{"id":37595,"date":"2015-12-20T20:54:21","date_gmt":"2015-12-21T04:54:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=37595"},"modified":"2015-12-23T11:25:39","modified_gmt":"2015-12-23T19:25:39","slug":"5-simple-tactics-never-let-people-intimidate","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/5-simple-tactics-never-let-people-intimidate\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Simple Tactics to Never Let People Intimidate You Again"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;\" class=\"sharethis-inline-share-buttons\" ><\/div><p><\/p>\n<p>Stressful, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n<p>Dealing with people who intimidate you.<\/p>\n<p>It can be as nerve-wracking as a job interview, or even speaking in public. And, unless you do something about it, it&#8217;s always there at the back of your mind, a constant worry.<br \/>\nI felt like that for years, anxious about almost every social and work encounter.<br \/>\nBut I finally decided to get to the bottom of my lack of confidence so I could actually live life, instead of hoping it wouldn\u2019t notice me.<\/p>\n<p>Let me share with you the simple tactics I found that will\u00a0 ensure you never let people intimidate you again.<\/p>\n<h1>1. <strong>Stop trying to be them.<\/strong><\/h1>\n<p>Your self-confidence can only flourish in the person it belongs to \u2013 you. Not a version of you, an imitation or a mishmash character of all the people you feel you should be, but the real, authentic you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Trying to raise healthy self-confidence in a false persona is like trying to eat healthily on a diet of fast food.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Want to know what you\u2019re absolutely better at than any other person on this planet?<\/p>\n<p>Simple, being you.<\/p>\n<p>Unearth the real you and you\u2019ll have discovered your confidence<\/p>\n<p>Until then, you\u2019re right to feel intimidated trying to be someone else because imitating others equals feeling intimidated.<\/p>\n<p><em>Self-confidence only asks one thing, be yourself.<\/em><\/p>\n<h1><strong>2. Stop competing with them.<\/strong><\/h1>\n<p>We compete with others intentionally or unintentionally on a daily basis by comparing.But here&#8217;s the problem:<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Most of us are as lousy at picking fights as we are at picking comparisons. <\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>We almost always choose a comparison we can&#8217;t win.\u00a0 If you have to play this game, try changing the rules:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>They may have great looks, but you may have great relationships.<br \/>\nThey may have a better job title, but you may have the better job.<br \/>\nThey may have more money, but you may be more altruistic.<br \/>\nThey may be loved by their fans, but you may be loved by your children.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>The point is, it&#8217;s a ridiculous game anyway because you can only compare like with like. But even if you do compare like with like, <em>people aren&#8217;t things<\/em>. You have to separate the two.<br \/>\nIf you feel intimidated because they have a more important sounding job than you, understand that You aren&#8217;t your job\u00a0 &#8211; and neither are they.<br \/>\nAnd if they do have more money than you, then it&#8217;s the money that&#8217;s intimidating you, not them. Presumably if they lost all their money, you wouldn&#8217;t be intimidated by them any more?<br \/>\n<em>So stop competing, separate the thing from the person and you&#8217;ll see that there really isn&#8217;t anything to be intimidated about.<\/em><\/p>\n<h1><strong>3. Stop focusing on you.<\/strong><\/h1>\n<p>Now that\u2019s going to sound confusing. You\u2019ve just read that unearthing your true self and being that beautiful person are critical to never feeling intimidated again.<br \/>\nAbsolutely, but&#8230;<br \/>\n..<strong>.when you\u2019re feeling intimidated, forget how you feel and focus solely on the other person<\/strong><br \/>\nIt\u2019s a tactic you can grasp quickly with a little practice.<br \/>\nYou see, by taking your own nerves and chattering self-depreciating thoughts out of the mix, you\u2019ll be able to hear what they\u2019re really saying. And you\u2019ll hear their own worries, insecurities and anxieties. You\u2019ll find a vulnerable human being, struggling in life, just like you.<br \/>\n<em>Forget yourself and focus on the other person. You\u2019ll find an imperfect human being, not a super being.<\/em><\/p>\n<h1><strong>4. Learn to say no<\/strong><\/h1>\n<p>Being intimidated is a manifestation of feeling powerless. It seems as though even if you summoned all of your inner everything, you\u2019d still be the one clearing away everyone else\u2019s trash at the end of the party.<br \/>\n<strong> There\u2019s a very simple tactic you need to learn. It\u2019s called saying \u2018No\u2019.<\/strong><br \/>\nIt&#8217;s a small word and one that you hear self-confident people use a lot.<br \/>\nNow that sounds very daunting.\u00a0 Sometimes speaking up can leave you totally tongue-tied as it is. However, saying no is like a muscle: the more you use it, the stronger it becomes.<br \/>\nBeing a \u2018Yes\u2019 person will leave you overwhelmed, over-committed and seriously out of your depth. That\u2019s no way to nourish your self-confidence.<br \/>\n<em>Gently but firmly declining an unwanted invitation or unwarranted request is a great way to put your confidence in the driving seat.<\/em><\/p>\n<h1><strong>5.Learn to say yes<\/strong><\/h1>\n<p>On the flip side, learning how to say yes at the right time can give your confidence an even greater boost. You see&#8230;<br \/>\n&#8230;<strong>confident people say yes to opportunities even if they have to go outside their comfort zone.<\/strong><br \/>\nSometimes they say yes because it takes them outside their comfort zone.<br \/>\nSurely that seems a paradox.<br \/>\nOnly until you try it. Only until you feel the incredible wave of empowerment, of resilience that comes with finding you can do more than you thought you were capable of.<br \/>\nBy repeatedly stepping outside your comfort zone, you boost your confidence in believing you can go even further next time. And you can&#8217;t be confident and intimidated at the same time.<br \/>\nRemember however to step outside your comfort zone not your safety zone. Like a yoga-newbie, stretch gently at first and soon you&#8217;ll amaze yourself at how far you can go.<br \/>\n<em> Saying yes to challenges becomes an addictive cycle that your self-belief will crave.<\/em><\/p>\n<h2><strong>Stop feeling intimidated once and for all.<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Taking small steps can break the patterns of feeling intimidated for good.<br \/>\nBe yourself, work on your self-confidence and\u00a0 stop underestimating yourself.<br \/>\nImagine having no nerves, no matter who you\u2019re dealing with.<br \/>\nPicture feeling an important member of the group, socially and at work. One that\u2019s valued, even relied upon.<br \/>\nImagine never dreading being intimidated again.<\/p>\n<p>Stop missing out on the wonderful opportunities and experiences that await you.<br \/>\nFight back with these simple but powerful tactics.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212;&#8212;-<\/p>\n<p><em>Mark &amp; Laura are on a mission to help you increase your confidence and grow your happiness by simplifying your life. Download their free cheat sheet:<a href=\"http:\/\/enjoylifeslowly.com\/free-download\" target=\"_blank\"> 5 Ways To Say No Without Offending Anyone (Even If You Hate Conflict)<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Stressful, isn\u2019t it?<br \/>\nDealing with people who intimidate you.<br \/>\nIt can be as nerve-wracking as a job interview, or even speaking in public. And, unless you do something about it, it&#8217;s always there at the back of your mind, a constant worry. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/5-simple-tactics-never-let-people-intimidate\/\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":10784,"featured_media":37628,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[205,21,6],"tags":[4653,4827,66,4652,207,4629,4640],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v19.1 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>5 Simple Tactics to Never Let People Intimidate You Again<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Stressful, isn\u2019t it? Dealing with people who intimidate you. 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