{"id":2805,"date":"2010-06-26T09:44:00","date_gmt":"2010-06-26T17:44:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=2805"},"modified":"2013-09-30T07:52:19","modified_gmt":"2013-09-30T15:52:19","slug":"being-stuck","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/being-stuck\/","title":{"rendered":"Being Stuck"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;\" class=\"sharethis-inline-share-buttons\" ><\/div><p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.movements.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2008\/04\/34776777quicksand-1.jpg\"><\/a><\/p>\n<p>&#8216;I feel the most fulfilled and perform best when I am helping others in a direct capacity, and am learning in a collaborative work environment.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>I recently told a friend this. \u00a0Being able to put such thoughts into concise expression hasn&#8217;t always been easy for me. \u00a0In fact, in my past, I&#8217;ve actually had different ideals, which I&#8217;ve gravitated toward. \u00a0These ideals had little to do with my aforementioned paraphrase.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve done considerable research on my interests and passions as well as possible career options, which take advantage of the intersection of these areas. \u00a0I&#8217;ve read numerous books on these subjects, seen documentaries and lectures on the topics, and sought out a variety of mentors and a number of individuals in my own career search and selection. \u00a0I&#8217;ve even done career assessment through surveys. \u00a0I recently took one of these types of career assessments. <img title=\"More...\" alt=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/wp-includes\/js\/tinymce\/plugins\/wordpress\/img\/trans.gif\" \/><!--more--><\/p>\n<p>The\u00a0Strong Interest Inventory\u00a0is based on\u00a0Holland Codes, and is a common career assessment tool. \u00a0I&#8217;ve utilized this testing in the past but for some reason my latest assessment provided a new perspective for me, and what I learned was quite revealing. \u00a0Not only was the view interesting and relevant to me, but I believe my insights were not unique. \u00a0This explains my reasons for writing about this subject. \u00a0I believe my thoughts are relevant to many of you as well.<\/p>\n<p>[**] While on a trip to my hometown of Santa Cruz, California, I took time to meet up with\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/santacruzuniversity.com\/\">David\u00a0Thiermann<\/a> to chat about my current career direction. \u00a0(I am refocusing from entertainment marketing to mental health.) \u00a0In the past, I have worked in a few environments where I perceived people caring more about the work getting done than the conditions under which it was completed. \u00a0However, in addition to noticing this, I began to feel a deep\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/nickholtla.blogspot.com\/2010\/05\/career-reflection-and-thoughts-on.html\">disconnect between my own interests and my work<\/a>. \u00a0In bringing this up to David, we began to do some refinement when it came to my own personal ethos.<\/p>\n<p>To give a bit more of a background on the Strong Interest Inventory,\u00a0I believe it would be helpful to better explain the Holland Codes. \u00a0According to\u00a0Wikipedia, the Holland Codes are as follows:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Realistic<\/strong> &#8211; Someone who enjoys working with his or her hands, tools, machines, and things. \u00a0Someone who is practical, hands-on,\u00a0mechanically inclined or\u00a0tool-oriented, and physical.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Investigative<\/strong> &#8211; Someone who enjoys working with theory and information. \u00a0Someone who is analytical, intellectual, scientific or\u00a0explorative.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Artistic<\/strong> &#8211; Someone who is non-conforming, original, independent, chaotic and creative.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Social<\/strong> &#8211; Someone who is supporting, helping, healing\/nurturing, and enjoys\u00a0cooperative environments.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Enterprising<\/strong> &#8211; Someone who is persuasive and enjoys selling, dominating, promoting, status, and enjoys competitive environments, leadership and\u00a0leading.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Conventional<\/strong> &#8211; Someone who is precise, orderly, organized, detail-oriented, clerical, and who has perfect\u00a0attention to detail.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>[**] Of course these self-rating and selecting types of surveys can vary by moment. \u00a0At the exact moment I took this test with David, he found me to be feeling most capable and motivated toward the\u00a0<strong>S<\/strong>ocial,\u00a0<strong>E<\/strong>nterprising\u00a0and\u00a0<strong>A<\/strong>rtistic\u00a0categories. \u00a0The most interesting part about this experience was David&#8217;s comment about our society and how it tends to treat\u00a0<strong>S<\/strong>ocial\u00a0categories. \u00a0David mentioned that in his experience, he&#8217;s noticed that society tends to encourage people within the\u00a0<strong>S<\/strong>ocial category to move toward\u00a0<strong>E<\/strong>nterprising\u00a0paths.<\/p>\n<p>BAM! \u00a0His statement hit me like a ton of bricks. \u00a0Not only did I feel this exact stigmatization toward my\u00a0<strong>S<\/strong>ocial\u00a0skills and\u00a0<strong>S<\/strong>ocial\u00a0career options growing up, but I perpetuated them by believing that I could excise them by working in &#8220;Social&#8221; settings, parameters and frameworks within the field of marketing. \u00a0Upon further reflection, leadership and management were, and are, of incredible interest to me. \u00a0As I see it now, my main issue within my experience in entertainment marketing was that in order to achieve leadership roles, I needed two specific things which I did not have at the time: patience and active mentors.<\/p>\n<p>I believe my issues surrounding &#8220;patience&#8221; are based on the fact that I didn&#8217;t enjoy my work. \u00a0It gave me little in return for a lot of hours of hard work, commuting and stress. \u00a0It paid the bills and developed my skill set, but the work was incredibly dull for me. \u00a0What I wasn&#8217;t thinking about at the time was that I valued helping others not the work itself; and, in order to make my way up the corporate ladder, I would need to prove myself in an career path which provided little return back to me. \u00a0What a revelation! \u00a0I only wish I could have made this distinction a bit sooner in my life.<\/p>\n<p>This is not to suggest that by working in more\u00a0<strong>S<\/strong>ocial\u00a0environments I will not run into political situations, frustrations, people who are burned out and miserable, and need to exercise patience on a regular basis. \u00a0However, when I was able to put my career into a\u00a0<strong>S<\/strong>ocial\u00a0framework, for me, the pieces began to better fit together and my current direction made much more sense. \u00a0My purpose is helping others, not about persuading, selling and dominating. \u00a0I enjoy collaborative environments. \u00a0Though I appreciate competitive environments, when it comes at the expense of other individuals it becomes intolerable for me. \u00a0Now that I have had this realization, what is left for me to do? \u00a0Simple. \u00a0Now I need to take the next step. \u00a0I need to figure out a way to tap into more\u00a0<strong>S.E.A.<\/strong> tasks and farm out as many of the\u00a0<strong>C.I.R.<\/strong> tasks as possible. \u00a0This may seem like a simple concept but in better understanding it, it is truly making a\u00a0monumental\u00a0difference.<\/p>\n<p>[**] This post is meant to serve as a reminder to you that no matter much effort and energy you put into your life, you are only going to be able to achieve a level in life that you permit yourself to through such vessels as reflection, dedication, motivation, honesty, openness and risk. \u00a0Even when you believe your current path to be absolute in its representation of your own life, life can still surprise you. \u00a0I know it recently did for me. \u00a0I encourage you to reflect on your own paths and see how you can better tune in to your life whether it is through a career coach, therapist, and friend or loved one. \u00a0As in the wise words of my dear friend David: &#8220;When people stop going through transitions, they stop growing.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/nickholtla\">Nick Holt<\/a> is entering University of Southern California\u2019s Master of Social Work program this year.\u00a0 His background is entertainment marketing and his interests are personal growth and development through a lens of positive psychology.\u00a0 <a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/nickholtla\">Like<\/a><\/em> him on Facebook.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I believe my issues surrounding &#8220;patience&#8221; 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