{"id":44884,"date":"2016-10-17T20:40:45","date_gmt":"2016-10-18T04:40:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=44884"},"modified":"2017-05-27T08:47:50","modified_gmt":"2017-05-27T16:47:50","slug":"live-more-authentically","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/live-more-authentically\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Simplify Life and Live More Authentically"},"content":{"rendered":"
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I have to be upfront with you guys. I\u2019m confused. By just how much pressure we put on ourselves, to be successful in \u201cthe eyes of the world\u201d. Instead of focusing on how to live\u00a0more authentically, we pander to an imaginary audience.<\/p>\n

We play ourselves into a standard that\u2019s been shaped by ethereal, myriad, influences. Just like a puppeteer strings along a puppet, we do the very same thing to ourselves, under the misguiding, subtle guidelines around us.<\/p>\n

We make choices based on what we think <\/em>other people will think, often without even realizing it. But, they don’t care \u2013 not nearly as much we believe. And even if they did, what do you or me owe them?<\/p>\n

Nothing.<\/p>\n

(Note:<\/strong> We focus on other people so much, partly because we haven\u2019t developed full confidence in our self-reliance at work. So, I have a special bonus. Make sure you read all the way to the end to get it.)<\/strong><\/p>\n

We Care Too Much about How we Look<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying it\u2019s always bad to ponder how someone, whether close or distant, will view our actions. But more often than not, it isn\u2019t important. In fact, it can make us leave the better play off the table, out of fear of being ridiculed, judged, or sometimes, even applauded<\/em>.<\/p>\n

We care too much about fitting or being seen <\/em>by this illusory audience. Or we care too much about not being seen <\/em>by this audience. This inherent complexity we struggle with is often at the very root of our bad or \u201cacceptable\u201d decisions.<\/p>\n

We end up:<\/p>\n