Are you getting pumped up with your new exciting project just to give up when it gets hard? Do you start projects never leading them to completion?
This article was made for you. In this article, I will give you 5 secrets that will turn you into a highly persevering people and ensure you don’t give up on your dreams.
Here are the 5 little secrets of highly persevering people
1) They cultivate self-compassion
Would you accept to spend your life with someone that is constantly criticizing you, making you feel that you are not good enough, not capable and unworthy? Well, that’s what most of us are doing with ourself every day! Self-criticism is probably one of the main reasons why we give up.
You may fear that if you are not hard enough on yourself you won’t get much done, but it is a great misconception. In reality, while self-discipline is important, self-compassion is as much or even more important. Studies have shown that having self-compassion helps us being more persistent and more perseverant.
Highly persevering people respect themselves and cultivate sel-compassion.
Here is a challenge for you: ban entirely self-criticism for one week and see what happens.
My guess is that you will 1) feel better 2) get as much or probably more done than usual.
Remember that we are all trying to do our best with our current level of awareness and personal growth. Blaming yourself won’t help, no matter how tempting or natural it may seem.
2) They expect the worse
When we set goals, obviously we want to achieve them. We already envision ourself achieving our goals and feel great about it, don’t we?
However, being too optimistic and failing to expecting the worse is probably one of the biggest mistakes people make when working on their goals.
Before setting a goal for yourself, it is crucial that you prepare yourself mentally to face any challenge that you are likely to encounter in the future.
Ask yourself: what is the worst thing that can happen? Then, multiply it tenfold. Take ample time creating the worse scenarios in our mind, or even better on paper, and think of how you will deal with them. Finally, decide what exactly you are ready to go through before giving up. How will you know it is time to give up?
Simply preparing yourself mentally to face tough challenges will take you a long way and will help you to significantly increase your ability to persevere. You won’t give up to soon anymore!
Highly persevering people, while being optimistic, prepare for the worse.
3) They don’t play the victim
Most of us tend to have unrealistic expectations regarding our goals. We blame ourself when we fail, believing we are not competent enough or unlucky. We enjoy playing the victims telling ourself and everyone around us how hard we tried, how unlucky we were or how stupid we are.
What we often fail to realize is how much work is needed to get where we want to be and how much time it may take to get there.
For instance, it is not uncommon for startup entrepreneurs to work very hard 2 or 3 years on building their companies and fail. They may need several attempts before they eventually succeed or may never succeed for all we know. While it may seem somewhat depressing, it helps you put things into perspective and realize that you may need to take more action or keep persevering before you get results.
Highly persevering people don’t play the victim. Neither should you.
4) They practice meditation
Meditation has many benefits. One of it is the strengthening of your ability to focus on the task at hands. By practicing meditation, you learn to bring back your attention in the present moment.
We are living too much in the past or in the future. When we think of all the things we need to do in order to achieve our goals we easily get overwhelmed. However, by learning to focus your attention on the present moment, you reduce stress, feel less overwhelmed by all the things you need to do, and, as a result, increase your ability to persevere.
Highly persevering people focus on what task at a time and get it done.
Are you getting tired just thinking about all the things you need to do? Why not start practicing meditation today?
5) They get their daily dose of motivation
Zig Ziglar said “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily”. Reading, watching or listening to motivational materials is a great way to set the tone for your day. As you are listening to motivational materials, overtime, you will automatically start picking up some sentences you like and they will become your mantras. These mantras will help you persevere during tough time.
Most of the battles we are fighting happen in our mind, so make sure you get your daily dose of motivation to receive the extra boost you need to persevere during challenging times. When you feel like giving up, chances are that most people feel the same.
Highly persevering people learn to persevere when most people are giving up and it makes all the difference.
What about you? What method are you using to persevere? Share it with me below
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Thibaut Meurisse is the founder of whatispersonaldevelopment.org. Obsessed with improvement, he dedicates his life to finding the best possible ways to durably transform both his life and the lives of others. Check out his free e-book “The 5 Commandments of Personal Development” or order his new book “Goal Setting: The Ultimate Guide To Achieving Goals That Truly Excite You” now on Amazon.