{"id":10278,"date":"2012-05-05T21:46:20","date_gmt":"2012-05-06T05:46:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=10278"},"modified":"2014-07-22T18:52:07","modified_gmt":"2014-07-23T02:52:07","slug":"7-smart-ways-to-build-self-confidence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/7-smart-ways-to-build-self-confidence\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Smart Ways to Build Self Confidence"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\u201cYour perception of yourself has an enormous impact on how others perceive you.\u201d – Erin Falconer of Pick the Brain.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u201cIf you really put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price.\u201d\u00a0 ~Author Unknown<\/em><\/p>\n

I believe the best way to build self confidence is by broadening your life experiences. When you work hard to increase your knowledge, skills and experiences, you\u2019ll automatically become a confident person.<\/p>\n

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.\u00a0 ~Ana\u00efs Nin, Diary, 1969<\/em><\/p>\n

As you constantly increasing your exposure to life, you\u2019ll build your confidence in mastering or doing anything.<\/p>\n

Confidence is something that you have to workout like a muscle.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t be confident at everything. We all lack confidence in some areas of life that we are not familiar with. However, those with healthy self esteem will feel OK with not having enough skills, knowledge or experience in a given situation. Because, they are confident in their ability to learn or do something, if it is a MUST – Specially, if you\u2019re passionate about.<\/p>\n

With passion you can do wonders.<\/p>\n

Here are 7 smart (and may be uncommon) ways to build self confidence:<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. <\/strong>Travel:<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI always wonder why birds stay in the same place when they can fly anywhere on the earth. Then I ask myself the same question.\u201d – Harun Yahya<\/em><\/p>\n

Explore the world and get out of your comfort zone.<\/p>\n

When I tried camping in the desert for the first time in my life, it was a scary, yet very exciting, experience. I returned back home with a big self confidence boost. I was so proud of myself that I could do something that most people don\u2019t dare to do.<\/p>\n

Having dinner around fire in desert and watching the foxes playing around you is a super confidence booster.<\/p>\n

2. <\/strong>Walk on Fire<\/strong><\/p>\n

Have you heard of Firewalking?<\/p>\n

It is the act of walking barefoot over a bed of hot embers or stones. Walking on fire has existed for several thousand years, with records dating back to 1200 B.C.<\/p>\n

It is probably one of the ultimate tests of a person\u2019s courage and strength.<\/p>\n

If you can walk on fire, what else can you do?<\/p>\n

Ask around and you might find a place in your country that holds Firewalking events. It is an amazing way to conquer your fears and give your self confidence a BIG boost.<\/p>\n

3. <\/strong>Express Yourself<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s been said that the things that are hard to say are usually the most important.<\/p>\n

Try saying something you believe important but you\u2019ve been holding for a while. Choose a friend or a family member and talk out your mind.<\/p>\n

When you feel the relief of expressing yourself, you\u2019ll have a confidence booster. Express yourself without expecting a certain response from the person listening to you. Talk and don\u2019t expect comments. Whether the feedback is positive or negative, the only thing you should care about is your ability to say what you want to say and feel important.<\/p>\n

As you practice expressing yourself and your ideas, you\u2019ll gain more & more confidence.<\/p>\n

4. <\/strong>Join a Toastmasters Chapter<\/strong><\/p>\n

One of the best places to build your self confidence is Toastmasters.<\/p>\n

It was started by Dr. Ralph Smedly in 1920s and grew to become the world\u2019s largest non-profit organization for public speaking and leadership development, with over quarter a million active members worldwide.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll build your ability to confidently speak in public in a very safe, friendly and empowering environment.<\/p>\n

Go to Toastmasters.org<\/a> and check a club in your city and most probably you will find one.<\/p>\n

5. <\/strong>Learn one new skill every year (at least)<\/strong><\/p>\n

Increase your skill set regularly. Every year you should at least have acquired a new skill. With a powerful skill-set under your belt, you will be confident in your ability to get things done.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll have more experience and you\u2019ll gain more confidence in your ability to deal with different life situations.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll feel that you can accomplish more and that you\u2019re becoming more than average people who stop learning and growing after college!<\/p>\n

Moreover, you\u2019ll impress your friends and family with your newly acquired skills and have a good reputation among your peers as someone who cares about his own personal growth.<\/p>\n

6. <\/strong>Break a record!<\/strong><\/p>\n

I once read this story about Bruce Lee {source<\/a>}<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the quote:<\/p>\n

\u201cBruce had me up to three miles a day, really at a good pace. We\u2019d run the three miles in twenty-one or twenty-two minutes. Just under eight minutes a mile [Note: when running on his own in 1968, Lee would get his time down to six-and-a half minutes per mile]. <\/em><\/p>\n

So this morning he said to me \u201cWe\u2019re going to go five.\u201d I said, \u201cBruce, I can\u2019t go five. I\u2019m a helluva lot older than you are, and I can\u2019t do five.\u201d He said, \u201cWhen we get to three, we\u2019ll shift gears and it\u2019s only two more and you\u2019ll do it.\u201d I said \u201cOkay, hell, I\u2019ll go for it.\u201d So we get to three, we go into the fourth mile and I\u2019m okay for three or four minutes, and then I really begin to give out. I\u2019m tired, my heart\u2019s pounding, I can\u2019t go any more and so I say to him, \u201cBruce if I run any more,\u201d \u2013and we\u2019re still running-\u201dif I run any more I\u2019m liable to have a heart attack and die.\u201d He said, \u201cThen die.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n

It made me so mad that I went the full five miles. Afterward I went to the shower and then I wanted to talk to him about it. I said, you know, \u201cWhy did you say that?\u201d He said, \u201cBecause you might as well be dead. Seriously, if you always put limits on what you can do, physical or anything else, it\u2019ll spread over into the rest of your life. It\u2019ll spread into your work, into your morality, into your entire being. <\/em><\/p>\n

There are no limits. There are plateaus, but you must not stay there, you must go beyond them. If it kills you, it kills you. A man must constantly exceed his level.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

What record can you break today? May be you should try something you thought impossible!<\/p>\n

7. <\/strong>Study Self Confidence<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you study the science behind anything, you can deal with it more intelligently, make smart decisions and take smart actions accordingly.<\/p>\n

Self confidence is no exception.<\/p>\n

Study self confidence and you\u2019ll be smarter in dealing with this subject and incorporating it in your life.<\/p>\n

Check out the Simple Self Confidence Course<\/a> by Erin Falconer and Barry Davenport. I know Erin and Barrie personally and I trust that you\u2019re going to get tremendous value out of their course.<\/p>\n

This course might not be available now, but you can join the waiting list for the next round.<\/p>\n

Finally, I would like to leave you with an inspiring quote that you\u2019ll need to ponder upon a little bit. It says, \u201cLighthouses don\u2019t go running all over an island looking for boats to save; they just stand there shining\u201d.<\/em><\/p>\n

Let your confidence shine!<\/p>\n

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Mohamed Tohami is a bestselling author and the creator of \u201cThe P.A.S. Technique: The World\u2019s Easiest Way To Find Your Passion and Purpose In Life\u201d. Visit his Transformational Motivation<\/a> blog now to grab a free copy of his special report \u201c4 Steps to a Life of Passion<\/a>\u201d.<\/em><\/p>\n

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I believe the best way to build self confidence is by broadening your life experiences. When you work hard to increase your knowledge, skills and experiences, you\u2019ll automatically become a confident person.<\/p>\n

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