{"id":32388,"date":"2015-04-22T11:46:55","date_gmt":"2015-04-22T19:46:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=32388"},"modified":"2015-04-22T11:46:55","modified_gmt":"2015-04-22T19:46:55","slug":"how-ants-survive-rush-hour-stop-using-ego","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/how-ants-survive-rush-hour-stop-using-ego\/","title":{"rendered":"How Ants Survive Rush Hour (and why putting your ego in check will change your life)"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;\" class=\"sharethis-inline-share-buttons\" ><\/div><p><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s everyone\u2019s nightmare. \u00a0Rush hour. \u00a0Inching along interminably as too many cars navigate too few lanes, with too many merging in and too few turning off.<\/p>\n<p>Who would have imagined that King Solomon already anticipated the chaos of our highways when he declared, <em>Go, sluggard, and learn from the ant<\/em>?<\/p>\n<p>As it turns out, ants are better drivers than we are. \u00a0And the lessons of their highway habits offer some valuable lessons that extend far beyond the way we drive.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.npr.org\/templates\/transcript\/transcript.php?storyId=381647516\">According to NPR<\/a>, Apoorva Nagar discovered the connection in a study by German and Indian researchers. \u00a0Apparently, traveling ants are able to maintain a constant speed regardless of the number of ants on the path. \u00a0In other words, even at rush hour, ant traffic carries on unimpeded.<\/p>\n<p>Professor Nagar, a physicist at the Indian Institute of Space Science and Technology, suggests three reasons why ants don\u2019t bottleneck as traffic flow increases. \u00a0First, ants don\u2019t have egos. \u00a0They don\u2019t need to be first, don\u2019t need to show off, and don\u2019t take it personally when another ant cuts in front of them.<\/p>\n<p>Second, they don\u2019t mind fender-benders. \u00a0Sure, a multi-ant pile will slow them down. \u00a0But a few minor bumps and scrapes have little impact on their progress. \u00a0Even with incidental bumping and knocking, the ants just keep on moving forward. \u00a0Needless to say, humans would never tolerate the most glancing or superficial collisions, even if the law permitted it.<\/p>\n<p>And third, says Professor Nagar, ants get more disciplined as the crowd thickens: \u00a0they hold their speed steadier and make fewer twists and turns. \u00a0In contrast to human drivers who cut in and out while breaking and accelerating, ant discipline creates a road culture of greater predictability and, consequently, greater safety and consistency.<\/p>\n<p>Granted that ant behavior may have limited practical application to human driving habits and traffic patterns, the observations offered by Professor Nagar suggest other benefits to improve the quality of daily life.<\/p>\n<p>NO EGO<\/p>\n<p>Have you ever watched someone else hopelessly caught up in his own ego-gratification? \u00a0Sometimes it\u2019s the driver trapped behind a slow-moving car, desperately looking for a chance to break out and around. \u00a0And what happens when he gets his chance? \u00a0More often than not, you catch up to him stuck behind the next car or idling at the next stoplight.<\/p>\n<p>Or what about the person who has to be the center of attention or the life of the party? \u00a0He thinks he\u2019s the darling of the crowd, but the dismayed expressions among his captive audience frequently tell a different story.<\/p>\n<p>When we stop worrying about where we rank compared to others and stop needing others to validate our existence, we become a lot more comfortable with where we are and end up making progress with far greater efficiency.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s actually pretty easy when we start asking ourselves the right questions:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>What do I gain by trying to be first?<\/li>\n<li>Are the people I\u2019m trying to impress going to be impressed?<\/li>\n<li>Are the people who are going to be impressed worth impressing?<\/li>\n<li>Didn\u2019t I read a story once about a tortoise and a hare?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>IS IT WORTH IT?<\/p>\n<p>We\u2019ve heard it before:<\/p>\n<p><em>Don\u2019t sweat the small stuff<\/em>. \u00a0And so much of it really is small stuff.<\/p>\n<p>Sure, I enjoy the frequent fantasy of trading in my \u201898 Camry for a new\u2026 anything. \u00a0But until I do, I\u2019ll never have to worry about the latest scratch, dent, or interior stain the way I would if I were driving a Mercedes\u2026 or even a new Subaru.<\/p>\n<p>The truth is, the shinier our toys are, the more we notice when the shine starts to fade, and our mood fades just as quickly. \u00a0That\u2019s only natural, since those scrapes and blemishes are all tied up with our first problem\u2026 ego.<\/p>\n<p>That scuffed bumper is a reflection on me, isn\u2019t it? \u00a0It reflects either my own driving or my slothfulness repairing damage inflicted on me by someone else. \u00a0Of course, it might reflect the sanity of my priorities, that I don\u2019t want to take hours away from my family and friends and community and personal growth so that my car can be pristine (while waiting for the next minor accident to send me back to the repair shop).<\/p>\n<p>And it\u2019s not just our cars. \u00a0The human eye and mind seek out every imperfection on which to fixate, whether it\u2019s a loose thread or a tilted picture, a sore toe or a pesky hangnail. \u00a0If anything is 99{54c12dad2cc2b53ae830e39915b1a3e70288dbcbbeb8bbf8395437c5dc3c512c} perfect, that last one percent becomes all the more intolerable, invalidating everything that is as it should be.<\/p>\n<p>Which is the perfect time for another list of questions:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Overall, are things good or bad?<\/li>\n<li>By how much does the good outweigh the bad?<\/li>\n<li>Is it reasonable to let so little that\u2019s not quite right cancel out so much that is?<\/li>\n<li>Is anything every perfect?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>TIME TO PAY ATTENTION<\/p>\n<p>As tension builds, we start looking for a way out. \u00a0Maybe what we should be looking for is <em>a way in<\/em>. \u00a0Like the ants who become more focused as traffic increases.<\/p>\n<p>The truth is, stress and tension are products of our bodies preparing us to <a href=\"http:\/\/yonasongoldson.hubpages.com\/hub\/Dont-Beat-Stress-Meet-Stress\">enter into survival mode<\/a>. \u00a0When we respond by heightening our awareness of the challenges that face us and steeling ourselves to meet them, we can propel our productivity and success to unprecedented levels. \u00a0Not only do we manage the job at hand, but we increase our ability to overcome greater obstacles that lie ahead.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s a win-win.<\/p>\n<p>But it demands that we reframe, that we stop looking at obstacles as impediments to progress and start seeing them as opportunities for development and self-improvement. \u00a0And that outlook starts with more questions:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Why do we think <em>no pain, no gain <\/em>applies only at the gym?<\/li>\n<li>Haven\u2019t our most satisfying moments come through struggle?<\/li>\n<li>If we can\u2019t change where we are, isn\u2019t changing how we deal with it is our only option?<\/li>\n<li>If I handle a difficult situation better, might others follow my example and help the situation improve on its own?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>After all, what\u2019s the point of an obstacle course? \u00a0We could traverse the course much faster without all those obstacles, no? \u00a0But then what would we have accomplished?<\/p>\n<p>And isn\u2019t life the greatest obstacle course of all?<\/p>\n<p><em>Rabbi Yonason Goldson, a talmudic scholar and\u00a0former hitchhiker, circumnavigator, and newspaper columnist, lives in St. Louis, MO, where he teaches, writes, and lectures. \u00a0His new book <\/em>Proverbial Beauty: \u00a0Secrets for success and happiness from the wisdom of the ages <em>is due out in July. \u00a0Visit him at<\/em><a href=\"http:\/\/yonasongoldson.com\/\"> <em>http:\/\/yonasongoldson.com<\/em><\/a><em>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It\u2019s everyone\u2019s nightmare.  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