Comments on: You Are Neglecting Your Most Important Relationship http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/you-are-neglecting-your-most-important-relationship/ Sun, 14 Mar 2010 06:36:42 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: AJ http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/you-are-neglecting-your-most-important-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-75692 AJ Sat, 03 Oct 2009 22:28:25 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/?p=1077#comment-75692 One small correction: introverts are actually only one quarter to one third of the population! It's one of many reasons we tend to be so misunderstood--we're a minority. Either way, this was a really great post and I think something I needed to read. In this wired, keep up with the Joneses world, self-love is slipping for many people. Thank you so much for writing it! One small correction: introverts are actually only one quarter to one third of the population! It’s one of many reasons we tend to be so misunderstood–we’re a minority.

Either way, this was a really great post and I think something I needed to read. In this wired, keep up with the Joneses world, self-love is slipping for many people. Thank you so much for writing it!

]]> By: Eneida http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/you-are-neglecting-your-most-important-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-75636 Eneida Fri, 02 Oct 2009 03:08:54 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/?p=1077#comment-75636 Thank you for this post. The timing was perfect for me to find! Thank you for this post. The timing was perfect for me to find!

]]> By: Ali Hale http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/you-are-neglecting-your-most-important-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-75627 Ali Hale Thu, 01 Oct 2009 07:21:21 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/?p=1077#comment-75627 Thanks for the comments all -- glad I struck a chord, and that I could provide a reminder to take some time out for yourself. There's only so much you can give before you need to recharge. Thanks for the comments all — glad I struck a chord, and that I could provide a reminder to take some time out for yourself. There’s only so much you can give before you need to recharge.

]]> By: Josten http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/you-are-neglecting-your-most-important-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-75622 Josten Wed, 30 Sep 2009 18:25:55 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/?p=1077#comment-75622 That is one thing i believe most of us forget we treat others better than ourselves. That is something that can be self destructing to a power greater than we can imagine. Thank you for this post informing me and reminding me to work even more towards loving myself even more. That is one thing i believe most of us forget we treat others better than ourselves. That is something that can be self destructing to a power greater than we can imagine. Thank you for this post informing me and reminding me to work even more towards loving myself even more.

]]> By: Tristan Lee http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/you-are-neglecting-your-most-important-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-75619 Tristan Lee Wed, 30 Sep 2009 17:14:56 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/?p=1077#comment-75619 Hey Ali. Nice post. I think the relationship with oneself is one of the most important relationships we can have. A lot of people do treat themselves badly, but with positive internal talk, it can make oneself more mature, independent, open-minded, and happy. Thanks for this. Hey Ali. Nice post. I think the relationship with oneself is one of the most important relationships we can have. A lot of people do treat themselves badly, but with positive internal talk, it can make oneself more mature, independent, open-minded, and happy. Thanks for this.

]]> By: Gail @ A Flourishing Life http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/you-are-neglecting-your-most-important-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-75613 Gail @ A Flourishing Life Wed, 30 Sep 2009 13:48:58 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/?p=1077#comment-75613 Thanks for a beautiful post, Ali. I think of it as counting myself in. Just as everyone and everything in my life counts, so do I! If we keep giving out without replenishing ourselves, the well will eventually run dry. Ongoing attention to balance and self-care is essential to preventing burnout and living a happy life. Thanks for a beautiful post, Ali. I think of it as counting myself in. Just as everyone and everything in my life counts, so do I! If we keep giving out without replenishing ourselves, the well will eventually run dry. Ongoing attention to balance and self-care is essential to preventing burnout and living a happy life.

]]> By: Jason Cooper http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/you-are-neglecting-your-most-important-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-75585 Jason Cooper Tue, 29 Sep 2009 21:00:05 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/?p=1077#comment-75585 Fantastic post! I have written many a post on this subject, especially in regards self-knowledge here: http://www.knowledgereform.com/2009/09/14/self-knowledge-is-power-knowledge-of-self-towards-successful-living/ The problem is that we're so distracted by daily tasks, such as going to work, socialising and watching the latest soap on the box. There are also people who don't like to spend time with themselves because they are afraid of what they may find - emptiness. As I mentioned on another post, “…every man needs to be alone with his thoughts once in a while.”: http://www.knowledgereform.com/2009/08/08/alan-watts-conversations-with-myself/ Cheers! Fantastic post!

I have written many a post on this subject, especially in regards self-knowledge here:

http://www.knowledgereform.com/2009/09/14/self-knowledge-is-power-knowledge-of-self-towards-successful-living/

The problem is that we’re so distracted by daily tasks, such as going to work, socialising and watching the latest soap on the box.

There are also people who don’t like to spend time with themselves because they are afraid of what they may find – emptiness.

As I mentioned on another post, “…every man needs to be alone with his thoughts once in a while.”:

http://www.knowledgereform.com/2009/08/08/alan-watts-conversations-with-myself/

Cheers!

]]> By: Mike Williams http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/you-are-neglecting-your-most-important-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-75581 Mike Williams Tue, 29 Sep 2009 19:47:15 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/?p=1077#comment-75581 Great post most people truly don't do things for themselves and that leads to stress Great post most people truly don’t do things for themselves and that leads to stress

]]> By: Positively Present http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/you-are-neglecting-your-most-important-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-75579 Positively Present Tue, 29 Sep 2009 19:23:55 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/?p=1077#comment-75579 Ali, you're so right. Most of us ARE neglecting the most important relationship in our lives -- the relationship we have with ourselves. This relationship has an effect on all other relationships and is so vital to our lives, yet we don't focus on it as much as we should. Thanks for sharing your great tips here. I'm sure they'll help a lot of people (including me!) to develop a better relationship with themselves. Ali, you’re so right. Most of us ARE neglecting the most important relationship in our lives — the relationship we have with ourselves. This relationship has an effect on all other relationships and is so vital to our lives, yet we don’t focus on it as much as we should. Thanks for sharing your great tips here. I’m sure they’ll help a lot of people (including me!) to develop a better relationship with themselves.

]]> By: Armen Shirvanian http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/you-are-neglecting-your-most-important-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-75578 Armen Shirvanian Tue, 29 Sep 2009 17:05:59 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/?p=1077#comment-75578 Hi Ali. I think we sometimes think about if it makes sense when we focus mostly elsewhere, while problems arise for ourselves. It is quite counter-intuitive that people would let themselves go through unnecessary extra hardship, while not allowing that for others, when that is not a sustainable practice. It is somewhat procrastination-related, because we inherently know we can't keep focusing on others more than ourselves for that long, before the topic of concern is our own health or condition. The point about not being afraid to be selfish is worth absorbing. Alex Shalman tweeted a week or two ago with a message from a Dean at his school who said to focus more on helping himself than helping others, at least at that time. Growth has to start from us. Thanks for the article. Hi Ali.

I think we sometimes think about if it makes sense when we focus mostly elsewhere, while problems arise for ourselves. It is quite counter-intuitive that people would let themselves go through unnecessary extra hardship, while not allowing that for others, when that is not a sustainable practice.

It is somewhat procrastination-related, because we inherently know we can’t keep focusing on others more than ourselves for that long, before the topic of concern is our own health or condition. The point about not being afraid to be selfish is worth absorbing. Alex Shalman tweeted a week or two ago with a message from a Dean at his school who said to focus more on helping himself than helping others, at least at that time. Growth has to start from us. Thanks for the article.

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