{"id":15122,"date":"2013-08-07T20:39:27","date_gmt":"2013-08-08T04:39:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=15122"},"modified":"2013-08-08T10:12:29","modified_gmt":"2013-08-08T18:12:29","slug":"interview-insanity-how-to-regain-your-self-confidence-when-advancing-your-career","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/interview-insanity-how-to-regain-your-self-confidence-when-advancing-your-career\/","title":{"rendered":"Interview Insanity? How to Regain Your Self-Confidence When Advancing Your Career"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Okay everyone, say it with me\u2026the definition of insanity is\u2026\u201ddoing the same thing over and over again expecting different results\u201d. We all know this to be true but somehow it\u2019s hard to break out of the insanity when you\u2019re looking for a job.<\/p>\n

I bet you\u2019ve heard it\u2019s a numbers game, right? You probably flood the job boards with your resumes, shake hands while delivering your \u201celevator pitch\u201d at countless networking sessions, write cover letters to people you want to work for, sit in lobbies in your power suit waiting to be called for our turn to interviewed and follow any other suggestions because you want (no, deserve<\/i>) a brighter future. Argh!<\/p>\n

The sad truth is, the job search world is completely insane. Here\u2019s a little known fact, the job description was created by IBM in 1942. These job descriptions have guided our job search and interviewing techniques for over 80 years! But how has our world changed since 1942? Let\u2019s see, we\u2019ve seen Equal Rights evolve, wars come and go, the demise of the Iron Curtain, we\u2019ve seen our world\u2019s commercial borders diminish with the internet, just to name a few. Each one of these events has changed the course of human resource management strategies yet we\u2019re still playing by the same fundamental \u2018square hole\u2019 game where the job description is the square hole and we\u2019re trying to be the square peg that fits. Now that\u2019s insanity! So many people feel powerless in this insane world which is the reason I\u2019m passionate about helping people escape this craziness.<\/p>\n

The good news is, it\u2019s not you; it\u2019s the system! Now that you know where the loonies are hidden, here\u2019s how you can take this awareness to use it to your advantage.<\/p>\n

Know Yourself For The Interview<\/em><\/h2>\n

Ian MacIntosh wrote a blog post here earlier last week, \u201cKnowing Yourself Is Everything and How To Do It<\/a>\u201d. In it he said, \u201cIf your understanding of yourself is not strong, you are doomed to interact far less effectively with family, friends and colleagues.\u201d Ahh\u2026so true. We think we know ourselves but most of us are still identifying who we are professionally by our resumes and any accolades we\u2019ve received along the way. When we\u2019re in an interview or if we\u2019re networking we tend to rave about what<\/i><\/b> we\u2019ve done and, if we\u2019re lucky, how well<\/i><\/b> we\u2019ve done. This is accomplishment driven style must give way to our new economy\u2019s requirement that we speak more about the contributions we\u2019ve made.<\/p>\n

We use the simple CAB exercise to help people reframe their accomplishments into contributions. First find 3 \u2013 4 accomplishments you\u2019ve had in your career that 1.) you\u2019re proud of accomplishing and 2.) you thoroughly enjoyed the process. Then take each accomplishment and identify the following:<\/p>\n

    \n
  1. C<\/b>hallenge: What was the company\u2019s (or team\u2019s) challenge or goal?<\/li>\n
  2. A<\/b>ctivities: What activities did you go through to meet the challenge or goal?<\/li>\n
  3. B<\/b>enefit: What was the benefit of the accomplishment to the organization?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    A word of caution. Sometimes it\u2019s difficult to know what activities you did that led to those contributions because you were in mastery; or as Mike Martel said in his recent post \u201cWarning: You Don\u2019t Know What You Don\u2019t Know<\/a>\u201d, you were in unconscious competence. But think it through carefully because it\u2019s important to be able to convey how you contribute to the organizations you\u2019ve worked for.<\/p>\n

    Ignore the Job Description<\/em><\/h2>\n

    Job descriptions tend to be loosely correlated to the exact needs of the hiring manager so take them with a grain of salt. Instead, go into the interview with an openness to learn more about the position. They will greatly appreciate your depth of interest to learn more about their needs and priorities. And you will surely shine above the other candidates who think they\u2019re the hammer and every job interview is a nail.<\/p>\n

    In order to do this effectively you need to start asking questions earlier in an interview so you can direct your points of strength at the right target. Here\u2019s what I mean. Let\u2019s say the interview starts with the typical \u201cTell me about yourself\u201d opener. I encourage people to give a very brief summary and then ask for more clarification about the role. Here\u2019s how it looks:<\/p>\n

    \u201cWell, I have a business degree in Marketing from University of Missouri and I\u2019ve been very successful as an executive recruiter for several years But you have my resume of course so I don\u2019t want to waste our time with things you already know so help me understand a little bit more about what you\u2019re trying to accomplish with this role so I know which direction to take it.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

    The more you know about the position the more you can control the conversation. One great add-on response to any answer they provide is \u201cHow so? Tell me more.\u201d \u00a0This helps you get beyond those wasted one word answers which is where the important information lies. The key is to learn as much as you can about the true<\/i> needs and priorities. This will get you out of interview kindergarten and move you to Interview 401 which is where you can regain your confidence.<\/p>\n

    Remember, This Isn\u2019t All About You<\/em><\/h2>\n

    Part of lack of self-confidence in an interview happens because people get completely wrapped around the axel worrying if they\u2019re winning or losing the interview. I\u2019ve seen people focus so much on selling <\/i>themself that they lose their perspective. They forget that the job is open because the company has a problem.<\/p>\n

    Think about this. How would you react if a car salesman approached you on the lot acting like he knew exactly what you needed? You see, that\u2019s the byproduct of the old school interview dynamics. It doesn\u2019t work these days. Now it\u2019s more important than ever to learn what\u2019s important from the hiring manager\u2019s personal viewpoint. Asking good questions can get to the heart of a manager\u2019s priorities. An excellent question might be:<\/p>\n

    \u201cIf I could ask you to take a moment and think of 2 or 3 of the best people you\u2019ve known in your career who\u2019ve had this job <pause to allow them to bring those images to mind>, what do you feel are the traits they possess that made them successful?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

    This question allows you to veer off the sterile skills, qualifications and background topics. Building your self-confidence will come when you see the positive reaction in the eyes of the hiring manager when you tap into the question this way. This is about listening for the unsaid and intangible aspects of the ideal candidate which is the richest information.<\/p>\n

    Like I said, the insanity isn\u2019t your fault. Hopefully now you some clarity on this situation to give you more of an edge than you had before. I believe transparency is vital when living in a seemingly insane world. To me knowing what\u2019s really going on gives me more control and believe me, more control makes me much more confident. I hope it will help you, too.<\/p>\n

    ______________________________________________________________________________<\/p>\n

    Since 1995, Gail Palubiak has been Managing Partner of Lehman Gates Executive Search<\/a>, a successful boutique executive search firm working closely with the leadership at 34 of the top investment firms in the US. She recently followed her passion as Founder of Interview Academy<\/a>, a job search consulting firm designed to help people identify more job opportunities and get more high paying offers. She can be reached @nterviewacademy or at gailp@interviewacademy.org<\/a>. InterviewAcademy.org<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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