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“How come you never worry?”<\/i> My wife asked.<\/p>\n

In that moment, I had horrible flashbacks. The truth was, I used to worry constantly<\/b> about future events and social conflict interactions in particular.<\/p>\n

I had a Masters Degree in worrying and preplanning arguments and conversations in my head.<\/p>\n

For 7 years, I had a boss who wouldn\u2019t tell his employees what he wanted them to do, then get angry that they weren’t doing it. Ugh.<\/p>\n

I was constantly on guard, planning my defense:<\/p>\n

“If he says this then I’ll defend myself by saying THAT! Ha!”<\/i><\/p>\n

It was exhausting.<\/p>\n

Fighting battles in my head that usually ended up never happening was pointless, and I largely had no control over this.<\/p>\n

It was awful.<\/p>\n

Worrying \u00a0was just a version of negative self talk. I was defending myself from imaginary arguments because I was worried I’d mess up every situation and I’d have<\/i> to defend myself.<\/p>\n

Because deep down, I didn’t think I was good enough.<\/i><\/p>\n

Whoa.<\/p>\n

“I guess I have a system.”<\/i> I replied to her.<\/p>\n

So, what should you do about worrying?<\/p>\n