{"id":10456,"date":"2012-05-22T21:18:32","date_gmt":"2012-05-23T05:18:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=10456"},"modified":"2020-08-20T06:01:10","modified_gmt":"2020-08-20T14:01:10","slug":"5-ways-to-build-better-relationships-with-everyone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/5-ways-to-build-better-relationships-with-everyone\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Ways to Build Better Relationships With Everyone"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Humans are social beings. We enjoy being understood and accepted; feeling that we belong. Maybe that\u2019s why our friends, family and romantic partners are so important to us.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, Western culture values individual achievement over personal relationships<\/a>. We\u2019re good at finding career success but less than stellar at connecting with other people. As a result, our relationships often suffer.<\/p>\n

But wouldn\u2019t you love to rekindle the spark you once had with your significant other? Be respected and understood by your friends? Admired for who you are by your family?<\/p>\n

If you want to make all these things happen, this post is for you.<\/p>\n

Here are 5 ways to build better relationships with everyone<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

1.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong>Learn To Listen and Understand<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cYou never listen.\u201d \u201cYou just don\u2019t get me.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Children say it to parents; wives to husbands; friends to each other. And they\u2019re probably right \u2013 people are always too busy thinking about themselves to listen.<\/p>\n

Everyone wants to share the newest story; the great idea they just had; their thoughts and advice. Most of us are either talking or waiting for our turn to talk. This doesn\u2019t make for good conversation \u2013 or strong relationships.<\/p>\n

The solution is simple: connect with people by listening and understanding.<\/p>\n

When talking to someone, hear them out without judgment or interruption. Focus on what\u2019s being said and do your best to understand. Your attention and empathy will be appreciated by others.<\/p>\n

2. \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0<\/strong>Trust Other People<\/strong><\/p>\n

We often find it hard to trust because we\u2019ve been hurt in the past. People coming out of romantic relationships are especially wary of opening their hearts again. But the truth is, ALL relationships \u2013 family, business, platonic \u2013 require trust.<\/p>\n

Having no<\/strong> trust<\/strong> means worrying about what others are doing, thinking and saying when you\u2019re not around. It means monitoring and controlling someone instead of enjoying them. Doesn\u2019t sound fun, right?<\/p>\n

At the end of the day, you can never know whether someone\u2019s going to hurt you or not. There are no guarantees in life. You can try to protect yourself \u2013 but unless you make it a full-time job, you\u2019re more likely to drive yourself crazy.<\/p>\n

3. \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0<\/strong>Be Honest About Your Wants<\/strong><\/p>\n

Have you ever felt disappointed because someone didn\u2019t act as expected? Maybe your parents said something hurtful; maybe your boyfriend didn\u2019t realize you were mad at him. You probably felt let down at the time.<\/p>\n

But if you think about it, we set ourselves up for disappointment so often. We fail to tell others what we want and then blame them for not reading our minds.<\/p>\n

When you want something \u2013 or want to share something \u2013 be honest about it. Expressing your desires might feel uncomfortable, but it gives the other person a fighting chance to give you what you really want.<\/p>\n

4. Be A Giver<\/strong><\/p>\n

We\u2019re always looking to gain something from other people: positive emotions, knowledge, gifts. This is fine: humans are selfish by nature. \u201cWhat\u2019s in it for me?\u201d is the first question we subconsciously ask ourselves.<\/p>\n

The problem is, you can\u2019t just take and take in relationships. If you don\u2019t give back something of equal or greater value, there\u2019s no reason for other people to stay around you.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why investing yourself into relationships works so well. Make people feel good; gift them your undivided attention; make time for those who really matter. Giving value is the best way to be appreciated by the people around you.<\/p>\n

5. Let Go Of The Need To Be Right<\/strong><\/p>\n

If we disagree with a person, we get angry. If we disapprove of something, we judge. If we feel we know best, we give unsolicited advice. In short, being right feels good; being wrong feels bad.<\/p>\n

But when you think about it, nobody likes being told what to do. Unless a person explicitly asks for advice, they want to be understood \u2013 not lectured. When dealing with other people, let go of the need to be right<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

That means you don\u2019t force your opinion on other people. Don\u2019t be pushy, self-righteous and judgmental\u2013 no matter how you might feel. Even when you think you\u2019re right, understand that different people have different opinions!<\/p>\n

Accept other people for what they are, right or wrong, and they\u2019ll love you for it.<\/p>\n

Conclusion<\/strong><\/p>\n

In today\u2019s world, it\u2019s always about \u201cme, me, me.\u201d This is why our relationships with friends, family and romantic partners are weak. You can\u2019t connect with other people if you\u2019re thinking about yourself all the time!<\/p>\n

The best way to build better relationships with everyone is through positivity. From listening to other people to letting go of the temptation to judge, the tips in this post are all based on being a good person<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Now apply these techniques to your life and build better relationships with everyone.<\/p>\n

Did you find any of these tips useful? Do you have more ideas on building better relationships with people? Leave a comment; I\u2019d love to hear from you!<\/em><\/p>\n

—-<\/em><\/p>\n

George P.H. helps people figure out relationships, find confidence and turbocharge their lives with awesomeness. If you liked this post, check out <\/em>The Man-Up Blog<\/em><\/a> or <\/em>tweet George<\/em><\/a> anytime. <\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0Photo credit: ‘Shaking Hands<\/a>‘ by Big Stock<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Unfortunately, Western culture values individual achievement over personal relationships. We\u2019re good at finding career success but less than stellar at connecting with other people. As a result, our relationships often suffer.<\/p>\n

But wouldn\u2019t you love to rekindle the spark you once had with your significant other? Be respected and understood by your friends? Admired for who you are by your family?<\/p>\n

If you want to make all these things happen, this post is for you. Here are 5 ways to build better relationships with everyone. Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":12163,"featured_media":10461,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[58,6],"tags":[441,66,4651,4629],"yoast_head":"\n5 Ways to Build Better Relationships With Everyone<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Humans are social beings. We enjoy being understood and accepted; feeling that we belong. Maybe that\u2019s why our friends, family and romantic partners are so important to us. Unfortunately, Western culture values individual achievement over personal relationships. 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