Goals

3 Reasons Why You Should Promise Yourself You Won’t Set Goals


“Goals” are like “New Year’s resolutions”…frequently made but rarely accomplished
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If you struggle to achieve your goals, my good friend Bill Bartmann, the author of “Bailout Riches” and once named by Inc. magazine as “The Billionaire Nobody Knows” gave me an awesome tip to trick your mind into accomplishing exactly what you want to, every single time.

“Don’t think of your goals as goals.”

Are you scratching your head right now?  I know I sure was. Until I saw the white elephant sitting in the room…

In our society most people describe a goal as “a lofty ambition,” something to “shoot for,” something to “strive for,” or something to “work towards”…

Nothing wrong with with any of that is there?

As long as you don’t care about your goal that much, it’s perfectly fine…

You see the descriptions we give the the word “goal”  implies your objective will be difficult to achieve. There is a subtle undertone crafted by the implicit meaning of your words telling you it’s just as likely you won’t achieve your ultimate goal, as it is that you will make it happen.

Too often this gives you an excuse making it okay (or at least forgivable) if you fail meaning the word “goal” by popular definition actually conditions you for failure.

 

Here’s how it works.

You start out “shooting for a goal,” wanting to hit it, but you also know by the sheer definition of the word it probably isn’t going to happen. Unfortunately opening this door to the possibility it might not be achieved, works against you, weakening your power to manifest the “impossible”.

But that’s not the worst part…

Even if you hit your goals 90 percent or more of the time (which would be incredible), you’d still be failing 10% of the time, right?

 

(By the way if you said a number anywhere near this high, you are one extraordinary human being, and you shouldn’t be reading this blog post, you should writeabestsellingbookwithme).

 

Even if you gave a more realistic reply, you’d only probably say you hit your goals 60-70% of the time, which means you’re failing 30-40% of the time!

How confident of success or how much momentum do you think you can give when you’re “trying” to do something you’ve previously failed at a rate of 30 – 40% of the time?

Not very.

But what is the success rate for keeping a promise when you “promise” to do something?

I bet it’s a higher percentage than the “goals” you’ve set to achieve because promises are protected by your morals, beliefs and overall value system.  Even at a subconscious level, this system to honor promises makes them much more important in our minds than a goal for three basic reasons.

Three very distinct reasons why a promise means more to YOU than a goal:

#1 A Promise Has Emotional Attachment

A promise carries a much deeper sense of responsibility to the person to whom it is made—whether to yourself or someone else. With these feelings, a promise also carries a higher emotional attachment.

When you make a promise, your emotions are involved. Because of the emotional attachment, the file clerk in our mind will now give this promise an immediate priority filing in the filing cabinet.

2. A Promise Has A History Of Success

Our mind recognizes that you have a history of success when it comes to making promises. It knows you’ve historically achieved an exceptionally high success rate of nearly 100 percent in many cases and strives to maintain this momentum.

Based on this history your subconscious assumes you can and will keep this promise. Rather than being preconditioned for failure based on past performance, your mind is preconditioned for success because it knows it’s more than capable of keeping a promise.

These prior successes carry a positive emotional attachment from how it felt when you did what you promised you were going to do. Your file clerk recorded this data in your file cabinet as a positive emotional reaction, working hard to keep your promises so you can feel “good”.

3. A Promise Triggers Your Subconscious Mind To Set You Up For Success

 

By limiting your level of achievement to just Goal setting you are turning your subconscious into an “overprotective parent”.  A parent who is contstantly attempting to talk you out of taking any risk, for fear you might fail.

It actually works against your goals convincing you that you don’t have time for lofty dreams, quietly making it ok to “forget” about them.

But when you set a promise, the opposite happens.

Your subconscious mind switches from the role of “overprotective parent”, attempting to talk you out of your goal to the role of “helpful parent” who is going to clear the path and make it easy to achieve success!

Think of the difference between setting a “goal” to quit smoking and “promising” someone you love you’ll quit smoking.

If you’ve set a “goal” to quit smoking, it’s of little consequence to anyone but yourself you failed to achieve this “goal.” However, if you have “promised” someone you love you were going to quit and then later resumed smoking, you’d be afraid or embarrassed to admit you failed to keep your promise to your loved one, wouldn’t you?

 

Why?

Failing to keep a promise leads to an emotional reaction of shame, embarrassment, or disappointment. Your subconscious mind avoids these feelings of failure or suffering at all costs because its job is to keep you from suffering any of those things.

