{"id":32467,"date":"2015-04-27T20:54:47","date_gmt":"2015-04-28T04:54:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=32467"},"modified":"2015-04-30T21:53:31","modified_gmt":"2015-05-01T05:53:31","slug":"3-ways-become-fascinating-compel-people-listen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/3-ways-become-fascinating-compel-people-listen\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Ways to Become Fascinating and Compel People to Listen"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Talk to someone about themselves and they’ll listen for hours \/ Dale Carnegie<\/em><\/p>\n

*Sigh*<\/p>\n

Social gatherings are unnerving.<\/p>\n

Do you feel uncomfortable around other people?<\/p>\n

They talk \u2026 and you sit there like a fish. You try to join in the conversation but you struggle to find the right words. And everything you say sounds bland.<\/p>\n

Why can\u2019t you be a bubbly and engaging person?<\/p>\n

I used to be awkward at social gatherings. I was stressed out about finding the right words. And when I said something it turned out completely wrong. I felt dumb.<\/p>\n

But I implemented a simple plan. A plan to become interesting. To compel people to listen.<\/p>\n

Shall I explain?<\/p>\n

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    Read Like a Psychic<\/strong><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    As a kid I loved watching psychic shows.<\/p>\n

    The dim lights. The quiet music that raises the tension as the psychic picks a volunteer from the crowd.<\/p>\n

    As expected the psychic reads the volunteer like an open book.<\/p>\n

    But once in a while he would miss.<\/p>\n

    He would say that the 40-year old man in a suit had made a big investment lately. And when he found out he was wrong, he\u2019d say that the image wasn\u2019t clear, and he\u2019d soon make a big investment like buying a car, or a house, or property.<\/p>\n

    But when I grew up I found out their dirty little secret.<\/p>\n

    They don\u2019t have supernatural powers. They\u2019re exceptionally good at reading people. They obtain a great deal of information by analyzing the person’s body language, clothing and manner of speech. And then they make an educated guess.<\/p>\n

    The same approach works when communicating.<\/p>\n

    When you meet someone, don\u2019t just look at him. PAY ATTENTION.<\/p>\n