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Many of us often\u00a0make big decisions at\u00a0the start of a New Year. In the UK,\u00a0for example, January 5th (the first working day after Christmas) was dubbed \u201cdivorce day\u201d because it\u2019s the busiest time of year for family lawyers as warring couples decide\u00a0enough is enough. Some of us may commit to something less dramatic yet equally life-changing like finally sticking two fingers up at the job we\u2019ve hated for years while others might decide it really is time to get fit and healthy.<\/p>\n

Whether it\u2019s the New Year or not, we all have to make big decisions in life and often we can find them tough to make because our heads get filled up with far too many things to consider, or our emotions get the better of us, or there\u2019s that little voice inside that keeps saying: hmm, not really sure about that, are you? If this sounds like you\u00a0in any way, read on to find out how you can encourage all those different parts to work together for you in decision-making. You can then feel\u00a0more confident (and congruent)\u00a0that you\u2019re making better decisions that you won\u2019t end up regretting.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know about you but\u00a0I’ve always been able to detect a pattern in the decisions I\u2019ve come to regret\u00a0and\u00a0for me\u00a0a lot of those decisions were job related. I’d spend shed loads of time weighing up the pros and cons of a new job\u00a0in my head and sometimes even jot them down on paper. I’d ask friends and family for their opinion and\u00a0go through the same process\u00a0of weighing up the pros and cons. I\u2019d focus on how great I\u2019d feel handing in my notice and leaving all the stress and frustrations of my current job behind. I\u2019d feel good about the new\u00a0challenges I\u2019d be facing. I\u2019d big up all the pros. And\u2026..I\u2019d choose to ignore the feeling in my gut that kept saying: I don\u2019t\u00a0know what it is, but something doesn\u2019t quite feel right here.<\/p>\n

Like many of us, I\u2019d come to rely on my head more than my heart and gut\u00a0so\u00a0when it came to decision-making I always chose to place more importance on what\u00a0my head thought was the right thing to do.<\/p>\n

As a result, six months or a year later – you\u2019ve guessed it – I\u2019d be fed up with the job,\u00a0banging my head against the wall and asking: why the hell didn\u2019t I listen to my gut? It was right all along but I didn\u2019t bloody listen!! Having learnt (the hard way) from similar situations, I\u2019m glad to say I no longer ignore my gut, nor my heart for that matter.<\/p>\n

When our different \u2018centres\u2019 (head, heart and gut) aren\u2019t in tune\/aligned with one another, trouble can brew big time<\/strong>. Not only do we end up feeling\u00a0as if there\u2019s an internal battle going on,\u00a0but we can literally end up sabotaging ourselves because the part\u00a0or parts we\u2019ve chosen to ignore are trying to get our attention and prove they were right all along.<\/p>\n

So in future, how can you make sure your centres are aligned so you can make decisions you feel more confident and congruent about? Read on to find out.<\/p>\n

Whenever we need to make a big decision or change in our lives, it\u2019s often a good idea to\u00a0actively check in with head, heart and gut. You can do this by working your way through a checklist.<\/p>\n

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  1. Think of a goal you\u2019d like to achieve<\/strong> (your decision will generally be based around this goal).<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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    1. For each statement below, check in with head, heart and gut and rate how strongly each centre feels in relation to the statement.<\/strong> Consider 1 as lowest and 5 as strongest.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      My goal is important to me and I want to reach it.\u00a0(How does head feel about this statement? How does heart feel? How does gut feel?)<\/em><\/p>\n

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      It\u2019s possible to reach my goal.\u00a0(How does head feel about this statement? How does heart feel? How does gut feel?)<\/em><\/p>\n

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      I\u2019m capable of reaching my goal.\u00a0(How does head feel about this statement? How does heart feel? How does gut feel?)<\/em><\/p>\n

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      I deserve to reach my goal.\u00a0(How does head feel about this statement? How does heart feel? How does gut feel?)<\/em><\/p>\n

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      1. If you\u2019ve scored 5 on every centre for each statement, go forward and conquer!<\/strong> Your centres are fully in tune with one another and you\u2019re congruent about reaching your goal. A lot of the time, however, you\u2019ll find you\u2019ll have scored one centre higher than the others. If this is the case, hone in on the centre\u00a0or centres that have scored low and ask yourself: what else would my head\/heart\/gut need to know, add to my goal, or believe in to be more congruent or confident? What can I do to make this possible?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        By actively checking in with head, heart and gut the moment we\u2019re about to make a crucial decision, we\u2019re a) acknowledging our different centres or parts b) giving equal \u2018air-space\u2019 to each of them and c) taking note early on whether there\u2019s any \u2018dissonance\u2019 so we can do something about it and make better, more aligned decisions.<\/p>\n

        So if you\u2019re about to make a big decision, why not try checking in with head, heart and gut to see what difference it can make? I\u2019d love to hear how you get on so please do let me know by leaving a comment below.<\/p>\n

        Jackie Mendoza <\/strong>is a change coach working with people who want to rebuild their lives when a relationship changes or ends. You can find out more and access free resources here: www.jackiemendoza.com<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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