In fact, its sole purpose is self-preservation.

 

This subconscious need for “self-survival” is exactly what forces it to helps you keep your promise like a “helpful parent”. The part of you feeling almost as if you’ll die if you don’t keep your word is comforted as you move towards keeping your promise.

By changing the way you think about the process, you’ve just increased your likelihood of success by a huge margin. You’ll still have some work to do, but now you’re positioned for success. And most importantly we now you have an easy way get your subconscious work for you, not against you.

If you are ready to change your goals into promises, take the first step by leaving a comment and making a public commitment to yourself – TODAY, first list a goal you have now and then change it into a promise.  How did that feel?

 

Goal:___________________________________________________________________________________________________

 

Promise:_________________________________________________________________________________________________

 

GregS. Reid is a #1 best-selling author, entrepreneur, and the CEO of several successful corporations, who has dedicated his life to helping others achieve the ultimate fulfillment of finding and living a life of purpose. Greg will personally share with you everything he knows about how to have a life of Sustained Abundance and Financial Freedom by discovering Your Personal Success Equation as you’ll learn in his program ThePathwaysToGreatness.

 

 

 

  • Arlen

    My goal is to lose weight.

    However,

    I promise myself and all of you that I will switch to a vegan diet from now on, and within that diet I promise I will eat 80% raw foods.

    Arlen.

    • Irene

      Good luck Arlen,you will do it.

    • http://lorirtaylor.com lori

      Arlen I love this – you might even take it one more step – tie in the why

      I promise myself I will treat my body like a queen and only eat a vegan diet of raw foods to give me clarity and strength because I am awesome and I want to feel the best I can from the inside out!

      You are outrageous – nice job.

  • http://www.productlaunchr.com Travis

    Great Post and an amazing way to think about Goal Setting. Bill Bartmann and Greg Reid should do a seminar together… I’d go.

    • http://lorirtaylor.com lori

      Funny you should mention that – we are getting to launch an event for Pick The Brain and Greg Daniels is one of the speakers – The Power of Fear Summit. Keep you eyes and ears open – gonna be outrageous! I hear Les Brown is participating too. :)

  • Karen

    Hey there!!!!

    My Goal: Be more loving,caring, and understanding with my Allan…

    My Promise: I promise you Allan to be more Loving, Caring, and Understanding with you, being the most important thing our Love and Our Relationship, Always thinking the BEST of YOU…

    Thank you I loved this, it felt incredible, like a connexion between me and my Loved one….

    • http://lorirtaylor.com lori

      OH my – I loved this – gave me chills just reading it – how it must feel to SAY it – every single day – even when you don’t feel like saying it. Outrageous!

  • Maria

    Thank you very much for this post. I used to set up a whole plan for different goals, but I rarely achieved them and most of the time skipped them early in the process. This might be the reason why. So now that I am aware of the lack of emotional attachment I can move forward.

    Goal: I want to make a personal graphic portfolio.

    Promise: I promise myself that I will finish my personal graphic portfolio and I will enjoy the process of creating something beautiful.

    • http://lorirtaylor.com lori

      Maria – see below – didn’t hit reply – you rock!

  • http://lorirtaylor.com lori

    Maria – that’s perfectly outrageous! You go girl!!!

  • http://ghostwriterdad.com Sean

    Hey Greg,

    Fantastic post – loved every word.

    I hit my goals about 85%, so I’ll work on covering that last 5% so we can talk book deal! :)

  • Tammy

    I find that with goals and more important promises ,
    it is better to make a promise that you can keep.
    If I can’t keep a promise I don’t make one.
    Sometimes I like to try things I’m not good at, so
    instead of making a goal or promise I will try
    something I’m not good at just for the fun of it.
    Also Some things like a sport we may never do well
    at is still healthy because it keeps us moving.

    • http://lorirtaylor.com lori

      You are so right. I keep all my promises too but notice that I might screw myself out of a goal – but don’t break a promise. So if someone needs a guarantee then they just need to say – do you promise? And now I need to say that to myself more often!

  • Lisa

    I feel like I have read and adopted one of those essential keys to life! Words have such an impact on our lives and using the right ones is just what we need to communicate better, even to ourselves. This is one of those examples. A goal is passive, but a promise is aggressive!

    My goal has been to find healing from past wounds. (I am 38 and have not accomplished that yet)

    I promise to do whatever it takes to find healing for my life so I don’t waste anymore time in the past and I can enjoy the life I’ve been missing.

