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We\u2019ve all been there\u2026that gnawing feeling in the pit of your stomach when you\u2019re about to give a big presentation, fearful that you may blow it.\u00a0 The hesitation that grips your chest when you step into a party and you don\u2019t know a soul, dreading the moment you have to introduce yourself.\u00a0 Most of the time, when we\u2019re out of our comfort zone\u2026it\u2019s uncomfortable!<\/p>\n

For some people, those same situations seem effortless\u2026enjoyable, in fact.<\/p>\n

Ah\u2026yes, the gift of the gab.\u00a0 Some people are born with it, others come to it by practice.\u00a0 But the gift is not the ABILITY to gab, it is the ACTION of communicating.\u00a0 Every person on this planet has a gift to give and when we learn to communicate effectively, we are able to share our gift with the world.<\/p>\n

So, how can it be easier to stand up and start talking?<\/p>\n

1.\u00a0 Give yourself permission to be fabulous.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That\u2019s right, you are the star of your own life and the sooner you start regarding yourself that way, the better.\u00a0 Forget peering at limp People magazines lying around your dentist\u2019s office.\u00a0 The fascination with stardom has left our society crippled.\u00a0 Judging yourself against a photo-shopped lay-out of famous people walking their dogs, simply drains your personal energy.\u00a0 YOU are fabulous, in your own unique way.\u00a0 When you embrace that notion, you create a magnetic presence.\u00a0 TIP: <\/strong>Write down ten things you love and admire about yourself.\u00a0 Read that list everyday. When you focus on your fabulousness, others will too!<\/p>\n

2. <\/strong>\u201c<\/strong>I am an incredible public speaker.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

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This is your new mantra.\u00a0 If you change your story, you change your life.\u00a0 When you think about a public speaking opportunity, this needs to be the first thought popping into your mind.\u00a0 Write this statement on post-its and place it all over your house, your car, anywhere you can see it, as many times a day as possible.\u00a0 You are creating a new imprint in your mind and even if you don\u2019t believe it at first, you will in time.\u00a0 TIP: <\/strong>If you have a negative thought arise, stop yourself and repeat \u201cI am an incredible public speaker.\u201d\u00a0 You are training your mind, and it will take at least two weeks to make the switch.\u00a0 Practice pays off, so stick to it!<\/p>\n

3.\u00a0 Tune In.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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There are opportunities to speak up all the time.\u00a0 When you remove your hesitation about public speaking, you can begin to look for chances to speak at every turn.\u00a0 Why?\u00a0 Because who knows what will come of it?!\u00a0 A new job, a promotion, a new contact\u2026perhaps a new love interest?\u00a0 The possibilities are endless, but you need to regard the effort with JOY, not FEAR.\u00a0 Now that you have trained your mind to think positively about public speaking, you can begin searching for your chance to seize the limelight.\u00a0 TIP:<\/strong> Find at least one opportunity a week (unplanned) to speak your mind.\u00a0 Start with a no pressure situation, like chatting with a stranger, and gradually raise the stakes\u2026a work meeting, an important toast.\u00a0 Make it a game.\u00a0 Trust me, you are already the winner.<\/p>\n

4.\u00a0 Open yourself up to the world.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Head up, shoulders back, and eyes forward.\u00a0 Simple directions that create wonderful results.\u00a0 When your body is open, you silently communicate that you are READY to tackle life\u2019s challenges.\u00a0 You are available to take people in.\u00a0\u00a0 If your arms are crossed, shoulders slouched over, eyes withdrawn, you are cut off from the world, hiding behind your own uncertainty.\u00a0 Now is the time to check in with yourself and choose to change.\u00a0 TIP: <\/strong>Notice how you hold your body in different situations.\u00a0 If you find that you are closing yourself off physically, subtly change your posture.\u00a0 Feel the difference.\u00a0 How does the world respond?<\/p>\n

5.\u00a0 Now, settle down and listen.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Yes, you will taste the thrill of speaking soon enough and when you do, you will likely want to go on and on in front on everyone you meet, but remember, the art of effective communication involves LISTENING.\u00a0 People love it when you pay attention to them.\u00a0 Take in your surroundings and give someone the gift of your UNDIVIDED ATTENTION.\u00a0 This one act alone will make people love and appreciate your presence. TIP: <\/strong>Go to a meeting and purposely do not take your cell phone.\u00a0 Focus your attention entirely on the conversation, removing any possibility of personal distraction.\u00a0 You may think you do that already, but c\u2019mon\u2026 aren\u2019t you in the car next to mine making the phone call?<\/p>\n

You already have the gift of the gab, so go and give your gift to everyone on your list!<\/p>\n

Alexa Fischer is the creator of Lessons for the Limelight.\u00a0 Inspired by her work as a professional film and television actress, Alexa translates advanced performance skills into step-by-step guidelines for anyone desiring to maximize their personal presence.\u00a0 She teaches how to command the attention of a room, how to deliver powerful, engaging messages and how to look effortless doing so!\u00a0 Alexa believes that when you stay connected to your true passion and project your message effectively, your light illuminates and inspires everyone around you.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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