{"id":26797,"date":"2014-07-28T10:07:54","date_gmt":"2014-07-28T18:07:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=26797"},"modified":"2014-07-30T20:25:21","modified_gmt":"2014-07-31T04:25:21","slug":"11-times-need-stop-making-big-deal-happy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/11-times-need-stop-making-big-deal-happy\/","title":{"rendered":"11 ‘Times’ You Need to Stop Making A Big Deal About To Be Happy"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Have you ever felt like you’re unhappy and it’s not exactly your fault?<\/p>\n

More often than not, somebody said something you don’t agree with or some little thing happen. You start sweating the small stuff. Then you become unhappy.<\/p>\n

It’s because we think too much. We talk too much. We blow things out of \u00a0proportion.<\/p>\n

We need to stop making a big deal out of things.<\/p>\n

The onus is on you. It’s time to take a breather, calm yourself and put things into perspective.<\/p>\n

Here are 11 times you need to stop making a big deal about to be happy<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

1) The time you spent some money<\/strong><\/p>\n

A lot of us make a big deal out of this. And it happens often because we have to pay bills.<\/p>\n

Relax. You aren’t going broke or becoming destitute. You have to spend to survive. Money will come back to you in due time anyway.<\/p>\n

2) The time you made a mistake\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mistakes are like oxygen. Everybody makes them all the time.<\/p>\n

Nobody is perfect and when you put it like that, it’s not a big deal at all, right?<\/p>\n

Learn from your mistake. Grow from it and don’t do it again.<\/p>\n

3) The time you did something embarrassing<\/strong><\/p>\n

Usually, it’s all in your head. You think you showed the “whole” world how you screwed up and “everybody” is laughing.<\/p>\n

Nah. Relax. You’re your worst heckler. Not many saw you at your lowest and not many are laughing.<\/p>\n

4) The time you failed in your endeavour<\/strong><\/p>\n

And here you’re your worst critic. It’s only us that remembers all our faults and the losses we made, which are usually exaggerated.<\/p>\n

Failure is honestly your best friend. You’ll grow the fastest that way. So keep failing and pick yourself up.<\/p>\n

5) The time your mom nagged at you<\/strong><\/p>\n

Your mom loves you. You know that right?<\/p>\n

I know. It’s annoying, but it happens. She doesn’t do it out of spite. Just listen, take what you need and be happy.<\/p>\n

Don’t go nuts about how you think you come from a problematic family or something.<\/p>\n

6) The time your friend commented something that annoyed you<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don’t take it personally! Talk to him or her and clear it out. Don’t let a simple misunderstanding escalate into something that could have been prevented in the first place.<\/p>\n

7) The time you had a bad day<\/strong><\/p>\n

It was only one day. Other days are always better right?<\/p>\n

8) The time you fought with your partner<\/strong><\/p>\n

Fights usually become fights after emotions get in the way and things keep escalating.<\/p>\n

Calm down and be in the right state of mind to solve the situation peacefully.<\/p>\n

Then move on. Don’t make a big deal out of it. Don’t bring it up again.<\/p>\n

9) The time you wanted to publicly argue on social media<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nobody ever truly wins an argument online. It’s just stupid.<\/p>\n

If you ever feel upset over something you read online, let it be. Only little kids see the need to show that they’re the “loudest” on the internet.<\/p>\n

10) The time you were shouted at<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nobody ever likes to be shouted at.<\/p>\n

You shouldn’t make a big deal about it because, you don’t deserve it.<\/p>\n

The people who raise their voices are just plain angry folks who are making a big deal out of it all.<\/p>\n

11) The times you thought things were not going well and you were going to lose it all<\/strong><\/p>\n

Well, you’re still still here right?<\/p>\n

You didn’t die. And you didn’t lose it all. In fact, I’m willing to bet things turned out better than expected.<\/p>\n

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12 Things Happy People Don\u2019t Give a F**K About!<\/a><\/p>\n

Time to shed the crap in life and start being happy! This free book is available through\u00a0this link to Alden Tan<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Alden Tan keeps it real at his blog and writes about\u00a0<\/i>motivation in unconventional ways<\/i><\/a>.<\/a>\u00a0His two main passions are Bboying and writing.\u00a0<\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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