Why Goal Setting Is A Complete Waste Of Time Unless You Do THIS

3 Reasons Why You Should Promise Yourself You Won’t Set Goals

“Goals” are like “New Year’s resolutions”…frequently made but rarely accomplished

If you struggle to achieve your goals, my good friend Bill Bartmann, the author of “Bailout Riches” and once named by Inc. magazine as “The Billionaire Nobody Knows” gave me an awesome tip to trick your mind into accomplishing exactly what you want to, every single time.

“Don’t think of your goals as goals.”

Are you scratching your head right now?  I know I sure was. Until I saw the white elephant sitting in the room…

In our society most people describe a goal as “a lofty ambition,” something to “shoot for,” something to “strive for,” or something to “work towards”…

Nothing wrong with with any of that is there?

As long as you don’t care about your goal that much, it’s perfectly fine…

You see the descriptions we give the the word “goal”  implies your objective will be difficult to achieve. There is a subtle undertone crafted by the implicit meaning of your words telling you it’s just as likely you won’t achieve your ultimate goal, as it is that you will make it happen.

Too often this gives you an excuse making it okay (or at least forgivable) if you fail meaning the word “goal” by popular definition actually conditions you for failure.


Here’s how it works.

You start out “shooting for a goal,” wanting to hit it, but you also know by the sheer definition of the word it probably isn’t going to happen. Unfortunately opening this door to the possibility it might not be achieved, works against you, weakening your power to manifest the “impossible”.

But that’s not the worst part…

Even if you hit your goals 90 percent or more of the time (which would be incredible), you’d still be failing 10% of the time, right?


(By the way if you said a number anywhere near this high, you are one extraordinary human being, and you shouldn’t be reading this blog post, you should writeabestsellingbookwithme).


Even if you gave a more realistic reply, you’d only probably say you hit your goals 60-70% of the time, which means you’re failing 30-40% of the time!

How confident of success or how much momentum do you think you can give when you’re “trying” to do something you’ve previously failed at a rate of 30 – 40% of the time?

Not very.

But what is the success rate for keeping a promise when you “promise” to do something?

I bet it’s a higher percentage than the “goals” you’ve set to achieve because promises are protected by your morals, beliefs and overall value system.  Even at a subconscious level, this system to honor promises makes them much more important in our minds than a goal for three basic reasons.

Three very distinct reasons why a promise means more to YOU than a goal:

#1 A Promise Has Emotional Attachment

A promise carries a much deeper sense of responsibility to the person to whom it is made—whether to yourself or someone else. With these feelings, a promise also carries a higher emotional attachment.

When you make a promise, your emotions are involved. Because of the emotional attachment, the file clerk in our mind will now give this promise an immediate priority filing in the filing cabinet.

2. A Promise Has A History Of Success

Our mind recognizes that you have a history of success when it comes to making promises. It knows you’ve historically achieved an exceptionally high success rate of nearly 100 percent in many cases and strives to maintain this momentum.

Based on this history your subconscious assumes you can and will keep this promise. Rather than being preconditioned for failure based on past performance, your mind is preconditioned for success because it knows it’s more than capable of keeping a promise.

These prior successes carry a positive emotional attachment from how it felt when you did what you promised you were going to do. Your file clerk recorded this data in your file cabinet as a positive emotional reaction, working hard to keep your promises so you can feel “good”.

3. A Promise Triggers Your Subconscious Mind To Set You Up For Success


By limiting your level of achievement to just Goal setting you are turning your subconscious into an “overprotective parent”.  A parent who is contstantly attempting to talk you out of taking any risk, for fear you might fail.

It actually works against your goals convincing you that you don’t have time for lofty dreams, quietly making it ok to “forget” about them.

But when you set a promise, the opposite happens.

Your subconscious mind switches from the role of “overprotective parent”, attempting to talk you out of your goal to the role of “helpful parent” who is going to clear the path and make it easy to achieve success!

Think of the difference between setting a “goal” to quit smoking and “promising” someone you love you’ll quit smoking.

If you’ve set a “goal” to quit smoking, it’s of little consequence to anyone but yourself you failed to achieve this “goal.” However, if you have “promised” someone you love you were going to quit and then later resumed smoking, you’d be afraid or embarrassed to admit you failed to keep your promise to your loved one, wouldn’t you?



Failing to keep a promise leads to an emotional reaction of shame, embarrassment, or disappointment. Your subconscious mind avoids these feelings of failure or suffering at all costs because its job is to keep you from suffering any of those things.

In fact, its sole purpose is self-preservation.


This subconscious need for “self-survival” is exactly what forces it to helps you keep your promise like a “helpful parent”. The part of you feeling almost as if you’ll die if you don’t keep your word is comforted as you move towards keeping your promise.

By changing the way you think about the process, you’ve just increased your likelihood of success by a huge margin. You’ll still have some work to do, but now you’re positioned for success. And most importantly we now you have an easy way get your subconscious work for you, not against you.

If you are ready to change your goals into promises, take the first step by leaving a comment and making a public commitment to yourself – TODAY, first list a goal you have now and then change it into a promise.  How did that feel?






