{"id":35971,"date":"2015-10-14T21:47:25","date_gmt":"2015-10-15T05:47:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=35971"},"modified":"2015-10-18T15:23:49","modified_gmt":"2015-10-18T23:23:49","slug":"4-fears-keeping-success","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/4-fears-keeping-success\/","title":{"rendered":"Are These 4 Fears Keeping You From Success?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;\" class=\"sharethis-inline-share-buttons\" ><\/div><p><\/p>\n<p>Isn\u2019t it interesting how everyone wants success, but when an opportunity comes, many of us come up with excuses?<\/p>\n<p>It isn&#8217;t that we don&#8217;t want success. It&#8217;s just that we often let ourselves get in the way of our own successes.<\/p>\n<p>The truth is: reality is more difficult than simply dreaming about achieving something.<\/p>\n<p>Obstacles come up, and life can sometimes throw unexpected curveballs that are difficult to navigate through. As a result, we might tell ourselves that we just don&#8217;t have what it takes.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, it&#8217;s painful to fail at something. Whether you&#8217;re rejected by someone, don&#8217;t get the job you want, or feel like you&#8217;re falling behind everyone else, over time you tell yourself, &#8220;Why bother?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>And why should you bother?<\/p>\n<p>Because, before you get good at something, you <em>need<\/em> to fail. Fail often.<\/p>\n<p>If you aren&#8217;t failing enough, you aren&#8217;t pushing yourself enough.<\/p>\n<p>So see if any of these 4 fears are keeping you from achieving your goals and confront them.<\/p>\n<p><strong>1. Fear of failure<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You might be avoiding failure without realizing it. For example, do you catch yourself telling yourself any of the following?:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;It&#8217;s okay if I don&#8217;t reach [x goal].&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;She might be able to do it, but not me.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;Someday, I&#8217;ll do [x accomplishment]&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Listen carefully to the phrases you tell yourself. You might be talking yourself out of doing something without realizing it.<\/p>\n<p>Once you notice this, I challenge you to revisit the way you see failure.<\/p>\n<p>When you try something and it doesn&#8217;t work, don&#8217;t tell yourself that you failed. Instead, see it as a learning lesson.<\/p>\n<p>Over time, you&#8217;ll get better at identifying your mistakes and know what to do next time.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. Fear of letting go<br \/>\n<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Sometimes, we want to hold onto something. It could be a memory from the past, a loved one, or a place we&#8217;re familiar with.<\/p>\n<p>While familiar things are comfortable, they can keep us from moving forward in our lives.<\/p>\n<p>I recently saw a show in which a man, whose parents have long passed away, continues to run their restaurant. The restaurant hasn&#8217;t been doing well lately, but he insists on doing everything the same way in order to preserve his memories of his parents.<\/p>\n<p>At the risk of the restaurant going out of business, he refuses to change or take others&#8217; suggestions.<\/p>\n<p>While we shouldn&#8217;t forget events or people in the past, it&#8217;s important to acknowledge that we need to embrace change to make progress and improve ourselves.<\/p>\n<p>Know what is best for you in the present.<\/p>\n<p><strong>3. Fear of success<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>We hear about the fear of failing all the time. But what about fear of success?<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s just as real as the fear of failure.<\/p>\n<p>You might worry about what will happen something down the road. You wonder how you&#8217;ll manage certain situations, deal with various people, or have enough time for yourself.<\/p>\n<p>This happened to me when I launched my <a href=\"http:\/\/www.jumpstartyourdreamlife.com\/welcome\" target=\"_blank\">blog<\/a>. While I was excited, I was also worried about how I would deal with different scenarios. I worried about being overwhelmed and what I would do if I made it to a certain level.<\/p>\n<p>I was planning for all these things that didn&#8217;t even happen yet, or were far off in the future. It was unrealistic of me to do so, but I couldn&#8217;t help it.<\/p>\n<p>But I found a way to manage my fears.<\/p>\n<p>What I did was this:<\/p>\n<p>I acknowledged that the issues I thought about could happen in the future. For now, though, I didn&#8217;t have to worry about them. I would deal with them when the time came.<\/p>\n<p>So if you&#8217;re just starting something, don&#8217;t think about what you need to do at step 10. Just decide how to get past step 1, and know that you&#8217;ll find a way to deal with the later steps.<\/p>\n<p><strong>4. Fear of wasting time.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>A reader sent me an email about whether or not to change careers, and said \u201cI\u2019m afraid that time is passing me by.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I hear this phrase quite often, and I think it&#8217;s a big factor in whether or not we decide to pursue something.<\/p>\n<p>After all, time spent pursuing one career means less time on something else. It means we need to decide what&#8217;s the best way to spend our time.<\/p>\n<p>Instead of asking yourself whether or not you should pursue a goal, try asking yourself: What if I don&#8217;t do this? Would I regret it?<\/p>\n<p><strong>A Special Bonus For You<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t let fear get in the way. Click below to grab my free guide:<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.jumpstartyourdreamlife.com\/welcome\" target=\"_blank\">How To Get Anything You Want<\/a><\/p>\n<p>This guide will help you to:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>set and achieve milestones for your goals<\/li>\n<li>develop a strong mindset to getting the most out of life<\/li>\n<li>deal with setbacks and turn them around to come out even better<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Ready to bring positive change to your life? <a href=\"http:\/\/www.jumpstartyourdreamlife.com\/welcome\" target=\"_blank\">Grab your free guide here (it&#8217;s free).<\/a><\/p>\n<p>I look forward to sharing my secrets with you!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Isn\u2019t it interesting how everyone wants success, but when an opportunity comes, many of us come up with excuses? <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/4-fears-keeping-success\/\">Continue reading <span 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