{"id":30352,"date":"2015-02-19T22:04:02","date_gmt":"2015-02-20T06:04:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=30352"},"modified":"2015-02-23T22:09:57","modified_gmt":"2015-02-24T06:09:57","slug":"3-strange-social-hacks-amazing-first-impressions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/3-strange-social-hacks-amazing-first-impressions\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Strange Social Hacks for Amazing First Impressions"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;\" class=\"sharethis-inline-share-buttons\" ><\/div><p><a href=\"http:\/\/kickstartyourdreamlife.com\"><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>\u201cDon\u2019t judge a book by its cover,\u201d undoubtedly you\u2019ve heard this phrase.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>But is it actually possible? Can we look at look someone (or something) for the first time without making snap judgments?<\/p>\n<p>The short answer: <strong>yes.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Using proven social hacks, you can bypass people\u2019s traditionally quick decision-making when it comes to making first impressions.<\/p>\n<p>Many times when we meet new people, we spend hours debating the exact attire to wear, the type of handshake to give, the kind of business cards to hand out, and even the perfect words to say. BUT it all boils down to this:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Do you know how to really stand out in people\u2019s minds?<\/li>\n<li>Do you know how to take advantage of perception and context?<\/li>\n<li>Do you know how to become the person you want to be in ANY social situation?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Using these three strange but effective psychological techniques, you can eliminate many of the typical concerns we have when meeting people for the first time. And in the process, you\u2019ll make amazing (and lasting) impressions on everyone single person encounter.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/psychology.about.com\/od\/socialpsychology\/f\/halo-effect.ht\"><strong>1)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0The Halo Effect<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Whether or not you\u2019ve been aware of it, you\u2019ve probably experienced this form of psychological bias.<\/p>\n<p>For example, have you ever met someone new, thought \u201cWow, they were really nice!\u201d and then assumed\u00a0they were other things, such as\u00a0kind and intelligent?<\/p>\n<p>In reality, you knew very little about this person.<\/p>\n<p>To really see this effect in action, think about some of the celebrities you might follow or look up to. Often times, we assume based on their acting skills and good looks that they must be other things like intelligent, altruistic, and benevolent.<\/p>\n<p>Now that\u2019s not to say they\u2019re not these things, but in most cases, we don\u2019t actually know.<\/p>\n<p>Behind the scenes, your brain was using the Halo Effect to draw conclusions about the person\u2019s other traits.<\/p>\n<p>Rightly or wrongly so, your brain makes assumptions\u00a0like this:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHe\/She is really nice; therefore they must also be intelligent, funny, and good with people\u2026because those things go hand-in-hand.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>It rationalizes to simplify the situation.<\/p>\n<p>When it comes to making a great first impression, understanding this effect is all-powerful.<\/p>\n<p>Many times when meeting someone new, we feel like we have to be perfect from the get-go.<\/p>\n<p>We think every word we say must be carefully thought out, we need to look our absolute\u00a0best, and make artful comments.\u00a0That\u2019s a lot to focus on.<\/p>\n<p>And while those things are important, the Halo Effect shows us we only need to be great at one thing at a time.<\/p>\n<p>The person you\u2019re meeting then infers the rest about you.<\/p>\n<p>So you can focus on having good energy, being positive, or what to say\u2026but you certainly don\u2019t have focus on everything at once to instantly intrigue or impress them.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0The Power of Perception and Context<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The Washington Post <a href=\"http:\/\/www.washingtonpost.com\/lifestyle\/magazine\/pearls-before-breakfast-can-one-of-the-nations-great-musicians-cut-through-the-fog-of-a-dc-rush-hour-lets-find-out\/2014\/09\/23\/8a6d46da-4331-11e4-b47c-f5889e061e5f_story.html\">conducted an experiment<\/a> where one of today\u2019s finest classical musicians played some of the most elegant and artful music ever written on a $3.5 million dollar violin.<\/p>\n<p>What\u2019s the big deal about that?<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s the catch: the musician did this during rush hour traffic, next to a trash can, while wearing jeans, a T-shirt and a baseball cap.<\/p>\n<p>Normally, he played to an auditorium full of thousands of people, each paying upwards of $100+ per seat.<\/p>\n<p>But on the day of the experiment, this master musician earned a measly $32.17. Yes, some people even gave him pennies.<\/p>\n<p>Hundreds of people walked straight by him, assuming he was a common street musician.<\/p>\n<p>Psychologically, what\u2019s happening here?<\/p>\n<p>Because of how, when and where he presented himself, people concluded the music he produced was at an average-to-below-average level.<\/p>\n<p>But at a venue in his total garb surrounded by the symphony\u2019s prestige, he was given absolute attention and respect.<\/p>\n<p>We can use this technique to make great first impressions.<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s how:<\/p>\n<p>Often times, we worry that people judge us harshly based on\u00a0our actions, looks and ideas, from the past and present.<\/p>\n<p>In reality, this is simply not true. The way that we present ourselves\u00a0in the moment\u00a0determines how people think of us.<\/p>\n<p>You can flip people\u2019s perception just by presenting yourself in a different way. Just like how the musician instantly flipped people\u2019s perception by choosing what characteristics to bring to the forefront.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re dressed appropriately, speak properly and act professionally, people will naturally be impressed by you. They won\u2019t assume that you don\u2019t fit in\u2014like we so often feel when meeting others.<\/p>\n<p><strong>3) Get into Character<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>In one of the <a href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Stanford_prison_experiment\">most unethical experiments of all time<\/a>, researchers at Stanford created a mock prison simulation with several volunteers.<\/p>\n<p>For example, some volunteers were told to act like guards, whereas others were told to act like prisoners.<\/p>\n<p>The end result? The individuals told to act like guards became overtly authoritative enforcers, at times even beating the prisoners.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, the individuals told to act like prisoners accepted the abuse and became very rebellious.<\/p>\n<p>Now this is not an endorsement for the experiment, but it does give us an interesting insight into human behavior.<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s the lesson: we can change our behavior and, over time, become the person we want to be just by thinking a certain way\u2014\u201cgetting into character\u201d so to speak.<\/p>\n<p>Often times, we view who or how we are right now as fixed and never changing.<\/p>\n<p>However, this experiment shows us our brains (and personalities) are much more malleable than we think. We can change for different social situations\u2014if we want to.<\/p>\n<p>Now, you don\u2019t need to go off and change everything about yourself, and, in fact, you shouldn\u2019t.<\/p>\n<p>But if there\u2019s any trait you desire to display when making first impressions, you can literally rewire your brain to bring those characteristics to the forefront.<\/p>\n<p>Add these techniques to your conversation and first impression tool belt, and you&#8217;re virtually guaranteed to start your next relationship off on the right foot.<\/p>\n<p>Robert Allen is a communications and influence coach who runs the blog <a href=\"http:\/\/kickstartyourdreamlife.com\">KickstartYourDreamLife.com<\/a>.\u00a0He helps introverted young professionals be more charismatic so they can get the recognition\u00a0they deserve for their hard work (from their bosses and colleagues) without being loud or extroverted by showing them how to skillfully talk to anyone with ABSOLUTE confidence and without fear of ever 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