GregS. Reid is a #1 best-selling author, entrepreneur, and the CEO of several successful corporations, who has dedicated his life to helping others achieve the ultimate fulfillment of finding and living a life of purpose. Greg will personally share with you everything he knows about how to have a life of Sustained Abundance and Financial Freedom by discovering Your Personal Success Equation as you’ll learn in his program ThePathwaysToGreatness.




148 Responses to 3 Reasons Why You Should Promise Yourself You Won’t Set Goals

  1. Arlen says:

    My goal is to lose weight.


    I promise myself and all of you that I will switch to a vegan diet from now on, and within that diet I promise I will eat 80% raw foods.


  2. Irene says:

    Good luck Arlen,you will do it.

  3. Travis says:

    Great Post and an amazing way to think about Goal Setting. Bill Bartmann and Greg Reid should do a seminar together… I’d go.

  4. Karen says:

    Hey there!!!!

    My Goal: Be more loving,caring, and understanding with my Allan…

    My Promise: I promise you Allan to be more Loving, Caring, and Understanding with you, being the most important thing our Love and Our Relationship, Always thinking the BEST of YOU…

    Thank you I loved this, it felt incredible, like a connexion between me and my Loved one….

  5. Maria says:

    Thank you very much for this post. I used to set up a whole plan for different goals, but I rarely achieved them and most of the time skipped them early in the process. This might be the reason why. So now that I am aware of the lack of emotional attachment I can move forward.

    Goal: I want to make a personal graphic portfolio.

    Promise: I promise myself that I will finish my personal graphic portfolio and I will enjoy the process of creating something beautiful.

  6. lori says:

    Funny you should mention that – we are getting to launch an event for Pick The Brain and Greg Daniels is one of the speakers – The Power of Fear Summit. Keep you eyes and ears open – gonna be outrageous! I hear Les Brown is participating too. :)

  7. lori says:

    Maria – that’s perfectly outrageous! You go girl!!!

  8. lori says:

    Maria – see below – didn’t hit reply – you rock!

  9. lori says:

    OH my – I loved this – gave me chills just reading it – how it must feel to SAY it – every single day – even when you don’t feel like saying it. Outrageous!

  10. lori says:

    Arlen I love this – you might even take it one more step – tie in the why

    I promise myself I will treat my body like a queen and only eat a vegan diet of raw foods to give me clarity and strength because I am awesome and I want to feel the best I can from the inside out!

    You are outrageous – nice job.

  11. Sean says:

    Hey Greg,

    Fantastic post – loved every word.

    I hit my goals about 85%, so I’ll work on covering that last 5% so we can talk book deal! :)

  12. Tammy says:

    I find that with goals and more important promises ,
    it is better to make a promise that you can keep.
    If I can’t keep a promise I don’t make one.
    Sometimes I like to try things I’m not good at, so
    instead of making a goal or promise I will try
    something I’m not good at just for the fun of it.
    Also Some things like a sport we may never do well
    at is still healthy because it keeps us moving.

  13. Lisa says:

    I feel like I have read and adopted one of those essential keys to life! Words have such an impact on our lives and using the right ones is just what we need to communicate better, even to ourselves. This is one of those examples. A goal is passive, but a promise is aggressive!

    My goal has been to find healing from past wounds. (I am 38 and have not accomplished that yet)

    I promise to do whatever it takes to find healing for my life so I don’t waste anymore time in the past and I can enjoy the life I’ve been missing.

    Thank you so much!

  14. Angella says:

    Goal – I will start baking soon

    Promise – I promise to start baking muffins and cakes and gain enough experience to open up my bakery.

  15. resa says:

    My goal:i will have a travel to Beijing with my parent when i graduate from the universuty
    However I have graduated last year , i fail to that.
    So now I promise to my parent we will have a nice travel to Beijing at September of 2012 and during this time i’ll work and study hard

  16. Dennis says:

    Goal: Finish my school and get a degree.

    Promise: I promise I will finish my bachelor degree at school this year in august and my master degree in the upcoming academic year!

  17. ellie says:

    Goal- “to be on time”
    mainly getting my kids from day care,
    pick uptime is befor 4 oclock.
    “I PROMISE”- to be on time ” ,i can see my kids puppy dog eyes waiting behingthe gate when isay that.
    how can i NOT.!

    for me this “goal” became more powerfull ,meaningful,when i changed it to,
    Goal- “to be early.” dont worry it started off as.
    “Im not going to be late”
    Promising what i AM going to do,rather than hoping to NOT do what ive always done.

  18. Michelle says:

    I promise to not dwell on the past and focus on the future. I promise to not beat up on myself anymore. I promise to love me, the way I am today and not the way I want to be.

  19. Sam says:

    I promise to end this pointless life before my next birthday

  20. Ola says:

    This is one of the best posts I have read so far! It gave me the chills thinking the impact of the words one uses on themselves can either put them down or make them soar out into the limiltless sky…

    Dear Ola, this is my promise to you..

