Comments on: Why Intelligent People Tend to Be Unhappy http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/ Sun, 21 Mar 2010 00:39:09 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Marian http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/comment-page-1/#comment-79917 Marian Thu, 18 Mar 2010 20:42:18 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/#comment-79917 I completely agree. As a child, I was always best in my class, which made me very isolated and shy since people would constantly reject me. All you grow up having is your intelligence and your passions. It is difficult to cope with some situations which other people find easier to cope with; I am prone to stress always and keep over-analyzing events, people and things. There's simply very little awareness that intelligent people need other types of support. I am bored to death by 'female' activities; and as I don't drink and smoke, I feel left out of a lot of social situations. I also find it very hard to relate to people my age (I am 24) as I usually don't have their interests. I completely agree. As a child, I was always best in my class, which made me very isolated and shy since people would constantly reject me. All you grow up having is your intelligence and your passions. It is difficult to cope with some situations which other people find easier to cope with; I am prone to stress always and keep over-analyzing events, people and things. There’s simply very little awareness that intelligent people need other types of support. I am bored to death by ‘female’ activities; and as I don’t drink and smoke, I feel left out of a lot of social situations. I also find it very hard to relate to people my age (I am 24) as I usually don’t have their interests.

]]> By: Michael http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/comment-page-1/#comment-79390 Michael Thu, 04 Mar 2010 18:39:06 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/#comment-79390 Creative people are on their own plain. If they try to express themselves, peoples eyes glaze over. If they try to appreciate other peoples' whims, they are quickly bored and frustrated. Cliche' phrases, predictable humor, football games - creative people evolve beyond that. Creative people are on their own plain. If they try to express themselves, peoples eyes glaze over. If they try to appreciate other peoples’ whims, they are quickly bored and frustrated. Cliche’ phrases, predictable humor, football games – creative people evolve beyond that.

]]> By: Minco http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/comment-page-1/#comment-78824 Minco Wed, 17 Feb 2010 23:19:42 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/#comment-78824 hey people, that is one hell of a good and insightful discussion. i would like to take anyone's opinion.... I have a problem conforming with people because i live in a fake and superficial community that is only marked by appearances. If you are good at pretending, then you are one of the key players of the game. But whenever i am with most people i feel detached and i am suddenly in the observer mode, seeing the top view perspective with no involvement. It is my faith in myself, my faith in God and some little voice of wisdom that keeps me going on my life journey without looking back. I cannot deny that i am still learning but I thank our creator for all the blessings that i have. If you feel unhappy, think of all the blessings that God gave you and think that things could have been alot worse. Thank you all, i hope the dose was not concentrated :) hey people,

that is one hell of a good and insightful discussion. i would like to take anyone’s opinion….

I have a problem conforming with people because i live in a fake and superficial community that is only marked by appearances.
If you are good at pretending, then you are one of the key players of the game.
But whenever i am with most people i feel detached and i am suddenly in the observer mode, seeing the top view perspective with no involvement.
It is my faith in myself, my faith in God and some little voice of wisdom that keeps me going on my life journey without looking back. I cannot deny that i am still learning but I thank our creator for all the blessings that i have. If you feel unhappy, think of all the blessings that God gave you and think that things could have been alot worse.

Thank you all, i hope the dose was not concentrated :)

]]> By: Michelle http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/comment-page-1/#comment-76871 Michelle Tue, 01 Dec 2009 00:39:30 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/#comment-76871 Actually "House" had an episode on last week that dealt with this very issue. The patient had an off the charts high IQ, & it turned out that he couldn't handle not being able to relate anymore, so he started taking cough medicine & a shot of alcohol to numb his brain cells. That's when he met his current wife. Once in the hospital after they cleared it from his system, he went back to his previous intelligence level & started drawing complex math & when he tried to explain it to her & she didn't get it. He started to feel depressed again & her lack of intelligence annoyed him. In the end once House figured everything out, he said go for the numbness b/c he could relate to the patient & he knew he really loved his wife. I used to do this with pot. I could relate a lot better with humans if I was stoned although even then it was difficult. It's no way to live & we should embrace our talents & who we are. Since so many people on here have trouble finding like minded people, I suggest people contact one another & see how they get along. I am always open to making new friends. My intelligence probably isn't the same as some of yours on here, but I welcome anyone who wishes to contact me & get to know one another as friends first with no expectations. My personal website should be attached to what I wrote. Happy Holidays! Be Happy & find Peace Within : ) Michelle Actually “House” had an episode on last week that dealt with this very issue.

The patient had an off the charts high IQ, & it turned out that he couldn’t handle not being able to relate anymore, so he started taking cough medicine & a shot of alcohol to numb his brain cells. That’s when he met his current wife.

Once in the hospital after they cleared it from his system, he went back to his previous intelligence level & started drawing complex math & when he tried to explain it to her & she didn’t get it. He started to feel depressed again & her lack of intelligence annoyed him.

In the end once House figured everything out, he said go for the numbness b/c he could relate to the patient & he knew he really loved his wife.

I used to do this with pot. I could relate a lot better with humans if I was stoned although even then it was difficult.

It’s no way to live & we should embrace our talents & who we are.

Since so many people on here have trouble finding like minded people, I suggest people contact one another & see how they get along.

I am always open to making new friends.

My intelligence probably isn’t the same as some of yours on here, but I welcome anyone who wishes to contact me & get to know one another as friends first with no expectations.

My personal website should be attached to what I wrote.

