{"id":3527,"date":"2010-10-13T21:28:09","date_gmt":"2010-10-14T05:28:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=3527"},"modified":"2013-08-27T12:28:50","modified_gmt":"2013-08-27T20:28:50","slug":"how-to-find-more-time-for-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/how-to-find-more-time-for-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Find More Time For Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;\" class=\"sharethis-inline-share-buttons\" ><\/div><p><a href=\"http:\/\/farm1.static.flickr.com\/247\/518115202_78a6efffde.jpg?v=0\"><\/a><\/p>\n<p>I won&#8217;t remind you that airlines tell you to fit your oxygen mask before helping others. You already know that, and you know how the analogy goes.<em> <\/em><\/p>\n<p>I won&#8217;t waste your time patiently explaining <em>why<\/em> it&#8217;s important to have time for yourself, as though it&#8217;s something that only really matters because it lets you help others.<\/p>\n<p>You have the right to private time to play, relax, goof off, or do whatever the heck you want. I don&#8217;t need to explain that to you, and no-one needs to give you permission.<\/p>\n<p>The problem that you face isn&#8217;t knowing <em>why<\/em> time to yourself is important.<strong> It&#8217;s finding ways to get that time on a regular basis.<!--more--><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Here are four things to try.<\/p>\n<h2>#1: Block Out Time in Advance<\/h2>\n<p>Ever marvel at how you can keep a couple of days free in your calendar when you know you&#8217;ll be travelling?<\/p>\n<p>The rest of the time, it seems like every day is packed full: you can&#8217;t imagine just having a whole free day open up in the middle of the week.<\/p>\n<p>When you&#8217;ve got a meeting, a long trip or a vacation, your calendar stays clear. You&#8217;ve blocked out that time in advance, so you don&#8217;t fill it up with work or other commitments.<\/p>\n<p>To get more time for yourself, do exactly the same thing. <strong>Figure it out in advance:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Plan a &#8220;weekend off&#8221; several months ahead, so that you don&#8217;t end up filling it with the usual social obligations, chores and so on.<\/li>\n<li>Find an afternoon once or twice a month where you can escape to the theatre, to a gallery or out into the countryside \u2013 whatever makes you feel re-energised and alive.<\/li>\n<li>At the start of each day, pick half an hour when you get to do whatever you want: maybe reading a chapter or two of a novel, taking a bath, or going for a jog. You <em>can<\/em> find half an hour if you look ahead.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>#2: Get Your Own Space<\/h2>\n<p>Ever settle down for some quality time on your own, only to get interrupted by a housemate or family member? Perhaps you&#8217;d just poured yourself a glass of wine and settled down with a magazine when your spouse came in to switch the television on, or maybe you were listening to an audio book when your kids started a screaming competition.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s hard to recharge your batteries when you&#8217;re surrounded by other people: even if they don&#8217;t mean to interrupt you, they often do. <strong>Find somewhere you can close the door and get away from it all.<\/strong> (If you&#8217;ve got children, that might mean escaping to a coffee shop or somewhere else out of the house.)<\/p>\n<h2>#3: Say What You Need<\/h2>\n<p>It&#8217;s absolutely okay to say to a friend <em>I&#8217;m not coming out tonight. I need some time by myself.<\/em> Sure, some extroverts may be puzzled \u2013 but they&#8217;ll soon get used to it.<\/p>\n<p>Similarly, it&#8217;s fine to tell your partner, kids or housemates that you want some quiet time. Obviously you can&#8217;t enforce constant silence \u2013 but you can ask them to keep it down for an hour while you read or take a nap.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Be clear and assertive (not aggressive) about what you need, and encourage others to behave the same towards you.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2>#4: Experiment With Different Times of Day<\/h2>\n<p>Not all hours in the day are equal. You might find that it&#8217;s easiest for you to get some peaceful time on your own before the rest of the household is awake: perhaps you get up early to meditate, exercise or read.<\/p>\n<p>Alternatively, you may be barely human until your third coffee of the morning. Perhaps your best time to focus on yourself is in the evening, once the kids are in bed.<\/p>\n<p>Other options are:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Your lunch hour (get out of the office if you can; if you stay at your desk, you&#8217;ll still have your mind on work)<\/li>\n<li>Stopping at a cafe on the way home from work<\/li>\n<li>Taking some time for yourself while your partner or flatmate cooks dinner<\/li>\n<li>Swapping childcare with a friend at weekends, so you both get some time to relax<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><em>What other tips do you have for getting enough time to yourself? Share them with us in the comments.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t Forget To Follow PickTheBrain on <a href=\"http:\/\/twitter.com\/pickthebrain\">Twitter<\/a>!<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Related Articles:<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"..\/smarter-time-management\/\">A Smarter Approach To Time Management<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"..\/strategies-for-breaking-bad-habits-and-cultivating-good-ones\/\">Tips For Breaking Bad Habits and Developing Good Habits<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You have the right to private time to play, relax, goof off, or do whatever the heck you want. I don&#8217;t need to explain that to you, and no-one needs to give you permission.<\/p>\n<p>The problem that you face isn&#8217;t knowing why time to yourself is important. 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