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Charisma can help you in many aspects of life.\u00a0 It can help you win friends, be popular with the opposite sex, and even land that new exciting job.\u00a0 There is almost nothing that charisma can\u2019t help you achieve.\u00a0 For some, it is very natural to be charismatic.\u00a0 They just seem to have that \u2018X-Factor\u2019.\u00a0 However it is comforting to know that charisma can also be developed.\u00a0 Here are 4 top methods to help boost your charisma\u2026<\/p>\n

1. Have goals you are working towards<\/strong><\/p>\n

There are a lot more followers than leaders, so if you want to stand out then be a trailblazer.\u00a0 There is nothing wrong with being a follower, but people are naturally drawn to leaders.\u00a0 Set yourself goals to work to.\u00a0 Have a sense of purpose and a vision – a big goal that you are working towards.\u00a0 You may or may not succeed to meet your goal, or it might change over time, but if you always have one, people will naturally feel drawn to you as you present the possibility of an exciting future.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t simply pretend to have a goal as people will quickly see through you and you will lose all credibility.\u00a0 In any case it is far more satisfying to spend life attempting to meet realistic goals.<\/p>\n

2. Love yourself<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t like yourself, how do you expect others to like you? \u00a0Unconsciously you give out thousands of small subconscious clues on how you should be treated, and it all begins with treating yourself right.<\/p>\n

You need to learn to appreciate that you are a unique and valuable human being. \u00a0Accept yourself as you are. \u00a0It\u2019s fine to have some flaws.\u00a0 You can work on improving them.\u00a0 However it must be remembered that the most charismatic people on earth are the ones with flaws.\u00a0 Someone who is perfect is not really all that interesting anyway.\u00a0 People are drawn to people, not robots.\u00a0 Be happy with who you are, wart and all.\u00a0 Love yourself and others will soon follow suit.<\/p>\n

3. Be honestly interested in others<\/strong><\/p>\n

You must have met many people who talk incessantly about themselves? \u00a0This may be OK at first, but after a while it becomes very tiresome and you just want to avoid them.<\/p>\n

Charismatic people appreciate other people just as much as they appreciate themselves.\u00a0 Relax and listen properly to what other people are saying.\u00a0 Give them space to talk.\u00a0 You will learn new things, and they will notice and appreciate that you actually listen to them.\u00a0 The Chinese have a saying which is \u201cYou have two ears and one mouth \u2013 use them in that proportion.\u201d<\/p>\n

Some people struggle concentrating on listening to others, and become anxious that they may forget what they are thinking next.\u00a0 This causes them to not listen properly to what the person was saying, as they struggle to remember what they want to say, then immediately respond to what they say with something totally irrelevant.\u00a0 This will not win yu too many fans, and is irritating to the recipient.\u00a0 Relax, allow that thought to disappear, and listen.\u00a0 This thought will return if it is still relevant.\u00a0 If it is so important, you will remember it again some time in the future.\u00a0 With a little practice listening becomes much easier, and you will enjoy far more productive two way conversations.<\/p>\n

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4. Model someone who you consider very charismatic<\/strong><\/p>\n

Hypnotherapists and NLP practitioners often very successfully utilize this technique.<\/p>\n

It could be a friend, a celebrity, or even a fictional character that you model.\u00a0 You may wish to be like James Bond for example.\u00a0 Don\u2019t try and copy them exactly, just consider how they would act in the situations you face.\u00a0 You have to sometimes be careful with this as it may not be appropriate to blow up the whole building up with your watch, or do a flying kick to the face a la Bruce Lee!\u00a0 Get a \u2018feel\u2019 of a certain character, and how they work on the inside.\u00a0 Try to catch their essence, rather than exactly cloning them.\u00a0 Done with thought and care this can significantly raise your charisma levels.<\/p>\n

So remember you must have goals that you are working towards, love yourself, listen to others, and model yourself on other charismatic people.\u00a0 Try to be charismatic, but don\u2019t try too hard.\u00a0 Watch other people and observe what they \u2018get right\u2019 and what they \u2018get wrong\u2019 in the charisma stakes.\u00a0 This will greatly increase your awareness over time, and help hone your skills.\u00a0 Pretty soon you will notice huge strides in charisma levels, and your success and enjoyment of life will also soar.\u00a0 Now get out there and wow the world with your new charming charismatic self!<\/p>\n

Jon Rhodes is a Guest Blogger for PickTheBrain and a successful clinical hypnotherapist from the UK.\u00a0 If you are interested in self improvement, click here<\/a> for details of his very popular therapeutic sessions.<\/em><\/p>\n

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