    Thank you so much!

    • http://lorirtaylor.com lori

      Know these two truths…
      1. Regrets are only the lies the mind tells us. It’s an illusion you could have or should have done anything differently than you did. All is as it should be always.
      2. Find gratitude for the healing as it has already happened. Trust me on this.

      Now twist your amazing promise into something even more outrageous.

      “I promise to do whatever it takes to be grateful for the healing I’m receiving right now as I focus on enjoying the life I can see right now.”

      Remove “don’t” “missing” “waste” – negative words even though the context is positive – language is SO powerful.

      And so are you!

  • Angella

    Goal – I will start baking soon

    Promise – I promise to start baking muffins and cakes and gain enough experience to open up my bakery.

    • http://lorirtaylor.com lori

      You go for it!

      Now dial it in even more.

      I promise to open my bakery by [date} and promise to be ready by baking muffins and cakes every [day/weekend/insertsomething] because I was born to bake baby!

      You got this!

    • http://lorirtaylor.com lori

      You go for it!

      Now dial it in even more.

      I promise to open my bakery by [date} and promise to be ready by baking muffins and cakes every [day/weekend/insert something] because I was born to bake baby!

      You got this!

  • resa

    My goal:i will have a travel to Beijing with my parent when i graduate from the universuty
    However I have graduated last year , i fail to that.
    So now I promise to my parent we will have a nice travel to Beijing at September of 2012 and during this time i’ll work and study hard

    • http://lorirtaylor.com lori

      Resa- that’s awesome – doesn’t it LOOK better – more powerful! I know you’ll enjoy your trip. And no doubt you’ll work and study hard – why? Because you promised. :)

  • Dennis

    Goal: Finish my school and get a degree.

    Promise: I promise I will finish my bachelor degree at school this year in august and my master degree in the upcoming academic year!

  • ellie

    Goal- “to be on time”
    mainly getting my kids from day care,
    pick uptime is befor 4 oclock.
    “I PROMISE”- to be on time ” ,i can see my kids puppy dog eyes waiting behingthe gate when isay that.
    how can i NOT.!

    for me this “goal” became more powerfull ,meaningful,when i changed it to,
    Goal- “to be early.” dont worry it started off as.
    “Im not going to be late”
    Promising what i AM going to do,rather than hoping to NOT do what ive always done.

  • Michelle

    I promise to not dwell on the past and focus on the future. I promise to not beat up on myself anymore. I promise to love me, the way I am today and not the way I want to be.

    • http://lorirtaylor.com lori

      Ah – Michelle close – so close – now outrageous it up some…

      First – focusing on the past = guilt but focusing on the future can create worry

      Focusing on the present – what’s right in front of you creates FULFILLMENT.

      Isn’t that outrageous???

      Try this…

      “I promise to focus on the hear and now to be fully present with myself and those I love. I promise to love me exactly as I am right now and celebrate my ability to receive all the love I have in my life right into the core of my being every day – all day – because I shine from the inside out.”

      Now you can rewrite for your personality but I’m just showing the difference in the “language” pattern. Not bad, not good – just “different”.

      See if if “feels” different to you when you say it out loud. 5 bonus points for shouting it at the top of your lungs (Even if it’s in the bathroom where no one but you can hear you – you are the only one who needs to hear it!!)

  • Sam

    I promise to end this pointless life before my next birthday

    • http://lorirtaylor.com lori

      Sam, how can I help?

    • Evangeline

      Hi Sam, i am wondering when your birthday is.
      I am a Capricorn, so mine is in January.
      What’s happened Sam?

  • Ola

    This is one of the best posts I have read so far! It gave me the chills thinking the impact of the words one uses on themselves can either put them down or make them soar out into the limiltless sky…

    Dear Ola, this is my promise to you..

    I promise that you will only do what you love and nothing less… I promise to feed you healthy food to nourish and vitalize your body, to help you reach the healthy weight you are after… I promise to feed your soul with inspiring thoughts and words of wisdom…

    And most important of all, I promise to love you everyday of your life…

    Warmest regards,

    Your inner power

    Thank you

    • http://lorirtaylor.com lori

      Dear Ola,

      You gave me chills right now. I never knew how much you thought of me and how grateful you are for all I do. I’m doing the best I can. I only want to make you happy and remind you every day how beautiful you are. I’m so happy you forgive me for not being perfect…you have no idea how much I’ve been holding onto the fear that you were going to hate me forever. Now I can relax and we can connect as one. How outrageous.