    I promise that you will only do what you love and nothing less… I promise to feed you healthy food to nourish and vitalize your body, to help you reach the healthy weight you are after… I promise to feed your soul with inspiring thoughts and words of wisdom…

    And most important of all, I promise to love you everyday of your life…

    Warmest regards,

    Your inner power

    Thank you

  21. Lori, this is very cool and I can feel the difference. However, what can you tell me about those of us who lie to ourselves by letting everyone and everything get in the way of doing what we know is the most important thing we must accomplish in a day?
    Also, how can I rid myself of my resistance?

  22. lori says:

    You are so right. I keep all my promises too but notice that I might screw myself out of a goal – but don’t break a promise. So if someone needs a guarantee then they just need to say – do you promise? And now I need to say that to myself more often!

  23. lori says:

    Know these two truths…
    1. Regrets are only the lies the mind tells us. It’s an illusion you could have or should have done anything differently than you did. All is as it should be always.
    2. Find gratitude for the healing as it has already happened. Trust me on this.

    Now twist your amazing promise into something even more outrageous.

    “I promise to do whatever it takes to be grateful for the healing I’m receiving right now as I focus on enjoying the life I can see right now.”

    Remove “don’t” “missing” “waste” – negative words even though the context is positive – language is SO powerful.

    And so are you!

  24. lori says:

    You go for it!

    Now dial it in even more.

    I promise to open my bakery by [date} and promise to be ready by baking muffins and cakes every [day/weekend/insertsomething] because I was born to bake baby!

    You got this!

  25. lori says:

    Ah – Michelle close – so close – now outrageous it up some…

    First – focusing on the past = guilt but focusing on the future can create worry

    Focusing on the present – what’s right in front of you creates FULFILLMENT.

    Isn’t that outrageous???

    Try this…

    “I promise to focus on the hear and now to be fully present with myself and those I love. I promise to love me exactly as I am right now and celebrate my ability to receive all the love I have in my life right into the core of my being every day – all day – because I shine from the inside out.”

    Now you can rewrite for your personality but I’m just showing the difference in the “language” pattern. Not bad, not good – just “different”.

    See if if “feels” different to you when you say it out loud. 5 bonus points for shouting it at the top of your lungs (Even if it’s in the bathroom where no one but you can hear you – you are the only one who needs to hear it!!)

  26. lori says:

    Sam, how can I help?

  27. lori says:

    Dear Ola,

    You gave me chills right now. I never knew how much you thought of me and how grateful you are for all I do. I’m doing the best I can. I only want to make you happy and remind you every day how beautiful you are. I’m so happy you forgive me for not being perfect…you have no idea how much I’ve been holding onto the fear that you were going to hate me forever. Now I can relax and we can connect as one. How outrageous.

    Bursting with joy

    Your Body & Soul

  28. lori says:

    Ahh– what a wonderful question. Wow!

    Let me tell you what has worked for me.

    First of all, write down your 3 most important values – ie who you are (or even want to be) that make you the happiest. I’m not talking about loyalty or responsibility. I’m talking about things like Faith, Love, Joy, Peace, etc…

    Don’t get me wrong, you can pick ANY – but try to focus on the ones that feel right to your soul.

    Then write down for each “value” 3 things you could do any day that would align with that value. And keep it simple.

    Say you value health. Then don’t say when you run 25 miles you feel healthy. Say when you take 10 deep breaths you feel healthy. Make sense? Something you can do ANYTIME (almost) or ANYWHERE in seconds or less than 5 minutes that would align your energy with what is important to you.

    Now forget about your To-Do list. For a minute.

    Focus on your values – then ask yourself BETTER QUESTIONS.

    How can I be more creative right now?

    How can I be more loving right now?

    How can I feel healthy right now?

    And all day long – what you DO needs to align with what you value.

    Now that was my woo-woo heart felt answer, ok?

    But to protect you and your space please try this…

    1. I promise to start each day doing the one thing I want to get done. Not 50 things – but the one thing that if I got done today would make me feel like I owned it (key- it must be able to be done within 2 hours – so chunk big projects into little ones in order to be realistic and do only what you really can do).

    2. I promise to put my out of office message on my email that I do not check email except for twice a day at noon and at 3 (pick your own times) as I have work to do!

    3. Give yourself 20 minute breaks after each 2 hour block to do nothing – literally your gift to yourself. It’s a reward to YOU. Because YOU have earned it.

    I’m telling you this works – I KNOW it works.

    And if you can’t do it – then all I’d ask you to do is when you feel the resistance – be aware of it – say hello to it – treat yourself like you would a character in a movie.

    “oh – look at me – avoiding doing x, y or z – but of course you are because you aren’t sure how to get started” (insert your because)

    Seriously try this last part – just the conversation you have is KEY. Talk to yourself like you would a child who doesn’t know any better. Find out why you are really avoiding the work. By being empathetic with you, you will get better answers that are clear and allow you to move forward.

    For me, when I avoid something it’s usually because I’m not quite sure how to get started or the real goal, or I hate it. If it’s the latter then ask yourself why you are doing something you hate.

