{"id":11290,"date":"2012-08-26T22:18:36","date_gmt":"2012-08-27T06:18:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=11290"},"modified":"2013-09-19T13:33:05","modified_gmt":"2013-09-19T21:33:05","slug":"is-fear-holding-you-back-5-ways-to-find-your-courage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/is-fear-holding-you-back-5-ways-to-find-your-courage\/","title":{"rendered":"Is Fear Holding You Back? 5 Ways to Find Your Courage"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Do you give it your ALL at work and in business\u2026or are you afraid to make bold moves because you don\u2019t want to fail…or worse\u2026be disappointed?<\/p>\n

Do you love openly and fully in your relationships\u2026or do you hold yourself back out of a fear being hurt?<\/p>\n

Do you give it your all in life? At everything you do?<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t fret just yet. Because most people hold themselves back in some way, in some aspect of life, whether they know it or not.<\/p>\n

But not you\u2026.not anymore. Not after today. It\u2019s time to start truly being you. It\u2019s time to express yourself fully so you can be the most active version of yourself and truly fulfill your purpose.<\/p>\n

Here are 5 fears to look out for so you can check in with yourself and make sure they\u2019re not holding you back from living a passion-filled, purposeful life:<\/strong><\/p>\n

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1-\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 They won\u2019t like me! <\/strong>You guessed it: it\u2019s the fear of being rejected. Ask yourself: are you holding yourself back at key moments in life just <\/em>because you fear being rejected? You might want to ask yourself why. Often a fear of being rejected stems from a tiny lack of self-confidence.<\/p>\n

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Solution: Don\u2019t long for other people to validate you, your thoughts, or actions. Go for what you want and realize that if you\u2019re \u201crejected\u201d that\u2019s just God or the lawfully-driven universe telling you that there\u2019s a better, more constructive way for you to achieve your goals\u2026you just haven\u2019t found it yet. Whatever you do, don\u2019t give up. Think of rejection as a merge left<\/em> or merge right<\/em> sign, not a stop<\/em> sign.<\/p>\n

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2-\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 What if it doesn\u2019t work! <\/strong>Ahhh\u2026 the all too common fear of failure. Are you holding yourself back because you\u2019re afraid to fail?<\/p>\n

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Good news: what if we told you there\u2019s no such thing as failure? Then you wouldn\u2019t be afraid of it anymore and you certainly wouldn\u2019t let this fear hold you back!<\/p>\n

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Solution: Realize that failure is all in your head. There\u2019s no such thing as failure, there are just results. When you get the results you want it means you should stay on course. And when you get results that you don\u2019t want, it means you need to find out why, and then adjust your approach so you can keep going.<\/p>\n

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What would YOU go for in life if there were no such thing as \u201cfailure?\u201d<\/p>\n

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3-\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 What if I actually make it! <\/strong>You guessed it: the fear of success.<\/p>\n

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Surprised? We\u2019ve all heard it before: many people \u201cstrive for success\u201d but deep down inside they think they don\u2019t deserve it. Don\u2019t let this be you. Tell yourself everyday: \u201cI deserve total success!\u201d<\/p>\n

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Solution: Aside from reinforcing the idea that you DO deserve success, try to find any negative beliefs that could be holding you back\u2026for some people it\u2019s put-downs their parent or teachers told them when they were growing up. For others it\u2019s the idea of our inherent imperfection or sinfulness or unworthiness (think original sin). Whatever it is for you, find it and get rid of it. You, like everyone else, totally deserve success.<\/p>\n

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4-\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 But I\u2019m not perfect! <\/strong>The all too common fear of imperfection. <\/strong><\/p>\n

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Do you hold yourself back because you\u2019re afraid you\u2019ll make mistakes? Because you think you\u2019re not perfect? Guess what? Even your so-called mistakes are valuable learning experiences and they have nothing to do with who you are as a person (if they do, just adjust yourself <\/em>so you become better, stronger, smarter).<\/p>\n

Solution: Realize that right here, right now you\u2019re totally perfect just as you are\u2026Sure, as you live life you\u2019re going to positively grow and learn. But that doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019re inadequate or imperfect here and now. Everything you\u2019ve learned up until now is all you need to take the next step in life. So, go for it.<\/p>\n

5-\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 It makes no sense! <\/strong>Sometimes we\u2019re all just a little afraid in general\u2026it\u2019s the fear of chaos. <\/strong>Maybe you\u2019re afraid to be yourself fully at work, in love, and in life because deep down inside you don\u2019t trust the universe\u2026Because you don\u2019t truly believe<\/em> that everything will work in your favor.<\/p>\n

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A lot of these ideas stem form an unconscious acceptance of chaos theory\u2026 when we don\u2019t trust that we\u2019ll really get what we give in life.<\/p>\n

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Solution: truth be told, you get out of life what you put into it\u2026If you\u2019re holding back because of fear, you\u2019ll get less satisfying results just because you were holding back. So let yourself go. Don\u2019t hold back!<\/p>\n

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About the authors: <\/strong>Cece Suwal and Mark Brener are coauthors of the national bestseller, A Guide To Your Supreme Power and cofounders of The One World Initiative, where you can discover your path to money, love, power, success, life purpose, and meaning. Take their FREE <\/span>\u00a0mini-course<\/span><\/a> on happiness, success, and wealth and visit their <\/span>happiness and success blog<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

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