{"id":11414,"date":"2012-09-13T21:09:58","date_gmt":"2012-09-14T05:09:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=11414"},"modified":"2013-09-20T09:44:44","modified_gmt":"2013-09-20T17:44:44","slug":"how-to-speak-and-be-heard-by-everyone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/how-to-speak-and-be-heard-by-everyone\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Speak And Be Heard By Everyone"},"content":{"rendered":"
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When speaking to people whether in a social setting or business environment, how you speak is more often recognized than what you say.
\nWhen I was growing up my dad always said to me \u201cSuzanne it\u2019s not what you say, it\u2019s how you say it\u201d.
\nFor years I did not understand this. I had no idea I was speaking in any different manner than anyone else.<\/p>\n

If you want your message heard you must speak the language of who your audience is. If it is one person, find the clues to how they hear, or interpret information. If it is many, include all modalities when sharing your message. Even if your message is telling a joke.
\nOftentimes we want to discard someone because they are dry or boring. Or perhaps too overdramatic. More often than not, they just speak a different language. When we realize this, we become relatable to everyone.<\/p>\n

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Learn to recognize the language looking for a few clues in modalities:<\/p>\n

How do they talk? Are they slow and precise? Quick and dramatic?<\/p>\n

How do they reference information? Do they \u2018feel\u2019 like something is happening? Does it \u2018appear\u2019 something is happening? Do they \u2018see\u2019 how things are going to play out? Does it \u2018sound\u2019 to them like things are going to go a certain way..<\/p>\n

Mirror back
\nIf someone says:<\/p>\n

\u201c I feel like something is going to happen\u201d you know they are speaking kinesthetically
\n\u201c I see what\u2019s going on…\u201d they are speaking visually
\n\u201c It sounds to me like you are on a mission, this is auditory<\/p>\n

These are 3 examples of modalities that are always used. How you incorporate them in conversation will make the difference between being heard and being dismissed.<\/p>\n

If you are speaking with someone who is visual you will want to include language that they can see, so give examples of visuals that relate to your topic.<\/p>\n

Same goes with kinesthetic and auditory. Use language that has them feeling or hearing that which you are trying to say. So rather than having them see the bright white sheets(visual), they will feel the softness on their skin (kinesthetic) or hear them whip in the wind as they hang outside to dry (auditory).<\/p>\n

Mirroring also includes body language. Do as they do. But don\u2019t overdo.<\/p>\n

– If they speak fast, you speak fast.
\n– If they speak slow, you slow down.
\n– If they speak with their hands, do the same.<\/p>\n

You can complain if you want that that is \u2018just not you,\u2019 but my question then would be, wouldn\u2019t it be nice if someone took the time to understand your language?<\/p>\n

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My name is Suzanne Jones. I am a Certified Hypnotherapist and a Writer. I have a bloghttp:\/\/www.pristineperception.com<\/a> and write based on true experiences. I guide people through either Hypnotherapy or my Writing to regain personal and mental control of their lives. Just one degree of perception change is all it takes.<\/em><\/p>\n

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If you want your message heard you must speak the language of who your audience is. If it is one person, find the clues to how they hear, or interpret information. If it is many, include all modalities when sharing your message. Even if your message is telling a joke.
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