{"id":28789,"date":"2014-12-02T21:45:20","date_gmt":"2014-12-03T05:45:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=28789"},"modified":"2014-12-05T20:59:05","modified_gmt":"2014-12-06T04:59:05","slug":"insecurity-good-thing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/insecurity-good-thing\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Insecurity Is A Good Thing"},"content":{"rendered":"
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In our modern self-help-infused culture, we treat insecurity like the archenemy.<\/p>\n

Everyone seems to be in agreement that it\u2019s not only un-evolved or distasteful to feel insecure, but that insecurity itself is hindering us from happiness, love, and success.<\/p>\n

But is it really?<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s why insecurity is a good thing in disguise:<\/h2>\n

Insecurity is a call to action.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s your mind saying HELP! I need more skills!<\/p>\n

The skills that insecurity prompts you to develop are either internal skills like accepting yourself, or external skills like developing an expertise.<\/p>\n

If you had all the internal and external skills you needed – including the skill of contentment – then you wouldn\u2019t feel insecure.<\/p>\n

Think back to your school days and when you used to take tests.<\/p>\n

When you had prepared really well for a test, were you insecure when you sat down to take it? No, of course not. You were self-assured and confident because you knew you were going to rock it.<\/p>\n

What about a test you did NOT prepare for? Yeah, sweating nervously and an upset stomach.<\/p>\n

You didn\u2019t feel insecure because you were somehow a bad person or \u201cunworthy of success\u201d. You felt insecure because you were unprepared for the task at hand. That\u2019s where insecurity comes from: a lack of skill or preparedness.<\/p>\n

Insecurity is nothing more than an indication that you need to build one of these three skills:<\/h2>\n

1. The skill of self-love.<\/strong>
\nDeveloping self-love is like quelling test anxiety.<\/em><\/p>\n

Sometimes that\u2019s it, that\u2019s all you need. Self-love is the foundation for all other skill-building. Without it, things are much more difficult than they need to be.<\/p>\n

This way, you\u2019re no longer anxious about your inherent treat-taking ability. You can get better at self-love by accurately seeing the whole situation for what it is: an opportunity to build skills. It puts your mind at rest so it can focus on productive things instead of collapsing in a heap of false-alarm insecurities.<\/p>\n

2. The skill of discernment.<\/strong>
\nDeveloping discernment is like showing up for the right test.<\/em><\/p>\n

Sometimes you\u2019re feeling insecure because you are in a situation you\u2019re not ready for. You\u2019re pushing yourself too hard, too fast, and you\u2019re going too many steps ahead.<\/p>\n

For example, if you\u2019ve only just learned your multiplication tables and you roll into a calculus test, you\u2019re going to feel intimidated because there\u2019s no earthly way.<\/p>\n

You can get better at discernment by objectively assessing where you are in relation to what you want. Once you have a lay of the land, then the emotional charge is gone. You can go about understanding the sequenced outline that will get you where you want to be faster.<\/p>\n

3. The skill for the task at hand.<\/strong>
\nDeveloping specific expertise is like studying well for the test in front of you.<\/em><\/p>\n

Sometimes you already have a lot of self-love and great discernment. At that point, the only thing that could possibly be missing is straightforward action-taking and patient skill-building for the task at hand.<\/p>\n

When you study, you\u2019re more prepared, and therefore more confident. You don\u2019t see success as a measure of your self-worth; that would be silly. You see it as an accurate assessment of how well you prepared and integrated the material.<\/p>\n

Life rarely appears as straightforward as a test in school, but if you consider it as an analogy, the world becomes much simpler. Insecurity becomes a tool to enhance your life, rather than a foggy hindrance. With that kind of approach, you can\u2019t help but become successful in good time.<\/p>\n

Sarah Jones is the founder of Introverted Alpha<\/a>, where she helps smart introverted men attract women naturally. Download your free Core Confidence Training and free 60-page eBook, “Why Pick-Up Doesn’t Work For Introverts & What Works Instead” at IntrovertedAlpha.com<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

In our modern self-help-infused culture, we treat insecurity like the archenemy.<\/p>\n

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