    Hope this makes sense.

    Sorry for long answer – but this was a GREAT question.

    Become AWARE of what you are doing IN THE MOMENT and ACKNOWLEDGE it. Don’t solve it – just say hello.

    You’ll see what happens next.

  29. lori says:

    You go for it!

    Now dial it in even more.

    I promise to open my bakery by [date} and promise to be ready by baking muffins and cakes every [day/weekend/insert something] because I was born to bake baby!

    You got this!

  30. Bonnie says:

    What if I have so many goals and promises swirling around your head that I can’t decide on the most important one to publicly post and get overwhelmed thinking about choosing one as a top priority?

  31. Bonnie says:

    swirling around MY head I meant

  32. Pam says:

    This suggestion is right on the money! I can set any number of goals, but I don’t believe I can do them. But to make a promise? That’s more difficult for me because those I keep no matter what!

  33. Evangeline says:

    Hi Sam, i am wondering when your birthday is.
    I am a Capricorn, so mine is in January.
    What’s happened Sam?

  34. vathsala says:

    Goal: To stop procrastinating
    Promise: I promise to concentrate and complete the work that i have to do so that i have the rest of the time to do things that i enjoy

  35. lori says:

    Resa- that’s awesome – doesn’t it LOOK better – more powerful! I know you’ll enjoy your trip. And no doubt you’ll work and study hard – why? Because you promised. :)

  36. lori says:

    Bonnie – you are outrageously fantastic! I love that you play full out.

    How about this – I promise I will quiet my mind, tap into my heart and make one promise to myself that would make me the happiest!

    So Bonnie – note not the richest – not the most successful – nope just the happiest!

    What’s one promise you could keep to yourself that would just make you happy?


    I promise to find time to ride my horse twice a week.

    that’s it – no world domination ambition – but guess what – it’s the happiest 2 days of my week – even when I have to drag myself there because I’m tired or need to work – but you see – I PROMISED.

    Warm hugs and big smile – now your turn.

  37. lori says:

    I know right? You’re a lot more selective. And guess what that does? Increases your odds of making what you REALLY want to happen – happen. A piece of paper with 100’s of things to do on it just serves to make you feel like you got nothing done, right?

    Start making promises and let the other stuff go.

  38. lori says:

    Vathsala – nice one.
    Now try this

    I promise to put my happiness first so I will concentrate to get my work out of the way each day so I can be fully present with myself, my friends and my family and truly enjoy what I love doing.

    You see? Now you feel GREAT about getting the boring stuff done – because you have promised to put your happiness first and you know the ONLY way you can do that is to get your stuff DONE.

    Just do it – baby – you promised!

  39. rosa says:

    My goal was to start loving myself and stop being so afraid of making changes

    But now my promise is to be happy accept myself and make the right choices to be in a more positive state of mind.

  40. Kelly says:

    Hey lori. I signed up for the 30 day course but havnt received any e-mails ?!

  41. Tony says:

    My goal to get my masters degree is now a promise to me, to get my masters degree

  42. Hill_streethm23 says:

    I’ve change a goal of getting my 1st college degree into a promise by age 35…I am now 31…much work ahead!! Thanks for this knowledge…my promise is to turn it into wisdom!

  43. Jfukino says:

    I like this. Some other gurus say not to set goals, but they don’t have a substitute. Promise instead of goals. This may just work.

  44. Mary says:

    Love the idea.  I have always hated the word goals.  Promises I rarely gave unless it was an absolute, when she was growing up I would tell my daughter we will try.  I had seen so many kids that were heartbroken by promises that were never honored.  So now I shall have to do some promising to myself, maybe now I will be able to accomplish some great things.

  45. 14 year old girl says:

    My goal to go to sleep early is now a promise to go to sleep early.

  46. JohnnyD says:

    Great article. I think the main reason people don’t do their goals though is because of the lack of short-term gratification. Just my opinion.

  47. http://www.saquinaakanni.com says:

    ~ Prosperity Doctor: My dearest Millionaire Mentor. I found this article by you through my nephew Kenneth Adams, who went to a IMPULSE meeting last night and given The Four Agreements plus food for thought – a link to this site by Gary Lane. Wow. Here you are – Talk about LOA “The Law of Attraction”. Ditto some of the comments. I agree with the explanation of Goals vs Promise. Language makes all the difference. I had not heard this explanation before either. I will take your guidance as usual and change my language. I change my goal of getting FIT this year to: “I PROMISE to be a size 7 and FIT for Life again! This is my truth. I am starting from a size 18 February 9, 2012.” 

  48. Honbon06 says:

    My goal weight is 165 and now my promise to me is to lose weight and obtain 165.

  49. Cinnamon says:

    My goal is to stop eating sweets every day and wean it down to 1 day a week is now a promise to myself to let go of sweets. Also, my goal of exercising 3 days a week is now a promise to myself to work out 3 days a week.

  50. raul says:

    i promise to complete my CA this time. :)

  51. guest says:

    I promise to get my degree before 30, Im 25

  52. Rendra says:

    I really like this, now I understand how to reach a goal .. thank you

  53. Nahal95 says:

    I promise myself that I will be doing the work I love within the next 5 years .