      Bursting with joy

      Your Body & Soul

  • http://PickTheBrain Ellen Renegar

    Lori, this is very cool and I can feel the difference. However, what can you tell me about those of us who lie to ourselves by letting everyone and everything get in the way of doing what we know is the most important thing we must accomplish in a day?
    Also, how can I rid myself of my resistance?

    • http://lorirtaylor.com lori

      Ahh– what a wonderful question. Wow!

      Let me tell you what has worked for me.

      First of all, write down your 3 most important values – ie who you are (or even want to be) that make you the happiest. I’m not talking about loyalty or responsibility. I’m talking about things like Faith, Love, Joy, Peace, etc…

      Don’t get me wrong, you can pick ANY – but try to focus on the ones that feel right to your soul.

      Then write down for each “value” 3 things you could do any day that would align with that value. And keep it simple.

      Say you value health. Then don’t say when you run 25 miles you feel healthy. Say when you take 10 deep breaths you feel healthy. Make sense? Something you can do ANYTIME (almost) or ANYWHERE in seconds or less than 5 minutes that would align your energy with what is important to you.

      Now forget about your To-Do list. For a minute.

      Focus on your values – then ask yourself BETTER QUESTIONS.

      How can I be more creative right now?

      How can I be more loving right now?

      How can I feel healthy right now?

      And all day long – what you DO needs to align with what you value.

      Now that was my woo-woo heart felt answer, ok?

      But to protect you and your space please try this…

      1. I promise to start each day doing the one thing I want to get done. Not 50 things – but the one thing that if I got done today would make me feel like I owned it (key- it must be able to be done within 2 hours – so chunk big projects into little ones in order to be realistic and do only what you really can do).

      2. I promise to put my out of office message on my email that I do not check email except for twice a day at noon and at 3 (pick your own times) as I have work to do!

      3. Give yourself 20 minute breaks after each 2 hour block to do nothing – literally your gift to yourself. It’s a reward to YOU. Because YOU have earned it.

      I’m telling you this works – I KNOW it works.

      And if you can’t do it – then all I’d ask you to do is when you feel the resistance – be aware of it – say hello to it – treat yourself like you would a character in a movie.

      “oh – look at me – avoiding doing x, y or z – but of course you are because you aren’t sure how to get started” (insert your because)

      Seriously try this last part – just the conversation you have is KEY. Talk to yourself like you would a child who doesn’t know any better. Find out why you are really avoiding the work. By being empathetic with you, you will get better answers that are clear and allow you to move forward.

      For me, when I avoid something it’s usually because I’m not quite sure how to get started or the real goal, or I hate it. If it’s the latter then ask yourself why you are doing something you hate.

      Hope this makes sense.

      Sorry for long answer – but this was a GREAT question.

      Become AWARE of what you are doing IN THE MOMENT and ACKNOWLEDGE it. Don’t solve it – just say hello.

      You’ll see what happens next.

  • http://emergance-wee@blogspot.com Bonnie

    What if I have so many goals and promises swirling around your head that I can’t decide on the most important one to publicly post and get overwhelmed thinking about choosing one as a top priority?

    • http://lorirtaylor.com lori

      Bonnie – you are outrageously fantastic! I love that you play full out.

      How about this – I promise I will quiet my mind, tap into my heart and make one promise to myself that would make me the happiest!

      So Bonnie – note not the richest – not the most successful – nope just the happiest!

      What’s one promise you could keep to yourself that would just make you happy?

      Me?

      I promise to find time to ride my horse twice a week.

      that’s it – no world domination ambition – but guess what – it’s the happiest 2 days of my week – even when I have to drag myself there because I’m tired or need to work – but you see – I PROMISED.

      Warm hugs and big smile – now your turn.

  • http://emergance-wee@blogspot.com Bonnie

    swirling around MY head I meant

  • Pam

    This suggestion is right on the money! I can set any number of goals, but I don’t believe I can do them. But to make a promise? That’s more difficult for me because those I keep no matter what!

    • http://lorirtaylor.com lori

      I know right? You’re a lot more selective. And guess what that does? Increases your odds of making what you REALLY want to happen – happen. A piece of paper with 100′s of things to do on it just serves to make you feel like you got nothing done, right?

      Start making promises and let the other stuff go.

