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How much does it cost to keep your friends and family happy?<\/p>\n

Do you find yourself with one foot out the door when you lose confidence in you relationships and\u00a0 things don\u2019t go your way?<\/p>\n

What is your exit strategy for an unhappy relationship?<\/p>\n

Brian Tracey tells sales people and business owners, \u201cIf the grass is always greener, then you must not be fertilizing your own grass enough.\u201d<\/p>\n

It ALWAYS costs more to get a new customer than it does to keep one. Why would this be different in our personal lives? The common denominator is usually the problem. In this case, the common denominator is YOU.<\/p>\n

Tony Robbins says, \u201cThe quality of your life is in direct proportion to the quality of your relationships.\u201d\u00a0 Is this statement true? Are the most important \u201cclients\u201d (people) in your life those you have invested with\u00a0 through time, energy and love?<\/p>\n

Why is it we can always find time for financial demands, but postpone that fun lunch or girls night out because we have too many things to do? What if you shifted your priorities and started focusing 80{54c12dad2cc2b53ae830e39915b1a3e70288dbcbbeb8bbf8395437c5dc3c512c} of your time to that which puts juice back into your life?<\/p>\n

What would your friends and loved ones do if you rolled out the red carpet for them, every day?<\/p>\n

Start By Defining Who You Can Not Live Without<\/strong><\/p>\n

While you may be extremely social and have many layers of friends such us church friends, gym buddies, work friends, parents at your kids\u2019 schools, etc., take a look at each group, and list who you would miss the most.\u00a0 Who adds so much value to YOUR life that you\u2019d have a set back, and feel devastated without? (Here\u2019s a tip\u2026if this list is longer than five to seven people for any group, outside of your immediate family, you are too needy or simply don\u2019t understand the task.\u00a0 I know you don\u2019t want to lose ANYONE, but for each group, who would you pull from the burning building first, besides your immediate family?)<\/p>\n

Define the Importance of Each Group<\/strong><\/p>\n

What groups bring you the most joy?\u00a0 Is it your church friends?\u00a0 How about work pals?\u00a0 Or, do you like hanging with the neighbors?<\/p>\n

Rank each group by how much they fulfill your needs.\u00a0 Compare your ranking with how much time you spend with each group.\u00a0 This is a great opportunity to compare how you spend your time with how you want to spend your life.\u00a0 Start planning your personal life just as you do your business.\u00a0 A conversation with people who mean little to you equates to you planning, scheduling and choosing a jam-packed day of business meetings that serve no purpose and blatantly waste your time!<\/p>\n

Define Your Expectations Of The Relationship<\/strong><\/p>\n

Look at your list, and decide what they bring you and what they expect in return? Easier said than done, but you must do it.<\/p>\n

Why?<\/em><\/p>\n

Like clients, not all friends are created equal. Some take more than they give and some give more than they take.\u00a0 You must walk a fine line to balance these relationships, letting the connection serve you, rather than you serving the connection.\u00a0 Make sure you get out what you put in.\u00a0 Or, find out why you don\u2019t.<\/p>\n

If you can\u2019t improve a relationship, ask yourself why you\u2019re in it? Your friends may feed some sickness or dysfunction in your life, but you can\u2019t make a change if you don\u2019t see it.\u00a0 All relationships might not always feel fair, but they should be equitable, meaning everyone is getting out of it what they put into it.<\/p>\n

Their effort might not be equal, but the pay off is equal to the efforts, respectively.\u00a0 (I once heard someone say, \u201cAs long as you never fall out of love at the same time, you\u2019ll be fine!\u201d)<\/p>\n

Find New Friends<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s time to get real.\u00a0 As Tony Robbins also teaches, \u201cYou can\u2019t choose your family, but you can choose your friends.\u201d He is adamant your peer group will build or break you. To raise your bar in life, surround yourself with like-minded people who believe in driving at the same speed you do.\u00a0 People who build your inner confidence. They certainly don\u2019t have to go to the same destination, as that would be a little boring. But, if you believe in integrity, showing people you care, and being reliable, so should your friends.<\/p>\n

If you are the one setting the bar, you might want to ask yourself, \u201cWho is pushing me?\u201d If the answer is no one, look at your groups and determine which ones you enjoy the most. How can you find someone you admire and model?\u00a0 How can you connect with a new person who could improve your life?<\/p>\n

In order to roll out the red carpet for your inner circle, you have to know who they are and what they need.\u00a0 You must be willing to give it everything you have and then some.\u00a0 Don\u2019t waste precious time on relationships that don\u2019t matter while the ones that do are left to pay the bill.\u00a0 The people who love you the most, are the ones you trust the most.\u00a0 If you trust them not to hurt you and always watch your back, sometimes you don\u2019t treat them as well as you do those who love you less.<\/p>\n

Always bump your inner circle to the front of the line and make sure their name is ALWAYS on the list.<\/p>\n

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