  54. Amelia says:

    This is my promise, too! Not only to myself, but to all those who have believed in me and helped me. My promise to them is that their faith and help will not be taken for granted! I promise to get a master’s degree.

  55. Hilary says:

    I promise to quit smoking for good on Friday the 29th of June

  56. Nataki says:

    I have three promises.  I promise to love myself.  I promise to complete those “Insanity” workout videos in 90 straight days.  I promise to take that trip to Europe in 2013 that I keep telling myself I will take even if it’s by myself. 

  57. Harry says:

    Just a slight switch of the words, and what a difference!

  58. Nhusarik says:

    I promise myself to become a fireman again cuz I love the job it makes me happy

  59. LowBattery says:

    I believe that I understand the sentiment of what 
    Bill Bartmann is saying, that our perception of the word “promise” would be more beneficial and motivating than the word, “goal,” but not sure that we need to change the words used, but more our commitment to the plan we set before us. Just as another article from this site (“Suffering Comes From YOUR Perception”) notes that our perception of situations affect our performance and then outcomes, we can adjust our perception of the language that we use to be more appropriate.

    Speaking of which, if we are not yet attaining a goal, it doesn’t mean that we’ve “failed” at it, whether that be 10% or 40%. Still, the point can be made that if we are easily fulfilling all of our plans, then we are not aiming high enough.

  60. Joe says:

    I promise to do all the tasks i have listed until Monday !!!

  61. Amalie says:

    I promise to be speaking japanese in 3 years time from now!

  62. David says:

    I just moved to another country (korea) and the goals I set to accomplish by the time I return to America are to quit smoking, become fluent in Korean, get my MBA  and improve my fitness level. 

    I managed to quit smoking a few weeks back. I have tried to quit many times before without success. However, this time my uncle made me promise to quit smoking, i have never promised to quit because i didnt want to make a promise i couldnt keep. This time I was  ready to make the promise. Coincidentally, it has been the longest I havent smoked in 10 years since I started. Maybe it was the promise i made to my uncle that changed my willingness to quit? However, I also promised him that I would go to church every sunday but I only did so only because i didnt want to argue with him about not wanting to go. and guess what, I havent been going. So I think you actually have to be sincere about the promise in order for it to work. So from here on out I will change my goals to promises and make sure they are sincere

    I promise to my Father that I will receive top marks in all my classes and receive a scholarship for the remainder of my MBA courses. I promise to become fluent in Korean within one years time.
    I promise to myself to continue to be a non-smoker and live a happy and healthy life.

  63. Hkjbw7 says:

    I promise to be a happier more content person. I promise to be more focused, determined and productive everday. I promise to remain drug free to ensure that I live up to the aforementioned promises. 

  64. Everday Struggle says:

    I promise to get my Masters in the next three years!

  65. Jwojcik13 says:

    My goal is to obtain my private pilot’s license, graduate from college, and figure out the next step I want to take in my life. I promise myself I will finish my private pilot’s license, graduate from college, and figure out the next step I want to take in life. Another goal is to get in better shape and tell the girl I love how I really feel about her. I promise myself that I WILL get in better shape and I WILL tell the girl I love how I really feel about her. 

  66. kunal shah says:

    Now i understood…the meaning of Goal…which is a Promise to MYSELF…

  67. kunal shah says:

    Now i understood…the meaning of Goal…which is a Promise to MYSELF…

  68. Great article Greg. Ever since I started using the suggestion of “promise ” in my hypnosis programs, my clients success rates have increased.

    LPM http://www.lifepowermastery.com

  69. Nate says:

     so… have you quit? its Thursday, August 30

  70. Bennett McCarthy says:

    I promise to get high 90’s in Grade 11.
    I freaking promise man.

  71. Shuron Will2 says:

    My Goal Is To Excel At School Past The Best Of My Ability (Grades,All Sports,Graduate)

  72. Shuron Will2 says:


  73. Chipo says:

    I never liked that word “goal” a couple of years ago I had a good fortune of hearing Bill Batman speak and told us about Promise not Goal. I jumped for joy and I notice that I do tend to fulfill my promise. Thank you for the reminder and reinforcement.

  74. donkey says:

    I promise to get the trust of the mother of my kid.

  75. Arcchristie90 says:

    Eu vou fazer um prometo a mim e o meu namorado que vou falar português fluentemente e facilidade, e mais importantemente ter o abilidade compreender tudo, pelo vente e cinco Dezembro, tenho três meses alterar esse prometo a um realidade. Também, eu prometo que vou ter uma semana de um dieta de somo porque quero perder peso e ficar mais saudável e linda. Tenho sorte e um vontade forte.

  76. Vince says:

    My goal to lose weight & enjoy more out of life  is now my promise to lose weight & enjoy more out of life.

  77. Rox says:

    My goal is find a great idea for my dissertation and get the ball rolling. But that didn’t work too well so I will turn it into a promise. I promise to myself that this week I will find the best idea for my dissertation and turn it into reality.

