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‘Intensity’ courtesy of of Julie Pflanzer\/FineArtAmerica<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

It\u2019s not enough to desire to change.<\/p>\n

Even shutting your eyes, gritting your teeth and repeating \u201cI will change, I WILL change, I WILL CHANGE\u201d won\u2019t do the trick.<\/p>\n

Some people say \u201cjust make a decision\u201d to change. \u00a0And that sometimes works (If the surrounding psychological conditions are right).<\/p>\n

But what if you don\u2019t know the processes involved in making a change? \u00a0(Yes, there are specific processes!) There are numerous change techniques available on the internet, and some, like EFT are very gentle. But if you want to make a quick<\/em><\/strong>, powerful, lasting change – you need something stronger than desire.<\/p>\n

You need energy: an intense, powerful, lightening-bolt of energy.<\/p>\n

One way to think about making a change is in terms of physics: it takes more energy to get an object to start moving that it does to sustain that movement.<\/p>\n

This is one reason why \u2018desiring\u2019 to change is not enough. You may feel very strongly that you want<\/span><\/em> to change but unless that \u2018want\u2019 power is directed correctly and effectively it won\u2019t effect a change.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s use a metaphor to make this clearer.<\/p>\n

Think of a strongly established (negative) belief as being similar to an electromagnet, those large ones that they use in scrapyards to lift cars. The more energy you run through it, the more powerful it becomes and the more it attracts (metal\/other thoughts) to itself.<\/p>\n

A strong belief constantly has mental energy running through it, and whilst it operates it attracts<\/em> incoming information and then distorts<\/em> the interpretation to fit in with the beliefs central theme.<\/p>\n

For example, if your \u2018magnetic\u2019 belief is that you can\u2019t be successful, then (because of it) you might tend to discount and ignore any successes you do have. You might not see your small achievements because you are automatically invalidating them. Beliefs have a particular sorting effect on the content of our thoughts that causes us to exclude information that contradicts them (even if those contradictions are good for us!).<\/p>\n

Beliefs are also known as frames<\/strong> and what do their physical counterpart \u2013 picture frames – actually do? They include<\/strong> certain things, and exclude<\/strong> others\u2026. They draw your attention to what is in the frame and encourage you to keep looking at it. They frame!<\/p>\n

The stronger your belief, the more it frames<\/strong> your perspective according to its theme. And the stronger it is, the harder it is to change, that is, to see outside the frame. That\u2019s why battling with a belief is a bit like stretching a rubber band, only to have it bounce back.<\/p>\n

Do you see why \u201cI really, really WANT to change\u201d is not enough? It\u2019s like trying to budge a ton weight by stroking it.<\/p>\n

What you need is a lightening bolt that will disable, even cripple, the machinery running that electro-magnet<\/strong> belief.<\/p>\n

Where do you get that energy from?<\/p>\n

Your emotions. Your strong, strong emotions\u2026<\/p>\n

Two of perhaps the most powerful<\/em> emotional states come from your YES and your NO. Isn\u2019t that right?<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t you have things you can say a passionate YES to? I mean, really say YES too?<\/p>\n

In fact, Bobby Bodenhammer, developer of www.renewingyourmind.com<\/a> said to me once that life consists of what you say \u2018yes\u2019 and what you say \u2018no\u2019 to. If they have that much determining effect, surely they have the power to commission and decommission beliefs\u2026think about it\u2026.<\/p>\n

From age two you have practiced the power of NO, have you not? Are their certain things that repulse you: that you would never do? What if someone tried to take your kidney away? Would you be able to say NO to that? A congruent, forceful, focus NO has a lot of power.<\/p>\n

The thing is: most people are too sedate or bound with cultural taboos to change this way.<\/p>\n

One problem is that your mind is designed to reinforce your own personal status quo. That\u2019s why it takes the short, powerful burst of energy to disable the old belief. It takes your focused power of NO to decommission it, to put a spoke in the works.<\/p>\n

Equally, when you use your outrageously passionate YES to turn a thought into a new belief, the more passion you use, the faster the belief will become a self-reinforcing attractor. It will become like that electromagnet and start drawing attention to itself.<\/p>\n

But because of cultural, social and personal inhibitions, do you have the courage to act crazy enough to get your passion up? If you are normally fairly reserved, if displays of emotion are frowned upon in your circles (and I\u2019m English, we just don\u2019t DO stuff like that!) then your cultural frames are going to bind you to not changing.<\/p>\n

Your body and mind might not be used to acting in such a way as to generate that strength of state. But the truth is, you are just going to have to get used to it. The average time it takes to change a belief using this method is ten minutes.<\/p>\n

In fact, I used it with a client a few days ago. I got her to elicit a massive NO to one belief, and later, a powerful YES to her new beliefs. She reported instant changes in thinking.<\/p>\n

So often we get caught up the content of a belief. The belief says \u201cYou\u2019re worthless\u201d and you shout back \u201cNo I\u2019m not\u201d. The belief says \u201cYes you are\u201d and so on! It\u2019s like trying to punch your way out a plastic bag.<\/p>\n

But when you step back from a belief, mentally step back, you automatically put yourself in a position of power.<\/p>\n

This is a secret to the functioning of human consciousness that not many people know \u2013 your ability to step back from your own thoughts gives you a structurally dominant position from which to change them.<\/p>\n

The mere fact that you are thinking ABOUT your thought rather than engaging and struggling WITH it MEANS you can more easily change it.<\/p>\n

From this position ask yourself:<\/p>\n