{"id":1388,"date":"2010-01-14T10:06:06","date_gmt":"2010-01-14T18:06:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=1388"},"modified":"2013-08-21T08:57:21","modified_gmt":"2013-08-21T16:57:21","slug":"change-heres-how","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/change-heres-how\/","title":{"rendered":"Change – Here’s How!"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Nobody said change was easy.\u00a0 That’s why most people don’t do it.\u00a0 But there is a deeper reason behind why it is hard that if understood, will lead you to take action that will bring you new habits and sustainable results.<\/p>\n

When you evolve and grow as a person you start with: 1) VALUES which create 2) ATTITUDES which create 3) BEHAVIORS.\u00a0 For example, when you were a young child you valued having friends, trusted all people and behaved openly.\u00a0 Then through some unpleasant experiences on the playground you learned that not everyone is trustworthy on the same level so
\nyou behaved by choosing friends that were consistently nice to you.<\/p>\n

Here is a career example:<\/strong> You value your job so your attitude is that you want your boss to notice you in order to advance so you behave by working long hours to be noticed.<\/p>\n

When you want to change your internal culture the process must move in reverse, which is unnatural, making it much more difficult.\u00a0 You must start with: 1) NEW BEHAVIORS which will create 2) NEW ATTITUDES which will create 3) NEW VALUES. \u00a0
\nCareer example:<\/strong> You don\u2019t want to work long hours anymore because it has taken a toll on your family so you want to change your internal culture by starting with a behavior.\u00a0 You will stop working longer and begin working SMARTer.\u00a0 You will change your behavior by setting SMART weekly goals that are broken down into SMART daily goals.\u00a0 Remember SMART Goals are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Results Oriented and Time Framed.\u00a0 Don\u2019t
\nworry about changing your attitude and values \u2013 that will happen on its own.\u00a0 You will find that your attitude will change when your boss notices how your own self discipline has made you more productive \u2013 a smart adjustment on your part without any coaching.\u00a0 You start to help colleagues with goal setting and you begin to value how goal setting is not only a precursor to
\nachievement but also to leadership and a better quality of life.<\/p>\n

If you want to change – just act.\u00a0 Do something differently.\u00a0 Don’t worry about the feelings behind it.\u00a0 They will follow.<\/p>\n

In the words of Henry Ford<\/strong>\u2026<\/p>\n

\u201cIf you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cBusiness is never so healthy as when, like a chicken, it must do a certain
\namount of scratching around for what it gets.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cI am looking for a lot of men who have an infinite capacity to not know what
\ncan’t be done.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cIf money is your hope for independence you will never have it. The only real security that a man will have in this world is a reserve of knowledge, experience, and ability.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

There are a couple of key factors that get in the way of change.\u00a0 Watch out for them because they will become excuses that will lead to self-paralysis.<\/p>\n

These key Leadership Obstructers are:<\/p>\n

1)\u00a0 Guilt and Worry\u00a0 We guilt about the past and worry about the future.\u00a0 Both are useless emotions because we can\u2019t change the past and worrying never changed the future for anybody.\u00a0 Action and goal setting change the future.<\/p>\n

2)\u00a0 Blame and Complain\u00a0 We blame and complain about whatever we can so as not to take responsibility for changing behaviors.\u00a0 It\u2019s easier being a victim.<\/p>\n

Did any of the above Leadership Obstructers ever make you happier or did they simply take you farther away from a healthy life balance?\u00a0 What behaviors will you change to move your life forward? Act!\u00a0 Start now!<\/p>\n

Mary Lee Gannon is a leadership and productivity expert as well as author of \u201cStarting Over \u2013 25 Rules When You\u2019ve Bottomed Out.\u201d\u00a0 She went from being a stay-at-home mother with four children to divorce, poverty and then on to become a president and CEO.\u00a0 Visit her web site at www.StartingOverNow.com<\/em>
\n Related Articles: <\/strong><\/p>\n

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