{"id":38037,"date":"2016-01-12T21:36:39","date_gmt":"2016-01-13T05:36:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=38037"},"modified":"2016-01-16T11:30:54","modified_gmt":"2016-01-16T19:30:54","slug":"10-easy-ways-increase-likability","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/10-easy-ways-increase-likability\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Easy Ways to Increase Your Likability"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Ever wonder why some people just seem to sail through life with ease? They get job offers. People enjoy being in their company. And they seem to have extraordinary powers of persuasion.<\/p>\n

Do you have a skill or talent to share but feel like people don\u2019t pay attention to you? You may be struggling in the likability department.<\/p>\n

But here\u2019s the good news: you can increase your likability. Here are 10 things you can start doing today that will begin to make a difference in your life:<\/p>\n

1. Be cheerful<\/strong><\/h1>\n

People who are likable tend to smile even when it feels like there is nothing to smile about. They know that happiness comes from the inside rather than external circumstances. Smiling will make you appear more warm, inviting, and attractive.<\/p>\n

Tip: Practice smiling when you\u2019re alone. Need help? Think about the funniest or best thing that happened to you recently. Make your smile big and broad. A byproduct is that you\u2019ll actually begin to feel happy.<\/p>\n

2. Be positive<\/strong><\/h1>\n

This is essential if you want to be more likable. Always have good things to say about yourself and others. Maintain a \u201ccan do\u201d attitude. Be encouraging to others.<\/p>\n

Tip: Stay away from gossip. If someone tries to gossip with you about another person, tactfully change the subject.<\/p>\n

3. Be trustworthy<\/strong><\/h1>\n

Be a person of your word. If you commit to doing something, follow through in a timely manner. If you are not able to meet a previous commitment, be honest about that. Forgiveness comes more easily when we\u2019re open with one another. Over the long term, this builds trust and loyalty.<\/p>\n

Tip: Guard your \u201cyes.” If someone asks you to do something and you cannot do it, say a polite and gentle \u201cno.”<\/p>\n

4. Be genuinely interested in other people<\/strong><\/h1>\n

Want to develop your interest in other people? It starts by learning the name of each person you regularly interact with and using it every chance you get. Get the other person to talk about themselves and truly listen to their answers. Speak to them in terms of their interests and likes.<\/p>\n

Tip: If you\u2019re bad at remembering names, learn a few tricks<\/a> to help you memorize names.<\/p>\n

5. Be sensitive<\/strong><\/h1>\n

Being sensitive means considering the feelings of others. It means being mindful of what you say and not imposing your beliefs. Quietly living out your values can far more persuasive than a heated debate.<\/p>\n

Tip: Practice empathy. Learn to put yourself in the minds of other people. Ask yourself \u201cHow would I feel if I were in this person\u2019s situation?”<\/p>\n

6. Be interesting<\/strong><\/h1>\n

Pursue hobbies and interests. Join a local sports league. Try listening to a new genre of music. Read a bestseller. Pursuing\u00a0variety of things makes for interesting conversations and connections with other people.<\/p>\n

Tip: Don\u2019t let your expectations or lack of experience prevent you from trying something you think you\u2019ll love.<\/p>\n

7. Be easygoing<\/strong><\/h1>\n

Stress is contagious. Your stress levels may be affecting those around you more than you realize. And all it takes is a few tweaks to improve your ability to put others at ease in your presence.<\/p>\n

People who are easygoing aren\u2019t too concerned when things don\u2019t go as planned. They let go of slights. They use humor to diffuse difficult or tense situations.<\/p>\n

Tip: When things start to go south, interrupt your stress response by taking a deep breath.<\/p>\n

8. Be generous<\/strong><\/h1>\n

Generosity with your time and talents is a proven way to improve your likability. Volunteer. Practice hospitality. Lend your expertise and resources to good causes that you resonate with. Don\u2019t be overly focused on getting something in return for your investment.<\/p>\n

Tip: Be more intentional about increasing your capacity for generosity. Here<\/a> are some simple ways to do so.<\/p>\n

9. Be relatable<\/strong><\/h1>\n

With the advent of social media and the personal brand, it can sometimes feel like we are competing to appear happier and richer than the next person. It feels like we\u2019ve lost the art of being relatable. Likable people know how to make others identify with them. Others don\u2019t feel \u201cless than\u201d in their presence. Relatability is the currency of human connection.<\/p>\n

Tip: Don\u2019t be afraid to be vulnerable to other people. Freely admit when you don\u2019t have all the answers. Ask for help when you need it. Share experiences of heartbreak and rejection.<\/p>\n

10. Be confident<\/strong><\/h1>\n

Likable people are confident – but it has to be the right level of confidence. Insecure and overconfident people drive others away.\u00a0People who lack confidence communicate to others \u201cI am not worthy of being liked.\u201d \u00a0Over confident people say \u201cYou have to like me.\u201d The right level of confidence communicates \u201cI am worthy of being liked and I am comfortable in my own skin.\u201d<\/p>\n

Tip: Know your strengths. Tap into the satisfaction you feel when you\u2019re doing something you\u2019re good at, no matter what you\u2019re doing.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s time to shine<\/strong><\/p>\n

Are you tired of always being in the shadows?<\/p>\n

Are you ready to \u201cwin friends and influence people<\/a>\u201d?<\/p>\n

Are you ready to make a first impression that will make you a sure winner?<\/p>\n

Then you\u2019re ready to take these steps to becoming more likable. All it takes is a commitment to following these steps.<\/p>\n

Will you step out and shine or remain in the shadows?<\/p>\n

The choice is yours.<\/p>\n

——–<\/p>\n

Cylon is a spiritual chaplain, musician, devoted husband, and busy dad of six. He blogs about practical spiritual tips for living well at Spiritual Living For Busy People – sign up and get his free guide 20 Little Tricks To Instantly Improve Your Mood Even If You Feel Like Punching Something (or Someone)<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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