truly-confident-people-just-dont-do","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/9-things-truly-confident-people-just-dont-do\/","title":{"rendered":"9 Things Truly Confident People Just Don\u2019t Do"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Building your confidence is all about adopting great habits; truly confident people understand that.<\/p>\n

Below are nine habits that you need to give up if you want to reap the tremendous rewards that come from confident living.<\/p>\n

9 Habits that Sabotage Your Confidence:<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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  1. Comparing Yourself with Others. \u00a0<\/strong>Mark Twain said that comparison is the thief of joy. Comparison is also the thief of confidence.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Confident people don\u2019t go around comparing themselves to other people as a measure of how they stack up.\u00a0 Confident people learn from others.\u00a0 They seek mentors and coaches. They make sure they connect with others who can help them grow. \u00a0But, they never, ever get caught up in the comparison trap.<\/p>\n

    When you compare yourself to others, you\u2019re not focused on the unique strengths and talents you have.\u00a0\u00a0 Comparison only undermines your sense of self. It breeds feelings of insecurity and jealousy. It also isn\u2019t effective, as you only get a partial glimpse of reality. When you\u2019re comparing yourself with others, you never know the whole story; hence, what you\u2019re seeing is at best an incomplete picture of others anyway.<\/p>\n

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    1. Living in the Past.<\/strong> You cannot change the past, only learn from it. Confident people are not focused on the past, they\u2019re focused on the present and envisioning what they can create for the future.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      Dwelling on the past \u2026 whether it be on great things that happened or not-so-great things that happened \u2026 robs you of your ability to drink in the opportunities of today. Successful people just don\u2019t do it and if you want to be more confident, neither should you.<\/p>\n

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      1. Needing Others\u2019 Approval.<\/strong> You can\u2019t be an approval junky and be confident at the same time; life just doesn\u2019t work that way.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        If you let another person\u2019s praise be the only thing that lifts you up, then get ready for their criticism to tear you down. Who wants to be on that rollercoaster ride?\u00a0 Not confident people!<\/p>\n

        When you long for the praise and admiration of others, then you\u2019re seeking confidence from outside of you, not within you. Confidence is an inside job.\u00a0 No one can bestow it on you.<\/p>\n

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        1. Indulging in Self-Bashing Self-Talk.<\/strong> Truly confident people take control of their internal dialogue. They use their self-talk to build them up, not tear them down. They affirm their strengths and their capabilities. They affirm positive outcomes in their lives.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

          Do confident people ever have thoughts of self-doubt? \u00a0Of course they do. They just don\u2019t set up a tent and linger there.\u00a0 They understand that uncertainty is a part of being human. They\u2019re not 100{54c12dad2cc2b53ae830e39915b1a3e70288dbcbbeb8bbf8395437c5dc3c512c} \u00a0certain they can always succeed, but they are certain that being brave is better than cowering to internal fears. They understand that positive self-encouragement is the fuel for success, so they never allow themselves to get stuck in ongoing critical self-talk.<\/p>\n

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          1. Resting on Your Laurels.<\/strong> Confident people keep learning and growing and achieving. They celebrate their wins but never rest on their laurels.<\/li>\n
          2. Inaction.<\/strong> \u00a0Confident people are people of action. I could go on and on about this, but isn\u2019t it obvious why action is the hallmark of confidence? \u00a0Confident people aren\u2019t afraid to make things happen, in fact, they insist on it.<\/li>\n
          3. Saying \u201cYes\u201d All the Time.<\/strong> Confident people understand the importance of setting and enforcing healthy boundaries. They understand that saying \u201cNo\u201d is not a bad thing; it\u2019s often necessary and confident people bear no guilt for saying \u201cNo\u201d to others.<\/li>\n
          4. Acting Out of Jealousy. <\/strong>Confident people aren\u2019t jealous of others\u2019 successes. They applaud other\u2019s wins. They celebrate them. Confident people understand that others\u2019 triumphs do not diminish their own accomplishments. Confident people know there is plenty of room for everyone to succeed.<\/li>\n
          5. Stop Learning.<\/strong> Confident people are lifelong learners.\u00a0 (Arrogant people might not be, but never confuse arrogance with confidence; they are NOT the same thing!).<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

            One of the reasons confident people are so confident is that they are continually building their knowledge and skills. Confident people are avid readers. They also attend classes, seminars, and conferences, and join mastermind groups where they can connect and learn at same time.<\/p>\n

            The biggest mistake that confidence seekers make is believing that confidence is bestowed on you one day, and then everything is easier. Confidence comes from refusing to engage in the nine confidence-busting habits listed here and instead choosing to adopt the opposite behavior.<\/p>\n

            Remember, confident people feel fear, they just refuse to accept a life that\u2019s paralyzed by that fear.\u00a0 Instead, they step up and create the lives they want to lead. Feeling confident is not some pipe dream that\u2019s out of reach for you; it\u2019s well within your grasp. All you need to do is adopt the habits of confident people, and soon you\u2019ll be one, too!<\/p>\n

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            J. Marie Novak is an author and Life Transformation Coach. She\u2019s also the founder of Believe And Create, a community that\u2019s grounded in the following mindset:\u00a0 Believe in Yourself and Create the Amazing Life You Were Born to Live. \u00a0Visit www.BelieveAndCreate.com<\/a> to get our free guide. \u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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