Happy Holidays! Be Happy & find Peace Within : )

Michelle

]]> By: Aaron http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/comment-page-1/#comment-76859 Aaron Mon, 30 Nov 2009 09:19:03 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/#comment-76859 Depression and I.Q whilst not necessarily being joined at the hip seem to be related more often than not and I think it comes down to having more understanding the world and potentially the universe than the average joe and therefore creates more stress for the individual or at least that is the case for myself personally. Its also a major cause of frustration for myself personally trying to communicate with people who do not understand the subject matter I try to communicate to them. I can completely relate to the Poster “Km” as I am Male and have interests such as Computers & Technology rather than sports and I find it extremely hard to get on with other men who seem to exists solely to watch sports, drink beer and live a very average lifestyle. I have had few friends thus far in my lifetime and despite several women telling me I am attractive the grand total of girlfriends for me personally stands at 2 with neither relationship lasting more than around 6/7 months. I have a secret lothing for those people who say such things as “you just need to do what everyone else does” and “you just need to try harder” because I know personally in my situation that is complete bullshit. I just hope one day that I will be able to move into a community, town or city where I know more intelligent people on a personal level. Depression and I.Q whilst not necessarily being joined at the hip seem to be related more often than not and I think it comes down to having more understanding the world and potentially the universe than the average joe and therefore creates more stress for the individual or at least that is the case for myself personally. Its also a major cause of frustration for myself personally trying to communicate with people who do not understand the subject matter I try to communicate to them. I can completely relate to the Poster “Km” as I am Male and have interests such as Computers & Technology rather than sports and I find it extremely hard to get on with other men who seem to exists solely to watch sports, drink beer and live a very average lifestyle. I have had few friends thus far in my lifetime and despite several women telling me I am attractive the grand total of girlfriends for me personally stands at 2 with neither relationship lasting more than around 6/7 months. I have a secret lothing for those people who say such things as “you just need to do what everyone else does” and “you just need to try harder” because I know personally in my situation that is complete bullshit. I just hope one day that I will be able to move into a community, town or city where I know more intelligent people on a personal level.

]]> By: Elizabeth http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/comment-page-1/#comment-76768 Elizabeth Mon, 23 Nov 2009 22:33:06 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/#comment-76768 That's because you're normal. Happiness is just moments. It's not a state. People are unhappy because they expect to have those highs more often. Well, people, sorry, but that isn't how it works. Treasure those rare moments of happiness and remember, we know they are happy moments because we experience the unhappy. Happy doesn't exist without unhappy. It's like a balancing act. That’s because you’re normal. Happiness is just moments. It’s not a state. People are unhappy because they expect to have those highs more often. Well, people, sorry, but that isn’t how it works. Treasure those rare moments of happiness and remember, we know they are happy moments because we experience the unhappy. Happy doesn’t exist without unhappy. It’s like a balancing act.

]]> By: Sara http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/comment-page-1/#comment-76752 Sara Mon, 23 Nov 2009 02:02:43 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/#comment-76752 Thank you so much for your article! I am not a genius, but intelligent and I continue to be unhappy. I read your article and it made me feel better that my knowledge is what makes me unhappy. Plus, I got a laugh from the logic of it. Thank you! Thank you so much for your article! I am not a genius, but intelligent and I continue to be unhappy. I read your article and it made me feel better that my knowledge is what makes me unhappy. Plus, I got a laugh from the logic of it. Thank you!

]]> By: Michelle http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/comment-page-1/#comment-76716 Michelle Fri, 20 Nov 2009 08:13:44 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/#comment-76716 I've come across many people who I feel aren't that intelligent who get depressed, so I doubt this has any direct correlation to intelligence level. Maybe EQ, but not intelligence. Depression can also stem from lack of nutrients in the body (one factor, not all factors). Just my pov. Thanks Michelle I’ve come across many people who I feel aren’t that intelligent who get depressed, so I doubt this has any direct correlation to intelligence level. Maybe EQ, but not intelligence.

Depression can also stem from lack of nutrients in the body (one factor, not all factors).

Just my pov.

Thanks

Michelle

]]> By: steven nelson http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/comment-page-1/#comment-76715 steven nelson Fri, 20 Nov 2009 07:50:53 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/#comment-76715 I find it interesting that the sociologist states "Not enough study exists to quote on this subject", because I did my Senior Capstone paper on whether or not intelligence is a good predictor of depression. I find it interesting that the sociologist states “Not enough study exists to quote on this subject”, because I did my Senior Capstone paper on whether or not intelligence is a good predictor of depression.

]]> By: Elizabeth http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/comment-page-1/#comment-76372 Elizabeth Sun, 01 Nov 2009 00:36:51 +0000 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-intelligent-people-tend-to-be-unhappy/#comment-76372 I believe that are muli-variables involved in whether or not someone is "happy." First, what exactly is "happy?" People are looking for a constant state, but it doesn't exist. We have happy and unhappy moments. The percent of each varies from person to person, but it isn't based just on IQ or even mostly IQ. Much has to do with how a person was raised. Are they overly critical of others? This is usually a learned behavior and contributes to more unhappy moments. Intelligent people can take their intelligence and learn how to be more accepting of those less intelligent. They need to be taught to appreciate their gift, but not expect others to be like they. Hope this helps a bit or pushes someone in the right direction. Embrace your talents, whatever they may be, and don't expect others to be like you. Good luck. I believe that are muli-variables involved in whether or not someone is “happy.” First, what exactly is “happy?” People are looking for a constant state, but it doesn’t exist. We have happy and unhappy moments. The percent of each varies from person to person, but it isn’t based just on IQ or even mostly IQ. Much has to do with how a person was raised. Are they overly critical of others? This is usually a learned behavior and contributes to more unhappy moments. Intelligent people can take their intelligence and learn how to be more accepting of those less intelligent. They need to be taught to appreciate their gift, but not expect others to be like they. Hope this helps a bit or pushes someone in the right direction. Embrace your talents, whatever they may be, and don’t expect others to be like you. Good luck.

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