{"id":13628,"date":"2013-04-16T21:45:56","date_gmt":"2013-04-17T05:45:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=13628"},"modified":"2013-04-16T21:45:56","modified_gmt":"2013-04-17T05:45:56","slug":"the-one-question-that-could-change-your-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/the-one-question-that-could-change-your-life\/","title":{"rendered":"The One Question That Could Change Your Life"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\u201cAm I doing the right thing?<\/p>\n

\u201cCan I pull off quitting my job and starting my own project?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cShould I be doing more?\u201d<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s face it: we constantly ask our ourselves questions that make us doubt our ability to improve. <\/b><\/p>\n

It\u2019s part of our human nature to try as hard as possible to stay within the status quo. Evolution tells us that generations of humans got through arduous living conditions by seeking shelter and safety above all else. Now that we very rarely struggle to find that kind of physical safety, our brains haven\u2019t changed all that much. We\u2019re hardwired to seek the status quo, and our minds do an efficient job of holding us back even when we strive for something new.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve seen many of the people around me suffer from this kind of self-doubt:<\/b><\/p>\n

My best friend spent over two decades being unlucky in love, accepting sub-par treatment from her dates.<\/p>\n

Daniel, a friend I met at a conference last month, spent years putting on weight mindlessly and carelessly.<\/p>\n

I followed society\u2019s advice all the way to grad school and a high-paying job, building a business for someone else instead of myself.<\/p>\n

Has something like this happened to you? We do this when we\u2019re afraid we can\u2019t create a better situation for ourselves, when we believe this is as good as it\u2019s going to get for us, when we can\u2019t fathom of anything better coming our way.<\/p>\n

If our brains are hardwired to stay within the status quo, creating doubt and fear of change, how can we change that hard-wiring? How can we flip the switch on our minds so that the questions we ask ourselves become *helpful* instead of *hurtful*?<\/p>\n

Ask yourself a new question \u2014 a better question.<\/h2>\n

I strongly believe in the power of questions. Asking yourself a thought-provoking question can change your life more than any simple answer can. That\u2019s why I created an entire mobile app<\/a> based on asking interesting questions to elicit lots of thinking and deep-felt answers.<\/p>\n

But there is one question above all that I encourage everyone to ask themselves. At most, it takes a few moments to ponder. If you aren\u2019t ready to answer it, come back to it later. If you are<\/i> ready to answer it, your life may change forever<\/a>.<\/p>\n

The question is:<\/p>\n

Do I deserve better?<\/b><\/p>\n

At some point, we’ve all been guilty of accepting less than we deserve.<\/p>\n

I shared some examples with you of how doubt and fear of change can keep us locked inside our current situations, even if they\u2019re not good for us. Now, allow me to share how these situations changed once the question of what each person deserves<\/i> came into the picture:<\/p>\n

My best friend\u2019s father said to her one day: \u201cI raised you to expect the best from your life.\u201d That changed her mindset and her love life took a turn for the better.<\/p>\n

My friend Daniel hit a low-point when he couldn\u2019t run a 5k and struggled to build his business. Knowing he deserved better, he invested in a coach to help him drop 70 pounds thus far.<\/p>\n

I quit my job (and then restructured my business a few months later) when I realized I wasn’t as free as I wanted to be<\/a>.<\/p>\n

If you asked yourself what you deserve out of your life \u2014 in your career, your relationships, your health, your everything \u2014 does it match up with your current situation?<\/p>\n

Asking yourself what you deserve gives you a clearer roadmap of where you want to go \u2014 your destination. Once you can see your destination, it\u2019s much easier to identify what you need to do get there \u2014 your path.<\/b><\/p>\n

I hope this very simple question opens your eyes and your life to all the awesomeness you\u2019ve always wished for.<\/p>\n

I\u2019d love to hear from you \u2014 could the concept of what you deserve change some part of your life?<\/i><\/p>\n

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When Marcella Chamorro decided to quit her job to live every day as if it’s a vacation,<\/a> she turned her attention to creating a lifestyle that is both meaningful and exciting (watch her TEDx video in Spanish<\/a>). As an author & entrepreneur based in Nicaragua, Marcella guides those who want to quit their jobs, live their dreams, and live a vacation that never ends at The Perpetual Vacation<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

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