Charismatic people are known to lead successful and productive lives. They charm others, light up the room and command attention wherever they go. The good news is that you too, can develop an aura of charisma about yourself as well. There are many traits that charismatic people possess which you can emulate outwardly as well.
Build up your presence. Presence is the most primary and valuable trait, which all-charismatic people exude. It is something that is essential to making others feel appreciated and important. You cannot fake presence, however, you can increase your presence with practice. Try to focus fully on the current moment rather than your thoughts. Take a deep breath and listen to that breath. It is impossible to be fully listening to your breath and have other thoughts at that moment. Think of the life force pulsing through your body from your head down to your toes for a second and then try to focus all of your attention on the other person. Strive to give the other person your full attention. If you feel your mind start to wander, quickly focus on your breath again and then back to the other person.
Exude confidence. Truly charismatic people exude confidence. They have purpose, passion and self-confidence. Confident people stand tall, sit up straight and have excellent posture in general. Focus on speaking more slowly and slightly lower your tone of voice. Speak clearly and with conviction. This will make you come across as more authoritative.
Show warmth. People are attracted to those who they feel genuinely care about being with them. This means you should make the other person feel comfortable and validated. Resist the urge to judge and criticize. A warm sincere smile and genuine interest in others along with showing empathy can make the difference as to whether a confident or powerful person is perceived as charismatic. Without warmth, a powerful person may simply come across as arrogant.
Engage people with your eyes. Look at people in their eyes when you talk to them as well as when you listen to them. Gaze at them long enough to notice their eye color but don’t stare long enough that they feel uncomfortable. Don’t check your phone or look at your watch.
Use charismatic body language. Body language can be just as important as what you verbally say. It says a lot about you. Charismatic people stand or sit up straight with their shoulders back. They hold their head high but not so high that it comes across as they are looking down on a person. This will also help you speak more clearly and actually feel more confident. Walk with pride and keep your arms and legs uncrossed.
Use gestures. Gestures are non-verbal movements and can be as important as body language. Charismatic people usually keep their hands away from their face while they are speaking. Lightly mirror the other person’s gestures in order to make a closer connection and develop empathy for what they are feeling or expressing. Focus on using hand gestures to punctuate important words.
Listen fully. Charismatic people come across as engaging because they are fully attentive to what the other person is saying. Never interrupt another person while they are speaking. Understand what they are saying and try to empathize with them. Never look around the room and stay directed on them. Pause before you answer a question and look them in the eyes.
Show a sense of humor. Having or developing a good sense of humor will make you more likable and charismatic. Share humorous stories and be able to laugh at yourself. Never laugh about other people. Laughing at others and making jokes at other’s expense will give you the opposite effect of being charismatic.
Show a positive attitude. Charismatic personalities are optimistic and up beat. They talk about things that are positive and keep the negatives at bay. Focus on things you enjoy and never speak about the things you don’t like. People who are charismatic are people who are happy with whom they are and are pleasant to be around.
Make others feel special. We are drawn to charismatic people because we feel comfortable and special around them. They have a way of making others feel they are appreciated and understood. Respect people as your equal no matter who they are never talk down to anyone. Charismatic people are empathetic and focus the spotlight on others. Learn people’s names and give sincere and authentic compliments when the proper time arises.
Leesa Rowland is an author, actress and animal advocate who went from the family ranch in Texas to the bright lights in Hollywood and New York. She has had a successful career in acting, and has a vast cult following for her roles predominantly in horror movies. She has studied method acting, yoga, spirituality, charisma, Buddhism, and metaphysics for over twenty years. Leesa is now sharing her wisdom to help others discover their inner stars in her new book Discovering the It Factor within You. She invites readers on a compelling journey through her past and her contemplative path to self-discovery. She can be reached at http://discoveringtheitfactorwithinyou.com/. The book is also available at http://www.amazon.com/ and other retailers.
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