{"id":25244,"date":"2014-03-31T22:31:14","date_gmt":"2014-04-01T06:31:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=25244"},"modified":"2015-11-22T19:26:49","modified_gmt":"2015-11-23T03:26:49","slug":"3-growth-crushing-lies-probably-told-today","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/3-growth-crushing-lies-probably-told-today\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Growth-Crushing Lies You Probably Told Yourself Today"},"content":{"rendered":"
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What if the only thing between you and everything you ever wanted\u2026 was you?<\/p>\n

As a coach helping people climb out of the ruts they\u2019ve put themselves in, and take action to create lives they absolutely love, I see it unfold time and time again:<\/p>\n

We set big goals for ourselves, and have huge ideas about the way we want to be living, working, and playing. But somehow\u2026 it never comes to fruition.<\/p>\n

Why? Because we trick ourselves (and sometimes the people around us) into thinking we can\u2019t cross the finish line. Sometimes, we don\u2019t even start the race.<\/p>\n

This is self-sabotage at its finest. But the good news is, there\u2019s a way around it.<\/b><\/p>\n

Think you\u2019re not making statements that are blocking your potential, and holding you back from kicking butt all over the place? You might want to think again.<\/p>\n

Over the years, I\u2019ve pinned down the three BIGGEST white lies people tell themselves all too often that hold them back from their greatness.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the list, along with a few ways to flip these fickle phrases, and make them work in your favor.<\/p>\n

The top 3 white lies that hold you back from kicking butt<\/b><\/p>\n

#1 \u201cI\u2019m too busy.\u201d<\/b><\/h1>\n

While we\u2019re being honest here, I\u2019ll cut to the chase: \u201cI\u2019m busy\u201d is bullshit.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t misunderstand me. I\u2019m sure you have a full schedule. Most of us do. But the reason I\u2019m picking on the term \u201cI\u2019m busy\u201d is because it\u2019s become a cop out catch phrase for so many.<\/p>\n

Sure, it\u2019s not an outright lie. But it is<\/i> an excuse not to be straight with ourselves, or the people who may be asking for our time, about the reasons why we won\u2019t do something.<\/p>\n

Everyone\u2019s busy. Can we all just take a second and get over that, please?<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll wait.<\/p>\n

There we go. Now, let\u2019s get to the bottom of this.<\/p>\n

\u201cBusy\u201d isn\u2019t really about your timetable. It\u2019s about your priorities.<\/p>\n

Using busy-ness as an excuse is a way of circumventing the fact that you could<\/i> do whatever this task you\u2019re putting off is. But you\u2019re choosing not to.<\/p>\n

What\u2019s a big audacious goal you have but tell yourself you can\u2019t take action on because you\u2019re too busy? Is that really true?<\/p>\n

Or are you watching TV for hours and choosing to sleep in\u2026 instead of making progress? Think about it.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s how to flip it: <\/b>Take a look at your calendar, with a pen in your hand.<\/p>\n

What is it you want to get done? Write a book? Train for that 5k? Paint the house?<\/p>\n

Pick out a few days on your calendar to dedicate to the big task you\u2019ve been too busy to complete. It\u2019ll serve as a reminder of what you need to do and <\/i>nudge you to get to work on those big goals.<\/p>\n

#2:\u00a0 \u201cI\u2019ll do it later.\u201d<\/b><\/h1>\n

It\u2019s a throwaway statement we\u2019re all guilty of using. What makes it so wildly popular? It frees us from accountability, because it shakes off any vested interested we had in getting that task done.<\/p>\n

Ask yourself: what exactly does \u201clater\u201d mean for you when you say it? Does it mean \u201cput it off until I feel like doing it\u201d, or \u201cmaybe glance at it after a good half hour of Facebooking\u201d?\u00a0 What are you waiting for that means a particular task can\u2019t be done now?<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the biggest problem with telling ourselves we\u2019ll \u201cget to it\u201d: usually, it never gets done. We\u2019re human. We forget.<\/p>\n

Procrastination also just doesn\u2019t save time in the long run. When you\u2019re wasting more minutes dabbling in other things instead just crossing an item off your list, something that should take 5 minutes of focus ends up taking much longer.<\/p>\n

Unless you\u2019re telling yourself or the person you\u2019re working with exactly when <\/i>you\u2019re getting something done, it\u2019s a cop out to cover up a lack of focus.<\/p>\n

How to flip it: <\/b>Immediately write down, or open up your notepad on your computer and write down a date for this project you have yet to complete. When are you going to start?<\/p>\n

For example, if you\u2019 really want to write a book, pick three mornings a week where you can spend 30 minutes writing. The same goes with training for a sporting event. Break it down into small chunks and do it<\/i>!<\/p>\n

#3 They\u2019re just lucky!<\/b><\/h1>\n

This is a phrase we tend to toss around when we see someone more successful than ourselves.\u00a0 We assume they had more connections than we did, or got a break we were never offered, or had more cash to throw at their efforts.<\/p>\n

However, when we do this, we\u2019re not just short-changing the efforts of the person we\u2019re envious of. We\u2019re doing ourselves a disservice, because we\u2019re mentally removing ourselves from a position of responsibility when it comes to getting results.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t take the easy way out.<\/p>\n

How to flip it:<\/b> Put yourself in their shoes. What do you think this person really <\/i>had to do to achieve this goal?<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve got a friend who graduated top of their class from law school \u2013 instead of writing them off as a \u201clucky overachiever\u201d, remember: you didn\u2019t see all the hours they spent at the library. If you\u2019re watching an international speaker rock the stage, don\u2019t forget the way they move the crowd might be the result of long-term training with a speaking coach.<\/p>\n

While these little lies are all natural \u2013 but they\u2019re not useful. Start taking action to rise above them.<\/b><\/p>\n

Now, I\u2019m wondering: are any of these phrases finding their way into your life more often than you\u2019d like? Do you know a big white lie you don\u2019t see listed here?<\/p>\n

So\u2026 what\u2019s next for you?<\/p>\n

It\u2019s time to catch yourself every time you say \u201csomeday\u201d, \u201cI\u2019ll do it later\u201d, or \u201cI\u2019m too busy\u201d<\/p>\n

Next time that phrase comes out of your mouth: stop. Think. And get out a pen. It\u2019s time to slip that dream goal into your calendar.<\/p>\n

Even if it\u2019s one small step – reaching out to a colleague, beginning your research – write it down, schedule it in, and make it happen. Do this with the next steps in your journey. Before you know it, you\u2019ll turn \u201cdon\u2019t have time\u201d into \u201cdone\u201d!<\/p>\n

Make the call. Take the step. Watch what happens.<\/p>\n

Liz Brazier is an internationally based accountability coach, productivity strategist, writer and host of the Live Your Life Now\u2122 podcast. She\u2019s dedicated her work and show to helping entrepreneurs find more freedom, flexibility, fun, and control in their busy lives. How? By giving them the inspiration and tools to Focus and Take action NOW \u2013 instead of waiting for \u2018someday\u2019.<\/em><\/p>\n

Liz\u2019s passion is helping entrepreneurs get more ‘stuff’ done so they can create the amazing business and lifestyles they deserve. You can find her following the sun by flying between her two homes in New Zealand and New Jersey, and blogging on her website<\/a>. <\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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