{"id":47973,"date":"2017-03-07T20:14:45","date_gmt":"2017-03-08T04:14:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=47973"},"modified":"2017-05-27T08:46:01","modified_gmt":"2017-05-27T16:46:01","slug":"6-ways-to-embrace-jealousy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/6-ways-to-embrace-jealousy\/","title":{"rendered":"6 Ways to Embrace Jealousy"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\u201c<\/strong>Jealousy is the art of counting someone else\u2019s blessings instead of your own<\/strong>.\u201d –<\/strong>\u00a0Unknown<\/strong> \u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

In Mandarin Chinese, \u201ca vinegar jar\u201d is referred to as a person with a jealous nature.
\nAs a recovering perfectionist and an overachiever, taming jealousy has been one of my biggest challenge on the self-discovery journey.<\/p>\n

Truth be told, I had been a giant \u201cvinegar jar\u201d all my life ever since I was little. \u00a0The tiniest situation with minimal threat could spark like a matchstick and prompt a strong, acidic inner fire running through my veins in just a second.\u00a0 It\u2019s like having a built-in radar that can detect any level of external competition going on in the air…<\/p>\n

\u201cWhy can she deserve all the attention and love?!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cLife\u2019s not fair.\u00a0 I work my heart out also, why can\u2019t I get to that same level?!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cShe\u2019s just born lucky\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n

It can go on and on\u2026<\/p>\n

Almost all of us have experienced jealousy at varying degrees at one point or another.\u00a0 And It\u2019s part of being human to experience different emotions.\u00a0 It\u2019s normal to get jealous at people for the things we don\u2019t have yet.\u00a0 But, often, it causes most of the drama in life.\u00a0 The need to measure up can really get into our psyche and make us act bizarrely when we don\u2019t allow ourselves to process this awkward emotion. \u00a0As a result, it sabotages our relationships with others.<\/p>\n

For the sake of looking better than how we really feel inside, we either stuff that jealousy inside or let it turns into resentment.\u00a0 Either way, we are not getting more compensated emotionally.\u00a0 We become unauthentic towards how we truly feel and what we want to express.<\/p>\n

1. Celebrate others\u2019 success like it\u2019s your own<\/strong><\/h2>\n

It\u2019s easier said than done.\u00a0 We are still living in a world of separation.\u00a0 Celebrating for other\u2019s success isn\u2019t a natural behavior in this social structure where we honor outstanding performance through constant competition.\u00a0 But the fact is that we are oneness.\u00a0 When we enable ourselves to celebrate other\u2019s achievements with genuine blessings and open-heartedness, we are at the receiving end as well.<\/p>\n

2. Hone in your unique gift<\/strong><\/h2>\n

As human, we tend to rate our work-in-progress with other brilliant performers who share similar talents or gifts. \u00a0It\u2019s important to remind ourselves not to fall into the comparison trap so we can focus on honing in our crafts and skills with a growth mindset.<\/p>\n

Practice makes proficient, not perfection.\u00a0 When we are aiming to be perfect, it\u2019s easy to dwell on the need to be better and start beating ourselves up for being inadequate.<\/p>\n

Every single one of us is born unique and special in so many different ways.\u00a0 The biggest difference is how much people allow themselves to appreciate and embody their own gifts and talents without getting into the subconscious competition mode.\u00a0 There is only one You.\u00a0 The innate traits in you are non-duplicable.<\/p>\n

When you are willing to be comfortable in your own skin, and not to judge yourself by the social norms, you allow the true self-confidence to shine from within unapologetically.<\/p>\n

3. You have \u201cthat part\u201d to be cultivated<\/strong><\/h2>\n

The fact that it\u2019s so hard to celebrate other people\u2019s success is because of our inner longing for the same thing that we don\u2019t seem to have physically.<\/p>\n

We are energetic beings.\u00a0 When things are really distant from your energy field, you don\u2019t perceive them.\u00a0 But, when you perceive something that stirs up the jealousy in you, it actually means that you are drawing the things approaching your field. Instead of seeing the things as you don\u2019t have them, start looking at it as \u201cthe things you want is coming closer to you.\u201d<\/p>\n

A mantra: \u201cThe more I celebrate for people\u2019s success, the luckier I get.\u201d<\/p>\n

4. Count the blessings<\/strong><\/h2>\n

We need to consciously heal this part of us that are coming from a place of lack.\u00a0 Deep down, we are yearning to be more of who we are.\u00a0 More successful.\u00a0 More empowering. More purposeful in life.\u00a0 More authentic.\u00a0 More self-honoring.<\/p>\n

When you feel the wave of jealousy coming at you, it\u2019s a great opportunity, to be honest with yourself.\u00a0 If the feeling sustains you, or it drains you.<\/p>\n

Daily gratitude is the best tool to heal the scarcity in you.\u00a0 You can use sticky notes to put the word, gratitude everywhere to remind you to count the blessings so your heart can feel nourished.<\/p>\n

The more you are grateful for what you have, the more it comes to you.\u00a0 Don\u2019t go into jealousy for what other people have because that is a block.\u00a0 You tell the Universe that this is what you don\u2019t have.<\/p>\n

5. Exercise compassion<\/strong><\/h2>\n

A negative comment can be a form of jealousy. \u00a0We can develop more compassion towards the situation when receiving negative judgments from other people.\u00a0 Empathy is an awesome healer.\u00a0 Realizing that you probably have something (e.g., physical possessions, talent or gifts) people \u201cdesire to have,\u201d and they don\u2019t yet find the way to have it.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important not to let in these energies as they don\u2019t belong to you.\u00a0 They are merely the projection onto you from others.\u00a0 Understand where these comments are originated from, but continue to believe in yourself and march towards your dreams and goals instead of being hindered.<\/p>\n

6. Open up to authentic communication<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Rather than focusing on the negative vibe that jealousy can put on you, look at it as an opportunity to express your vulnerability. \u00a0Where is this emotional flare-up\u00a0coming from?\u00a0 Is there an underlying fear of loss, abandonment, judgment?<\/p>\n

When we give ourselves permission to talk about the deeper feelings behind jealousy, we become more honest and open with not only ourselves, but it supports us build relationships with greater intimacy.<\/p>\n

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Jen Yang is an Intuitive Self-Love catalyst, an empath, and a\u00a0recovering perfectionist. She is passionate about supporting busy professional women to tune into their own feminine power, to feel confident and enthusiastic about their life, relationships, and work, and to claim back their worth.<\/em><\/p>\n

Website: http:\/\/www.jenyangmetamorphosis.com<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

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