{"id":1895,"date":"2010-03-13T00:11:51","date_gmt":"2010-03-13T08:11:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=1895"},"modified":"2013-08-21T12:33:08","modified_gmt":"2013-08-21T20:33:08","slug":"some-advice-on-taking-advice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/some-advice-on-taking-advice\/","title":{"rendered":"Some Advice on Taking Advice"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Oscar Wilde, as famous for his witty quips as for his plays and novels, once said, \u201cThe only thing to do with good advice is to pass it on. It\u2019s never of any use to oneself.\u201d Although we can take Wilde\u2019s maxim with a grain of salt, he makes a good point in his usual ironic way. Listening to advice is difficult because, simply put, it\u2019s very often wrong. On the other hand, you could be given good advice that holds generally, but it\u2019s not applicable to your specific situation. Or, what\u2019s worse, you\u2019ve been given some good advice, but it\u2019s not what you<\/span><\/span> want to hear. You don\u2019t listen<\/span><\/span>, and then you make the very mistake you could have avoided by listening to the advice you asked for in the first place. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n


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While there are no definite rules for listening to advice, here are some basic tips for knowing when to heed suggestions and when, as Wilde said, \u201cto pass it on.\u201d <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n


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1. Who\u2019s your source?<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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If you want to know whether you should listen to someone\u2019s advice, the first thing you should do is impartially evaluate the person advising you. It\u2019s easy to think that since X is your BFF, she\u2019ll know exactly what to do in any given situation. Analyze exactly what your dilemma is, then ask for advice from those who have been in similar situations before. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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But, be forewarned that just because someone has been in your shoes before doesn\u2019t mean that your problem will be solved with their same course of action. Cognitive psychologist Daniel Kahneman researched cogniti<\/span><\/span>ve biases in his paper<\/span><\/span> about focusing illusions<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a> . \u201cWhen people consider the impact of any single factor on their well-being,\u201d writes Kahneman, \u201cthey tend to exaggerate its importance; we refer to this tendency as a focusing illusion.\u201d Kahneman suggests that focusing illusions can very often be the main source of error in decision-making.\u00a0 So, it\u2019s very possible that when you take a friend\u2019s advice based on her being in a similar situation before, you may be focusing on only one aspect of your shared experience, to the irrational exclusion of other factors. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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Another big mistake that many people make when asking for advice is selecting the most confident–not the most qualified–person to help them out. A <\/span><\/span>recent NewScientist article<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a> describes an advice-taking study conducted by Carnegie Mellon researcher Don Moore. In the study, Moore gave cash to a group of participants whose task was to correctly guess the weight of several different people based only on photographs. However, the participants were not allowed to guess themselves; rather, they had to buy advice from a group of four volunteer advisors. The participants were not allowed to see the advisors\u2019 weight guesses; they were only allowed to see each advisor\u2019s confidence level.\u00a0 And, just as Moore hypothesized, the advisor who was most confident about his guesses sold the most advice, regardless of his accuracy.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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2. Did you pay for the advice? So what? <\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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In another <\/span><\/span>advice-taking study<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a>, Harvard Business School researcher Francesca Gina determined that people will give more value to advice when they pay for it, regardless of quality. Gina suggests that people tend to overvalue advice for either two reasons. For one, they buy into the \u201csunk-cost fallacy,\u201d meaning that, in trying to get their money\u2019s worth, people will take advice simply because they don\u2018t want to waste funds. Another reason for Gina\u2019s findings may be related to cognitive dissonance, which is a phenomenon that occurs when a person experiences an inconsistency between information one receives and ideas a person believes are true or important about themselves. In Gina\u2019s study, cognitive dissonance occurs when people spend money on advice. Even though the quality of the advice may be poor, they must listen in order to resolve the inconsistency that arises because they feel strongly that they are not the type of person who would spend money unnecessarily. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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3. Do you even need advice? <\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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American author Erica Jong once said, \u201cAdvice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn\u2019t.\u201d Jong\u2019s quote speaks to a fairly common phenomenon in which advice-seekers need only positive affirmation about a particular decision in order to proceed. Ali Hale\u2019s recent Pick the Brain blog post, <\/span><\/span>How to Stop Waiting for Permission<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a> discusses the counterintuitive notion that you must wait for the go-ahead before you try something you\u2019ve already decided you want to do. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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Foregoing advice may be a good idea when we think of the value inherent in learning from mistakes. Tevjan Pettinger, in his P<\/span><\/span>ick the Brain article,<\/span><\/span> \u201c<\/span><\/span>How to Learn from Mistakes<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a>\u201d<\/span><\/span>, explains how mistakes are a necessary part of self-improvement. Taking adv<\/span><\/span>ice to heart too often can lead<\/span><\/span> to a situation in which you are avoiding risk at the cost of potential success. As Theodore Roosevelt once so aptly put it, \u201cFar better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure, than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much because they live in a gray twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat.\u201d<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n


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Pamelia Brown <\/span><\/strong>is a Guest Blogger for PickTheBrain<\/span><\/span>, who writes on the topics of <\/span><\/span>online associate degree programs<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a> .\u00a0 She welcomes your comments at her email Id: <\/span><\/span>pamelia.brown@gmail.com<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/span><\/em><\/div>\n
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