  • vathsala

    Goal: To stop procrastinating
    Promise: I promise to concentrate and complete the work that i have to do so that i have the rest of the time to do things that i enjoy

    • http://lorirtaylor.com lori

      Vathsala – nice one.
      Now try this

      I promise to put my happiness first so I will concentrate to get my work out of the way each day so I can be fully present with myself, my friends and my family and truly enjoy what I love doing.

      You see? Now you feel GREAT about getting the boring stuff done – because you have promised to put your happiness first and you know the ONLY way you can do that is to get your stuff DONE.

      Just do it – baby – you promised!

  • rosa

    My goal was to start loving myself and stop being so afraid of making changes

    But now my promise is to be happy accept myself and make the right choices to be in a more positive state of mind.

  • Kelly

    Hey lori. I signed up for the 30 day course but havnt received any e-mails ?!

  • Tony

    My goal to get my masters degree is now a promise to me, to get my masters degree

    • Amelia

      This is my promise, too! Not only to myself, but to all those who have believed in me and helped me. My promise to them is that their faith and help will not be taken for granted! I promise to get a master’s degree.

  • Hill_streethm23

    I’ve change a goal of getting my 1st college degree into a promise by age 35…I am now 31…much work ahead!! Thanks for this knowledge…my promise is to turn it into wisdom!

  • Jfukino

    I like this. Some other gurus say not to set goals, but they don’t have a substitute. Promise instead of goals. This may just work.

  • http://necessityofchange.com Mary

    Love the idea.  I have always hated the word goals.  Promises I rarely gave unless it was an absolute, when she was growing up I would tell my daughter we will try.  I had seen so many kids that were heartbroken by promises that were never honored.  So now I shall have to do some promising to myself, maybe now I will be able to accomplish some great things.

  • 14 year old girl

    My goal to go to sleep early is now a promise to go to sleep early.

  • http://www.goaldrafting.com/ JohnnyD

    Great article. I think the main reason people don’t do their goals though is because of the lack of short-term gratification. Just my opinion.

  • http://www.saquinaakanni.com

    ~ Prosperity Doctor: My dearest Millionaire Mentor. I found this article by you through my nephew Kenneth Adams, who went to a IMPULSE meeting last night and given The Four Agreements plus food for thought – a link to this site by Gary Lane. Wow. Here you are – Talk about LOA “The Law of Attraction”. Ditto some of the comments. I agree with the explanation of Goals vs Promise. Language makes all the difference. I had not heard this explanation before either. I will take your guidance as usual and change my language. I change my goal of getting FIT this year to: “I PROMISE to be a size 7 and FIT for Life again! This is my truth. I am starting from a size 18 February 9, 2012.” 

  • Honbon06

    My goal weight is 165 and now my promise to me is to lose weight and obtain 165.

  • Cinnamon

    My goal is to stop eating sweets every day and wean it down to 1 day a week is now a promise to myself to let go of sweets. Also, my goal of exercising 3 days a week is now a promise to myself to work out 3 days a week.

  • raul

    i promise to complete my CA this time. :)

  • guest

    I promise to get my degree before 30, Im 25

  • http://www.id-smf.co.cc/ Rendra

    I really like this, now I understand how to reach a goal .. thank you

  • Nahal95

    I promise myself that I will be doing the work I love within the next 5 years .

  • Hilary

    I promise to quit smoking for good on Friday the 29th of June

    • Nate

       so… have you quit? its Thursday, August 30

  • Nataki

    I have three promises.  I promise to love myself.  I promise to complete those “Insanity” workout videos in 90 straight days.  I promise to take that trip to Europe in 2013 that I keep telling myself I will take even if it’s by myself. 

  • Harry

    Just a slight switch of the words, and what a difference!

  • Nhusarik

    I promise myself to become a fireman again cuz I love the job it makes me happy

  • LowBattery

    I believe that I understand the sentiment of what 
    Bill Bartmann is saying, that our perception of the word “promise” would be more beneficial and motivating than the word, “goal,” but not sure that we need to change the words used, but more our commitment to the plan we set before us. Just as another article from this site (“Suffering Comes From YOUR Perception”) notes that our perception of situations affect our performance and then outcomes, we can adjust our perception of the language that we use to be more appropriate.

    Speaking of which, if we are not yet attaining a goal, it doesn’t mean that we’ve “failed” at it, whether that be 10% or 40%. Still, the point can be made that if we are easily fulfilling all of our plans, then we are not aiming high enough.