  78. Filmjunkie says:

    I promise to write every day. No excuses.

  79. Erica says:

    my goal to stop suffering is now a promise to stop suffering.

  80. My goal to get a job with amazing benefits 
    I promise I will get that job which offers me amazing benefits!

  81. My goal to write one blog per week.

    I promise I will find the time to write one blog per week consistently!

  82. Jonathan Nagel says:

    I wanted to say that I liked this post a lot because I needed a different perspective then what I was seeing with goals.  Now I need to re-organize my yearly goals and see which ones are true promises to myself

  83. Katiekinz32714 says:

    I promise to memorize all my lines in drama & read them everyday till the play. I also promise to exercise 30 min. more than I usually do daily

  84. sheniqua says:

    My goal to stop after my first drink at holiday cocktail parties is now a promise to myself to stop after my first drink.  I’m going to cultivate the art of drinking gracefully in public settings and learning to nurse a drink then switch to something non-alcoholic is perfect starting point. 

  85. Corn Storm says:

    I’ve ruminated on this topic few times and have realized this truth probably before this article and have accomplished a few things in a very short amount of time, but I never did think of it as a promise, more like a passive hobby, so it’s something interesting to think about anyways. My next promises to myself are to become an expert chess player, and before reading this I never thought of it as a goal and after maybe 6 months I’ve come a remarkable long way and have progresse

  86. karina says:

    My promise to make it to management by June 15th 2013 :)

  87. Ana Caroline says:

    No, whenever I make promisses, I break them xD. 

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  89. Jennifer says:

    i promise to myself i will not upset.

  90. Baggio Wong says:

    Goal: To commit myself to the Challenge of the Week system for 1 year to improve myself. 

    Promise: I promise to commit myself to the Challenge of the Week system in order to better myself as a person for a year. 

  91. Jlyn says:

    I promise myself that I am going to lose 40 pounds this year and keep them off!

  92. Jaclyn says:

    I promise that today I will finish my application essay and my cover letter.

  93. Matt Woodhall says:

    I would love to quit smoking. I promise to quit smoking as of the end of this packet

  94. Liz Wesbrooks says:

    I promise to learn to play the guitar, dance into shape, and obtain a Master Degree in science for me and my family.

  95. Liz Wesbrooks says:

    This year, 2013, I am learning the guitar and will attend dance class in June 2013!

  96. Liz Wesbrooks says:

    I have already begun the attending class towards a degree in science!

  97. I am really impressed by the idea of changing a goal to a promise. And, that promise should be deeply related to you so that you do not break the promise this time. We need to take it personally.
    So here I am to make a promise that from today i will start writing out my dreams and untold feelings and this I am going to do everyday, whatsoever may happen.
    Thank you for making me realize the importance of a promise made to ourselves. Thank you very much.

  98. Meg says:

    I promise myself to complete the first draft of a novel this year.

  99. ASHRAF KAMAL says:

    @vertikanigam:disqus I appreciate, What you are saying about !

  100. Christia says:

    I promise myself that I am going to be punctual and feel good about my school assignments and college applications this year

  101. mrmag83 says:

    i promise to go back to school to complete my BA in English, to go for my MFA in Creative Writing, and pursue my PhD afterwards. i promise myself all of those things.

  102. Anonymous says:

    I promise myself to complete a juice fast for at least the next 30 days.

  103. Jessica Heredia says:


  104. R says:

    I promise to be a whole perfect strong powerful loving harmonious & happy human being

  105. Eric Davidson says:

    A promise vs. a goal? What a wonderful way of “tricking” the mind into helping you get where you want to go. Will definitely promise myself to begin thinking this way!

  106. Elly says:

    I promise to abstain from eating my problem foods and also from eating between meals from right now and for forever.

  107. Giordano says:

    my goal : stop playing world of warcraft after 7 years, improve my programming skill and to be a happy guy

    My promise : stop playing world of warcraft after 7 years, improve my programming skill and to be a happy guy :)

  108. Socratez says:

    I promise to set up my new website this month.

  109. RG_WON says:

    Today, I promise to pass the Series 7 exam – and I am going to read 2 chapters every day to bring me one step closer to fulfilling my promise.

  110. John Dough says:

    I understand the reasoning behind the contents of this article, but acknowledging the fact that your “promises’ have a near 100% success rate, what happens if you change your goals to promises and end up not being able to keep them? I’m scared that if i set my goals as promises and for whatever reason am not able to keep some of them, this will diminish the importance of my promises, and have a much larger negative impact. Anyone understand what i’m saying?

  111. littleone says:

    Goals:- save money, find a career i like, lose 80 pounds, get a girlfriend..

    I wholeheartedly promise my family and myself included that I will become the man I was suppose to be, take on the responsibilities bestowed upon me.. To accomplish the inevitable.. To become healthier and fit, to do all the things I wanted to set out to be.. to stop smoking, to detox my body and take care of myself and most importantly not shy away from the truth to take it on with hope of a better future and to find a partner someday.

