{"id":3712,"date":"2011-03-16T08:09:35","date_gmt":"2011-03-16T16:09:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=3712"},"modified":"2013-09-05T14:06:06","modified_gmt":"2013-09-05T22:06:06","slug":"youre-making-yourself-fat-not-happy-heres-how-to-dump-your-artificial-lover","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/youre-making-yourself-fat-not-happy-heres-how-to-dump-your-artificial-lover\/","title":{"rendered":"Day 16: You\u2019re Making Yourself Fat, Not Happy: Here\u2019s How to Dump Your Artificial Lover"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Do you know what\u2019s best about a salty bowl of chips, queso and a yummy margarita?<\/p>\n

They never tell you no, they won\u2019t leave you and, honestly, they don\u2019t care if you\u2019re fat.<\/p>\n

But what do THEY do for YOU? <\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you rise the next morning patting yourself on the back, celebrating your great decision to signal the waitress for the 3rd<\/sup> time you are running low on chips?\u00a0 I doubt it.\u00a0 And if you do, this post probably isn\u2019t for you.\u00a0 But, if you\u2019ve ever eaten any food and thought, \u201cThis is better than sex,\u201d I\u2019m talking directly to you.<\/p>\n

If you want to love yourself more than you love your next French fry, start treating your physical self the way you would treat a Ferrari.\u00a0 Your body is a gift, no matter how big or how small, and it\u2019s yours to have for as long as you take care of it.<\/p>\n

No matter what you do, please stop the dieting.\u00a0 It\u2019s madness.\u00a0 If you want to look like the models in the magazines, Photoshop yourself thin and buy a skinny mirror!\u00a0 If you want to get real and stop emotionally eating now, try a stop, drop and roll technique to break up with your imaginary lover\u2026permanently!<\/p>\n

Stop Being Afraid Of Being Hungry<\/strong><\/p>\n

Did you know most people don\u2019t let themselves get hungry? \u00a0A dietician once told me she believed people eat because they are afraid of being hungry.\u00a0 It certainly made sense to me.\u00a0 I\u2019m afraid of low blood sugar, of feeling dizzy, of not being in control of what my next meal might be, and when or how I might get it.<\/p>\n

When people feels fear, they naturally turn toward comfort to feel better.\u00a0 Experts call this \u201cemotional eating\u201d or finding \u201ccomfort food.\u201d\u00a0 Instead of focusing on the lack of food, why don\u2019t you tell yourself it\u2019s awesome being hungry, and look hunger in the eye and say, \u201cBring it on!\u201d<\/p>\n

And, if that doesn\u2019t work?\u00a0 Keep it simple. By eating every two or three hours, you avoid hunger hitting you over the head with a snack attack, with lies lack-of-energy lies scaring you straight to Chipsville for a comfort fix.<\/p>\n

Cut up tons of vegetables and fruit before<\/em> you get hungry, put them in individual bags and place them in your refrigerator. (An incredible sweet snack to try\u2014apples sprinkled with Stevia and cinnamon. Yummy!) Simply having healthy snacks handy will immediately reduce food\u2019s control over your mood.<\/p>\n

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Drop Your Focus on Feelings During Meals or Snacks<\/strong><\/p>\n

To challenge your cravings, focus on what you truly feel.\u00a0 Do you eat when you are happy or sad?\u00a0 Or both?\u00a0 Do you grab a bag of chips when boredom strikes?<\/p>\n

Once you identify the feeling, look for it to reappear.\u00a0 When it does, you must choose something else to satisfy it, even if for only 5 minutes. Call a friend or set up a buddy system.\u00a0 Listen to music or read a magazine.\u00a0 Under no circumstances should you eat your way through your mood ever again.<\/p>\n

Yes, I understand this is going to be hard.\u00a0 A big bowl of ice cream topped with hot fudge, or a gooey piece of cheese pizza is hard not to love. And, it\u2019s a lot sexier than a bowl of broccoli, right?\u00a0 But, isn\u2019t that the point?\u00a0 Gas isn\u2019t sexy.\u00a0 It stinks, and it\u2019s a pain filling your gas tank with, but you wouldn\u2019t grab a glass of coke, pour it in the tank and expect to get very far would you?<\/p>\n

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Roll With It<\/strong><\/p>\n

You had a tough day at work, your mom stopped by, or you saw your ex last night on an Eharmony TV ad. You ran to the store grabbed cheese, crackers, wine, Salami, Oreos, Twinkies and any other childhood friends you can muster.<\/p>\n

It happens\u2014roll with it!<\/p>\n

The first step to successfully dumping your artificial lover permanently is to be aware. Even if you can\u2019t help yourself in that moment, being aware of what happened instead of feeling as if you have no control over the situation means you are moving in the right direction.\u00a0 Whatever you do, don\u2019t let your good buddies Guilt and Regret get to chatting.<\/p>\n

Fight hard and focus to find your long-lost lover Gratitude so he can tell you how magnificent you are.\u00a0 Listen as he tells you how proud he is of you for starting the process of learning to love yourself more than you love living for your next bowl of popcorn.<\/p>\n

Most of all, remember living a purposeful life is about living day to day, setting your goals to do a little better than you did yesterday, and accepting yourself in every moment of life.\u00a0 You might not always like your choices, but accept them and tell your artificial lover to hit the road!<\/p>\n

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Lori Taylor is a direct marketing specialist<\/a> and personal development writer.<\/a> Follow her on Twitter<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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They never tell you no, they won\u2019t leave you and, honestly, they don\u2019t care if you\u2019re fat.<\/p>\n

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