{"id":47553,"date":"2017-03-08T20:20:51","date_gmt":"2017-03-09T04:20:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=47553"},"modified":"2017-05-27T08:46:00","modified_gmt":"2017-05-27T16:46:00","slug":"the-good-fight-how-to-get-closer-through-conflict","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/the-good-fight-how-to-get-closer-through-conflict\/","title":{"rendered":"The Good Fight – How to Get Closer Through Conflict"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Based on the acclaimed book, Peace Q: Increasing the Capacity for Peace Within and Beyond<\/a> by <\/em>Jennifer Freed, PhD<\/a>.<\/h1>\n

Fighting in a relationship is not a big problem. How<\/em> you fight with a mate or a friend is the real issue.\u00a0<\/span>John Gottman<\/a>\u2019s research shows arguments and perpetual issues are healthy in committed relationships as long as couples know how to resolve difficulties as they arise. If you are authentic and honest, you will disagree with your partner, get hurt and be angry at times. Working through hurt and anger are the pathway for true intimacy.<\/p>\n

Couples that report high satisfaction in their relationships know how to work with the inevitable ruptures or disagreements that come up from time to time. These couples can find humor in the reoccurring themes of their arguments.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

On the other hand, making a wall out of anger leads to distance and contempt. Bad habit fighters rarely feel they have resolution or closeness from conflict. They usually live in a world of emotional bruises that never seem to heal.
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Signs of bad fighting habits
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Using five or more of these tactics mans you are eroding healthy relationships and need to learn the good fight. It’s never too late to learn better communication. Here are the signs:<\/p>\n