{"id":24183,"date":"2014-02-09T21:54:26","date_gmt":"2014-02-10T05:54:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=24183"},"modified":"2014-02-09T21:54:26","modified_gmt":"2014-02-10T05:54:26","slug":"how-to-bounce-back","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/how-to-bounce-back\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Bounce Back When Life Gets You Down (And Become a Better Person in the Process)"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Bad experiences are a part of life that we all have to deal with. No one is immune. We all have to deal with pain, disappointment and loss. We all have to struggle at one point or another. But it’s how you responds that defines who you become.<\/p>\n

I’m a firm believer that we need adversity in our life. It’s what makes us stronger. It’s overcoming life’s obstacles that makes us grow. I know I wouldn’t be the person I am today had I not been through my fair share struggles.<\/p>\n

I want to help you do the same. I want to help you, not only make it through the tough times, but become a better person in the process.<\/p>\n

Choose to Have a Positive View in Life<\/h2>\n

Your view on life is the set of attitudes, assumptions, and expectations you hold about yourself, other people, and the world in general. Are you a pessimistic or optimistic? Is the glass half empty of half full? Are you trusting or suspicious? Are you generous or stingy?<\/p>\n

When you decide to have a positive life stance, you\u2019re putting yourself in the best position to deal with, and grow from, those bad experiences in life.<\/p>\n

\u201cLife is not the way it\u2019s supposed to be, it\u2019s the way it is. The way you cope is what makes the difference.\u201d \u2013 Virginia Satir<\/em><\/p>\n

You have two choices when life throws\u00a0 a curveball, you can stay positive and understand that sometimes the going gets tough, or you can pout and be mad at the world for all your misfortunes.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re reading this blog, I know you\u2019re that first person, not the second.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s okay to get down sometimes. I\u2019ve been there before, where you just feel like life is out to get you and there\u2019s nothing you can do but throw you hands up and let life have its way with you.<\/p>\n

But eventually you have to pull yourself up and start fighting back. You can\u2019t get stuck in that down and depressed state.<\/p>\n

Think Outside the Box<\/h2>\n

When you find yourself in sticky situation, sometimes the only thing you can do is ride it out. But other times, you may be able to find a solution if<\/i><\/b>, <\/i>you can think outside of the box.<\/p>\n

Let your anger and frustrations fuel your creativity.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s a commercial running right now of young boy at the baseball diamond practicing his swing by himself. He throws the ball up in the air, screams, \u201cI\u2019m the greatest batter in the world!\u201d and then swings for the ball.<\/p>\n

He does this three times in a row and can\u2019t hit the ball once. After the third strike, he thinks for a second then screams, \u201cI\u2019m the greatest pitcher<\/i><\/b> in the world!\u201d<\/p>\n

That\u2019s getting creative.<\/p>\n

Find the Value of Your Bad Experience<\/h2>\n

Whenever something bad happens in life, there\u2019s always a lesson to be learned. But in order to find those lessons, you have to identify two things: The data and the insights<\/p>\n

The data is just the cold hard fact. The insights are the conclusions made from the data.<\/p>\n

The data from the baseball story above was that the kid couldn\u2019t hit the ball in three tries. The insights could have been that he was a terrible batter, but he came to the conclusion that he was an amazing pitcher.<\/p>\n

\u201cFacing difficulties is inevitable, learning from them optional\u201d \u2013 John Maxwell<\/em><\/p>\n

The next time you find yourself having just gone through a bad experience, take the time to dissect what happened. How did you get in that situation? What could you do to prevent it from happening again? How can you handle things better next time?<\/p>\n

Without asking those questions, you won\u2019t be able to grow from that experience. You\u2019ll just be frustrated, upset, and bound to be in the same situation again.<\/p>\n

Make a Change<\/h2>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how much you learn from that bad experience unless it directly changes what you do in the future. The learning only matters if it helps you prevent another bad experience from happening.<\/p>\n

You have all of your data and your insights; now you have to actually turn that into something useful.<\/p>\n

Create a game plan and stick to it.<\/p>\n

Take Control of Your Life<\/h2>\n

Don\u2019t label yourself a victim. Being a victim means you\u2019re not in control and if you\u2019re not in control then it\u2019ll be impossible for you to grow from those bad experiences.<\/p>\n

You have to stay in the driver\u2019s seat when it comes to learning from life\u2019s unfortunate moments, and using them as learning experiences that you grow from. You can\u2019t be the kind of person that just \u201cgoes with the flow\u201d because more often than not that flow is headed somewhere you don\u2019t want to be.<\/p>\n

Life is a series of peaks and valleys, and I really believe it\u2019s what we do and how we respond at the low points in life that determines who we become and the success that we\u2019ll find.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019ve been through hell once, it\u2019s easier the second time.<\/p>\n

Tony J. Robinson is the founder of\u00a0DoReallyGood.com<\/a>, which is the place to go for the information and inspiration necessary to take your life\u2019s most important goals and make them a reality. You can pick up a copy of his free eBook, \u201c8 Killer Resources to Streamline Your Personal Development\u201d\u00a0here<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

Photo credit:\u00a0Doha Sam<\/a>\u00a0\/\u00a0Foter<\/a>\u00a0\/\u00a0CC BY-NC-SA<\/a><\/h6>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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