    Good luck to everyone, Hope the best.

  112. Jack says:

    Great article! I had never thought of that, and it really makes me feel more responsible about my “goals”.
    I promise than that year I will succeed in my current project! :)

  113. YawnCentral says:

    Very interestingly made article. At first I wasn’t so sure I agree with you. After reading the rest of it, it does make sense.

    I remember before I had started my own website I simply had “goals”, then I started to create “deadlines” for myself and that’s when things actually started taking shape. However, all my will to continue was established on a deeper more profound level about how I want to lead my life. In some way, as you say it, its more like a promise to your self.

    Excellent Article.

  114. emma says:

    i promise to keep my word to others and to myself when expected
    and i promise too loose weight and love my body at the same time

  115. Justin Morgan says:

    This certainly is an interesting point. There is definitely power in using a promise versus a goal. I also think it depends on the power you give to the words. Not all people keep promises, just not as all people achieve goals. But if you make a commitment to your goals just as you would a promise than you are all set. I think there is value in using both forms of the commitment. So for today, I promise to achieve my goal of writing my second eBook within the next month.

  116. Orlando Fylnn says:


    Good content on quit smoking.

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  117. Aditya Mishra says:

    i promise to write my book.

  118. juliejburns says:

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    monday I got a gorgeous Peugeot 205 GTi after having earned $6860 this past 4
    weeks an would you believe ten-k this past-month . with-out a doubt this is the
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  119. wakobi says:

    i promise myself to make my weight priority again and not lose sight! I promise to complete school

  120. Genesisgothic says:

    My goal of getting my EMT again is now a promise to myself and my community to get my EMT again!

  121. Day says:

    I promise to start gigging and busking on a regular basis.

  122. David says:

    I promise myself to live healthy and never smoke again.

  123. Mohamed says:

    Goal – To life for the moment

    Promise – I promise myself that I will life for the moment, smiling throughout my journey and living the adventure of not knowing what the future will bring.

    Now is my time and no regrets will hold me back!

  124. Zhang says:

    I promise to be a geek

  125. Sanity&Reason says:

    I was brought up in such a “NO” environment.. sooo negative, so anti-achievement )-: I was told “you can’t”. It wasn’t said to me to intentionally thwart my success; it was said to me because it was just normal & accepted that we can’t, I can’t. It’s been a life-long battle of my wiring and subconscious mind to move out of the “I can’t”. A promise sounds much more positive and doable for me, than a goal. So, since I need exercise for a whole bunch of reasons, including a very slight health problem, I promise to power-walk 4 nights a week. Rain or shine. (it almost never rains here so.. that’s not saying much)!

  126. Bingo Bango says:

    curious if you kept your promise?

  127. Bingo Bango says:

    Are you a fireman? I just read the promise method of achieving a specific desire, Wondering if you achieved the role of a happy fireman. Either way I am curious about both. Thanks for your time

  128. Bingo Bango says:

    How has the only one drink worked out. I tried it, but not with a promise. That was one thing I needed to cut out of my life anyways. I am interested though if the promise method was successful for you.

  129. Bingo Bango says:

    Hey honbon, are you still at 165 four years after your promise. I would like to know how it worked, either way, no judgements. Thanks

  130. Bingo Bango says:

    Hi vertika, i am curious about how people have benefited from the promise method, Have you managed to maintain a consistent log of entries about your goals and untold feelings? Id like to hear your experience over the last two years. If you arent still doing it, how long did you manage to do it for after you made the promise? Thanks for your time and i hope to hear from you

  131. Bingo Bango says:

    Hey Bennett, trying to find out if any one in this thread was able to benefit from the promise method. Did you get a 95 or higher your Junior year, if not what number did you reach? I am grateful for any answer, success or not, I want to know what three years has improved or changed.

  132. Bingo Bango says:

    HI, are you speaking Japanese? its been 3 years, hope you did it, if so what promise are you getting after now.

  133. Bingo Bango says:

    trying to get an idea of how many people benefited from the promise method. Did you get the website up, if so is it still going after 2 years or maybe you started a new one, or got away from it entirely, Any feedback would be great to hear, whether you achieved the goal or not? Thanks Socratez

  134. Bingo Bango says:

    How has the writing been going. if you stopped, how long did you maintain your promise before you ran into a hurdle? It is crazy to think that if you wrote just one paragraph a day it could be a book, screenplay or something even better. Even crazier thought, if you did not continue to write, imagine what you could have complete by November of 2018? Just curious on how the method may or may not have worked for you? Any feed back would be greatly appreciated, thanks Filmjunkie. take care

  135. Bingo Bango says:

    i only heard of the promise method just this morning, but i quit smoking and I made a promise to myself I would stop for one day and made the same promise the day after and now it has been about three weeks for me, and i have no desire for one at the moment, I did a 10 detox the day i stopped to help rid me of some of the toxins a bit quicker, not sure if it helped or not but I made it through. I am curious to know if you are still smoking. Just think about how deep and clear your inhalation would feel today if you stopped three years ago. Best part is if you stop right now, not after the pack is done or the one you might be smoking is out, just stop. But, Matt my advice, which has worked for me, is dont promise you will quit forever, just promise you wont smoke for the rest of the day. Then try two days, and if you smoke one start back at promising to finish out the day, keep a calendar and mark promise kept on the days as they go by. I smoked for 12 years maybe longer and I may smoke one today, but I am damn sure that if I do Ill start back at square one, with the promise to beat my previous personal record by a week. Hope this makes it to you, and if you dont smoke anymore then congrats and please share how you did it.

