{"id":33627,"date":"2015-06-25T09:46:42","date_gmt":"2015-06-25T17:46:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=33627"},"modified":"2016-09-02T12:26:17","modified_gmt":"2016-09-02T20:26:17","slug":"4-language-tips-to-positively-change-your-psyche","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/4-language-tips-to-positively-change-your-psyche\/","title":{"rendered":"4 Language Tips to Positively Change Your Psyche"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Research has shown the language and word choices we use in our daily lives can positively or negatively impact our lives. \u00a0 Yet, for most of us we often don\u2019t pay a lot of attention to the words we choose to use to express ourselves.<\/p>\n

What happens is when we unconsciously go about our day using language that limits our autonomy and choices, we often cause ourselves to have unnecessary self-inflicted stress.<\/span><\/p>\n

To turn this around, you need to make a conscious effort to start listening and notice what comes out of your mouth.<\/span>\u00a0 \u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Often the unhelpful language takes the form of you referring to yourself negatively like \u2018I\u2019m an idiot\u2019 to making innocent statements using words and self-sabotaging language that limits positive change. i.e. I should stop procrastinating.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you catch yourself using this type of language.\u00a0 <\/span>Stop.\u00a0 <\/span>Forgive yourself.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Re-assess the words you have used.\u00a0 <\/span>And then consciously choose to use language that is encouraging, empowering and positive. \u00a0 \u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Here are some ideas to use language to get you started in a positive direction.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Replace \u2018Busy\u2019 with \u2018Full\u2019<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

In an article for The Huffington Post<\/span><\/a>, Scott Dannemiller articulates how busy is a sickness and why the majority of us often overreact and \u201cvoluntarily create unnecessary stress in our lives\u201d because we live in a society that defines our worth by our doing instead of being.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

What he decided to do is to eliminate the word \u201cbusy\u201d from his vocabulary whenever people asks him how he is doing, and replaces it with \u201cfull\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n

With this simple switch in word, he has empowered himself to create a new habit.\u00a0 <\/span>Instead of letting busyness control him, he is taking back his control and is choosing what he enjoys and wants to put on his happiness plate.\u00a0 \u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

2. Remove The Should, Must, Have Factor<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

I should<\/i><\/b> spend more time with my family, I have <\/i><\/b>to lose weight, I must <\/i><\/b>pick up groceries tonight.\u00a0 <\/span>Should, must and have are words that limit your choices and autonomy.\u00a0 \u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\u2018Shoulds\u2019<\/i> can go on and on.\u00a0 <\/span>Instead of focusing on the should, focus on thinking, is it something I want to do? Is it something that allows me to spend time with people that matter? Is it something that enhances my well-being?\u00a0 <\/span>Your time and energy is valuable, so if it is something you have no desire in doing that brings little fulfillment in your life, it\u2019s time to cut it out of your schedule.<\/span><\/p>\n

If it turns out whatever you are \u2018should\u2019ing is something that will have a positive impact on your life, then change \u2018should\u2019<\/i><\/b> to \u2018I get to\u2019<\/i> <\/b>or \u2018I\u2019m going to\u2019<\/i>, \u2018I want to\u2019<\/i>, \u2018I\u2018d really like to\u2019, \u2018I will\u2019, \u2018I can\u2019<\/i><\/b>.\u00a0 <\/span>You get the gist.\u00a0 <\/span>These terms implies positive action.\u00a0 <\/span>It gives you a sense that YOU made the decision to do it and thus, converts the experience of what you\u2019ll be doing into something productive.<\/span><\/p>\n

Similarly, you can also apply the suggested phrases mentioned above to replace \u2018I have to\u2019<\/i><\/b> <\/i>and \u2018I must\u2019<\/i><\/b>.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Use words to shift your perception to possibility<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s get straight to an example.\u00a0 <\/span>Instead of \u201cI haven\u2019t found my ideal partner.\u201d\u00a0 <\/span><\/i>Add \u2018yet\u2019.<\/i><\/b>\u00a0 <\/span>Or use the phrase, \u201c\u2018I\u2019m in process\u2019<\/i><\/b> of finding my ideal partner.\u201d\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

In doing so it can help soothe anxiety and the feeling of \u2018lack\u2019 or being \u2018not enough\u2019, as \u2018yet\u2019 <\/i><\/b>and \u2018I\u2019m in the process\u2019<\/i><\/b> suggests that at a future time it will happen.\u00a0 <\/span>Thus, it creates a sense of hopefulness and a space of allowance that opens your mind to considering possibilities. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Change tenses <\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

We often let our past stories dictate our future, with the \u2018I can\u2019t\u2026\u2019, \u2018I don\u2019t know how to..\u2019 get in the way.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you have an \u2018a-ha\u2019 and realize you can, it\u2019s time to turn this around.\u00a0 <\/span>Add the words \u2018before now\u2019<\/b> or \u2018until now\u2019 <\/b>at the end of the disempowering statements we make.<\/span><\/p>\n

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This sets the tone that going forward you are ready. You can. You will.\u00a0 <\/span>You have what you need to carry out whatever it is you want to do successfully. <\/span><\/p>\n

i.e. \u201cI can\u2019t get my act together\u201d to \u201cI haven\u2019t been able to get my act together <\/i>until now<\/i><\/b>.\u201d\u00a0<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n

Over to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

How have you used language to elicit more positive effect on your psyche and change your experience of life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Theresa is an 80\u2019s music lovin\u2019, Old Fashioned drinkin\u2019, freedom livin\u2019 travel junkie sent to zap living a double life right outta you. Get your free insights on life lessons for a work in progress\u00a0here<\/a>. You can find her on Instagram\u00a0@gettingmyshit2gether<\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0Facebook<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

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