{"id":41891,"date":"2016-08-11T13:20:00","date_gmt":"2016-08-11T21:20:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=41891"},"modified":"2017-05-27T08:48:54","modified_gmt":"2017-05-27T16:48:54","slug":"tired-of-suffering-practice-self-compassion-with-these-4-easy-steps","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/tired-of-suffering-practice-self-compassion-with-these-4-easy-steps\/","title":{"rendered":"Tired of Suffering? Practice Self-Compassion with These 4 Easy Steps"},"content":{"rendered":"
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You might have had this happen to you.<\/p>\n

Perhaps your marriage just ended, or you\u2019ve lost your job, or you failed to pass an exam, and now you\u2019re simply exhausted from everyday life.<\/p>\n

And just when you needed your \u2018self\u2019 to be at its best, you got tripped by stress, unhappiness, distraction and dissatisfaction.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s face it \u2013 things are scaring the wits out of you.<\/p>\n

Horrible, right?<\/p>\n

But this is real. Suffering is real.<\/p>\n

We all suffer – one way or another.<\/p>\n

And to relieve that suffering, we turn to smoking, sex, shopping, food, drugs, alcohol and all that.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll tell you what \u2013 these don\u2019t work all the time.<\/p>\n

Why?<\/p>\n

Because they\u2019re nothing but sensual pleasures, and sensual pleasures are just momentary.<\/p>\n

One can\u2019t rely on them for a happier and stress-free life in the long run.<\/p>\n

Now I know it may sound too clich\u00e9d to you but the only salve to this is \u2018self-compassion.\u2019<\/p>\n

Self-compassion a great practice that allows us to be in charge of our life. Not to mention, it helps us embrace who we are or what situation we\u2019re in \u2013 easing our pain of suffering.<\/p>\n

However, not many realize that their self-compassion works just like a muscle \u2013 the more you use it, the more it grows.<\/p>\n

Feeling stressed, disappointed, anxious, depressed, or worried? Follow these 4 easy steps to develop self-compassion in you.<\/p>\n

1| Notice<\/strong><\/h1>\n

You\u2019re chock full of things you\u2019re not even aware of. So a good place to start with building self-compassion is by noticing what\u2019s happening in your body and mind at this moment. Take a moment to turn inward and notice everything that\u2019s happening inside you. Stop making mountains out of molehills over your simple mistakes. Don\u2019t beat yourself up for not reaching that perfect standard the so-called society has set forth. The idea is to stop reacting and start noticing the reality within yourself with an equanimous state of mind.<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/strong>2| Accept<\/strong><\/h1>\n

Whatever you resist persists, whatever you accept changes. So, tell yourself that it\u2019s perfectly Okay to feel what you\u2019re feeling right now. Maybe you feel bad about your body, or your parents or your grades \u2013 no matter what the situation is, accept it. Let yourself feel the pain. Most people go through life without really living it. All because they don\u2019t have the courage to accept who they are and what they feel. We usually tend to see the negative side of the problems. Wise people, however, are glad to have problems in their life. You know why? Because they know they can excel with it.<\/p>\n

3| Comfort<\/strong><\/h1>\n

Nothing in this world is more important than how you think and feel about yourself. How would you treat your friend who is suffering? How would you treat your child who is in severe pain? You\u2019d comfort them, wouldn\u2019t you? That\u2019s exactly what you\u2019re supposed to do with yourself. Once you do that, you won\u2019t need any attention and validation from others and no longer will your life be an emotional rollercoaster. A sense of compassion will grow out of you that will make you less needy. Not because you feel sorry for yourself, but because you realize how temporary and unworthy your pain has always been.<\/p>\n

4| Smile<\/strong><\/h1>\n

If you\u2019ve reached till here, congratulations! It\u2019s time to smile now. You\u2019ve successfully bidden farewell to your suffering. Spread the good vibes around. Wish your pain well for it taught you lessons nobody else ever could. Give it love. Wish it happiness. Forget about frustration \u2013 once you raise and keep up with your self-compassion \u2013 you wouldn\u2019t even feel bad about yourself. You aren\u2019t your worst enemy anymore \u2013 you are your best friend – you are your best lover \u2013 and you are your own master. So keep smiling.<\/p>\n

Now, I know all this seems so easy to say, but very hard to get on with. But for sure with practice, practice and a lot of practice – \u00a0nothing is impossible to achieve. What do you say? The world is already filled with too much of hate and negativity. It\u2019s about time we became kind to ourselves.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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