  136. Bingo Bango says:

    Hi S&R, I cant imagine that was a very encouraging environment and I am happy that you have made it this far in life and have found your own way to a “CAN DO” attitude, and Hey it has been 2 months have you been walking at least four nights the last 8 weeks, Id like to hear if the promise method worked, and if it didnt, If you dont mind me asking how long you were able to keep to your four nights a week? and feed back would be great. Thanks

  137. Bingo Bango says:

    hows your promise going after a year. I replied to another stop smoking promise, if you are puffing away again, scroll up and maybe what helped me will work for you. If you did stop and are living a healthy lifestyle, i commend you sir. Just curious on how the promise method has worked for you and the others. Thanks for any response you choose to provide. Thanks David

  138. Bingo Bango says:

    thats a great one, i hope you have achieved success and already made a difference. Just remember if you haven’t done it yet just start tomorrow and you will be done in no time at all.
    If you did get the EMT and you wouldn’t mind sharing how the promise method worked for you and how long it took you. Also if you ever got off track and what helped you get back on? Thanks for your time, Any response would be great to hear.

  139. Socratez says:

    Yes it worked. Not sure if that was due to the promise; I can’t remember. But I have my new website with the help of my friend and I’ve been posting content ever since.

  140. Bingo Bango says:

    Hey Justin, curious on how the promise method has worked out for people. Its been a year since you posted and I am wondering if you got eBook number two done in the month you promised, if so what was it about and have you used the promise method for anything else since then? I had used it to quit smoking about 3 weeks ago but just on my own before i realized it was a practiced method. Just wondering if it is working for you or the others as I plan to use it intentionally on something worth while. I promised that after I read about this method that I would respnd to everyone who made a promise to see how they made out, anyone who has a Blue Name, as i am not sure that the grey names will get my response. Anyways thanks for your time and any feed back will help me move forward and thrive! Thanks

  141. Bingo Bango says:

    Have you used the method in the last two years? just curious

  142. Bingo Bango says:

    yes I do! the method I have used is to make a promise to do something today. then make a promise that will be completed by the end of the weekend and then a 1 week promise …..2week…..3 week…..Month and so on. as you get up in time set daily weekly and monthly goals, you will be a pro goal setter in no time and you will feel confident in you promises. feel free to ask me anything, i am no guru, just trying to find my way along the path of understanding and adventure, where ever that leads, inward or out. lets go!

  143. Bingo Bango says:

    Have you kept your promise. Its been two years and i am curious if you have used the promise method to your advantage through out this time. If so please share, if not, in what way are you most successful at completing things you say you will. Thanks for any input Eric, Take care and take it easy.

  144. Bingo Bango says:

    I asked alot of you how this method has worked, responded to every one with a Blue Name, assuming that means that they actively Disqus, all the way down until it asked me to load more comments. Hope to hear back from some of you, good or bad, success or temporary defeat. Thanks, I plan to use this method based on your experiences. Take care all

  145. Sanity&Reason says:

    Hi, don’t mind at all and thanks for the kind words. I have done it every other night when possible. I went through a month long thing with my heart- ERs, urgent cares, short hospitalization, endless testing, blah blah and It was not understood right away, what was wrong so I had to take it easy. I’m on a heart very mild dose of a med now so I’m BACK. Always, the MINUTE I feel better, I get back out there and power walk in the evening, after work. Sometimes even a few nights in a row, not just every other. Now that I have that health stuff under control, I will be back to regularity. Most of the time it helps me sleep. I really huff it- super aggressive walking for about 2 miles.

    SO, let’s check back in with each other in a month. What do you think? And thanks again for asking after me. :-)

  146. Bingo Bango says:

    what kind of website. id be interested to check it out

  147. Bingo Bango says:

    sorry to hear about the ER visits. I recommend looking into transitioning to a plant-based diet. Eat to live is a good book by joel fuhrman. A lot of vegans eat no meat and non-dairy because of animal cruelty and that is great but i promote it because it raises alkalinity in your body and any type of sickness you may have is incapable of surviving in that type of environment. Check it out. I am currently trying to get my parents to transition as they both were recently diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. He has a diabetes version of the book i am readying now in an effort to reverse my folks diabetes for good. wish me luck. that is my promise, in a year i promise to have my parents healthy and medically cleared of their diabetes. take care

  148. voluntas says:

    I promise neither to harm myslef nor to indulge in futility and/or loss of time anymore, ever again. I sloemnly promise I will do my utmost to pass my selective examinations in a few months, in order to fulfil my ultimate project in philosophy, later.

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