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The notion that you can be exactly who you want to be 100{54c12dad2cc2b53ae830e39915b1a3e70288dbcbbeb8bbf8395437c5dc3c512c} of the time is a false notion.\u00a0 This would be reaching perfection and the only perfection that exists is imperfection.\u00a0 Digging deep and striving to bring out the better you, however, is possible and necessary for a life with passion and purpose.\u00a0 Authenticity occurs when your actions line up with your values as a person.\u00a0 How can you do this?\u00a0 How can you be more authentic and let your true self shine in your life?\u00a0 How can you match up your actions with who you are underneath?<\/p>\n

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    Make it Known<\/strong><\/h1>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Make it known to yourself who you are underneath.\u00a0 What is important to you?\u00a0 Make a personal inventory.\u00a0 Write out all the statements that make you who you are.\u00a0 Write out \u201cI am\u201d statements.<\/p>\n

    \u201cI am someone who cares about others even if I don\u2019t know them.\u201d<\/p>\n

    \u201cI am someone who is down to earth and can\u2019t stand being arrogant.\u201d<\/p>\n

    \u201cI am someone who is willing to drop anything for my family.\u201d<\/p>\n

    These are a few examples.\u00a0 When you know who you are, you will find more purpose in your life.\u00a0 If you don\u2019t know what your purpose is, find it and hold on to it.\u00a0 Once your purpose and identities are known to you, you are aware of who you are and can start identifying actions that take you away from who you are.<\/p>\n

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      Decide to Make Change <\/strong><\/h1>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      Once you are aware of who you are you can strive to be truer to yourself.\u00a0 You can start to take action and work on yourself.\u00a0 Truly deciding to make changes in yourself requires commitment and this is the point where most people fail.\u00a0 Deciding is not just declaring in your mind that you want to be truer to yourself.\u00a0 Deciding is making active commitment to change.\u00a0 Write down things you have done in the past that have caused self-remorse and work on changing them.\u00a0 Write down things you don\u2019t like about yourself.\u00a0 Decide and commit and watch yourself grow.<\/p>\n

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        Forgiveness<\/strong><\/h1>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        To be true to yourself is a journey and a rollercoaster ride.\u00a0 You will make mistakes.\u00a0 Those who make mistakes, are confused with themselves, and turn to familiar behaviors will fail in their attempt to be true to themselves.\u00a0 Those that fail, fight, and fall back on their pre-conceived plans to move forward will fail less and less.\u00a0 Thus, self-forgiveness is the key to moving on to find higher levels of yourself.<\/p>\n

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          Stop Comparing<\/strong><\/h1>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

          In order to be true to yourself you have to love yourself.\u00a0 Loving yourself makes the whole process that much easier.\u00a0 When you compare yourselves to others what are you actually doing?\u00a0 You are detracting from yourself.\u00a0 When you compare, you are loving them (others) more than yourself and want to follow them because you feel you don\u2019t have the inner strength to follow yourself.\u00a0 Negatively comparing leads to bad action.\u00a0 If you are negatively comparing yourself to someone else you will do something that is out of line with who you really want to be.\u00a0 Something else to think about is that you might like an attribute that someone has but you don\u2019t know who that person is underneath so you should never be quick to compare unless you truly know someone.\u00a0 If you do know someone that has some truly amazing qualities and your inner-self wants to be more like that, you can develop those traits.<\/p>\n

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            Embrace Yourself<\/strong><\/h1>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

            Embracing yourself goes hand-in-hand with getting rid of comparisons.\u00a0 Embracing yourself means doing what you love.\u00a0 Be grateful for what you have.\u00a0 Find the power of gratefulness<\/a> in your life.\u00a0 The only way to be rich instantaneously is by developing gratitude.\u00a0 Everyone has their own gifts to bring into the world.\u00a0 Everyone also has their own insecurities.\u00a0 Embrace your insecurities and be vulnerable with them and you will start to love yourself even more.\u00a0 Follow that little voice inside you.\u00a0 Respect yourself and others will respect you.<\/p>\n

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              Identify Your Patterns of Failure<\/strong><\/h1>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

              Most people upon failing things repeatedly will be able to notice a cycle of failure.\u00a0 If you feel that you keep failing and messing up in life, find your cycle and patterns of thinking.\u00a0 This part in the process is similar to what addicts undergo in treatment.\u00a0 Addicts can identify a pattern of thoughts that contribute to their addictive behaviors.\u00a0 Many addicts will have thoughts unintentionally come into their head because of their addiction.\u00a0 Those that stay addicted aren\u2019t aware of what these thoughts are doing when the thoughts turn into intentions.\u00a0 The intentions then turn into actions where an addict relapses and starts the process over again. \u00a0After the process has started over again an addict might become complacent and let the thoughts turn into intentions and the whole process cycles over.\u00a0 Find your pattern of thinking that led to your behavior.<\/p>\n

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                Change Your Patterns<\/strong><\/h1>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                This is the best part of the whole process because this is where you will find the changes in your life.\u00a0 The reason identifying patterns of failure is second to last is because someone might have done everything they needed to do but then then fail after so much hard work and don\u2019t know where to go after their failure.\u00a0 Once you have identified your pattern, you understand the process of yourself and you can see where you messed up to improve for the next time.\u00a0 You have a place to go after failure when you have identified your patterns.\u00a0 Changing your patterns comes down to a battle of will.\u00a0 Are you willing to do things differently?\u00a0 Are you willing to do things the hard way?\u00a0 If you are, you will succeed.<\/p>\n

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                  Reap the Rewards<\/strong><\/h1>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                  To let your true self shine, love what you have done.\u00a0 Embrace yourself even more.\u00a0 Nothing can stop you.\u00a0 You are who you want to be.\u00a0 You have purpose.\u00a0 You have self-respect and others will respect you for that.\u00a0 You will inspire others and keep your actions in line with who you are because you have made the sacrifices to be a better you.\u00a0 You hold yourself to a higher standard and will continue to reap rewards from it.<\/p>\n

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                  Tyler Dahl is a freelance writer who dedicates his time to finding solutions for people who feel they can\u2019t go anymore. \u00a0He specializes in writing about self-motivation and chronic pain. \u00a0If you would like to contact him you can do so on his LinkedIn<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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