  • Joe

    I promise to do all the tasks i have listed until Monday !!!

  • Amalie

    I promise to be speaking japanese in 3 years time from now!

  • David

    I just moved to another country (korea) and the goals I set to accomplish by the time I return to America are to quit smoking, become fluent in Korean, get my MBA  and improve my fitness level. 

    I managed to quit smoking a few weeks back. I have tried to quit many times before without success. However, this time my uncle made me promise to quit smoking, i have never promised to quit because i didnt want to make a promise i couldnt keep. This time I was  ready to make the promise. Coincidentally, it has been the longest I havent smoked in 10 years since I started. Maybe it was the promise i made to my uncle that changed my willingness to quit? However, I also promised him that I would go to church every sunday but I only did so only because i didnt want to argue with him about not wanting to go. and guess what, I havent been going. So I think you actually have to be sincere about the promise in order for it to work. So from here on out I will change my goals to promises and make sure they are sincere

    I promise to my Father that I will receive top marks in all my classes and receive a scholarship for the remainder of my MBA courses. I promise to become fluent in Korean within one years time.
    I promise to myself to continue to be a non-smoker and live a happy and healthy life.

  • Hkjbw7

    I promise to be a happier more content person. I promise to be more focused, determined and productive everday. I promise to remain drug free to ensure that I live up to the aforementioned promises. 

  • Everday Struggle

    I promise to get my Masters in the next three years!

  • Jwojcik13

    My goal is to obtain my private pilot’s license, graduate from college, and figure out the next step I want to take in my life. I promise myself I will finish my private pilot’s license, graduate from college, and figure out the next step I want to take in life. Another goal is to get in better shape and tell the girl I love how I really feel about her. I promise myself that I WILL get in better shape and I WILL tell the girl I love how I really feel about her. 

  • http://twitter.com/itsonlykb kunal shah

    Now i understood…the meaning of Goal…which is a Promise to MYSELF…

  • http://twitter.com/itsonlykb kunal shah

    Now i understood…the meaning of Goal…which is a Promise to MYSELF…

  • http://lifepowermastery.com/hypnosisprograms/ Jimmy Graham C.H.

    Great article Greg. Ever since I started using the suggestion of “promise ” in my hypnosis programs, my clients success rates have increased.

    LPM http://www.lifepowermastery.com

  • Bennett McCarthy

    I promise to get high 90′s in Grade 11.
    I freaking promise man.

  • Shuron Will2

    My Goal Is To Excel At School Past The Best Of My Ability (Grades,All Sports,Graduate)

  • Shuron Will2

    HAD A LONG TALK WITH MYSELF ABOUT WHAT I PROMISED, NOW ITS TIME FOR ME TO PUT IT IN ACTION. ONE THING I WANNA TELL EVERYONE IS SHORT & SIMPLE… LIFE IS ABOUT LOVE NOT MONEY, IF YOU LOVE YOURSELF & EVERY ONE AROUND YOU, & DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO WITH THE INFORMATION YOU HAVE NOW, THE MONEY WILL COME! BUT DONT LET GREED TAKE OVER. LIVE TO LOVE

  • Chipo

    I never liked that word “goal” a couple of years ago I had a good fortune of hearing Bill Batman speak and told us about Promise not Goal. I jumped for joy and I notice that I do tend to fulfill my promise. Thank you for the reminder and reinforcement.

  • donkey

    I promise to get the trust of the mother of my kid.

  • Arcchristie90

    Eu vou fazer um prometo a mim e o meu namorado que vou falar português fluentemente e facilidade, e mais importantemente ter o abilidade compreender tudo, pelo vente e cinco Dezembro, tenho três meses alterar esse prometo a um realidade. Também, eu prometo que vou ter uma semana de um dieta de somo porque quero perder peso e ficar mais saudável e linda. Tenho sorte e um vontade forte.

  • Vince

    My goal to lose weight & enjoy more out of life  is now my promise to lose weight & enjoy more out of life.

  • Rox

    My goal is find a great idea for my dissertation and get the ball rolling. But that didn’t work too well so I will turn it into a promise. I promise to myself that this week I will find the best idea for my dissertation and turn it into reality.

  • Filmjunkie

    I promise to write every day. No excuses.

  • Erica

    my goal to stop suffering is now a promise to stop suffering.

  • http://twitter.com/DreamlifeMoment Jennifer Bell

    My goal to get a job with amazing benefits 
    I promise I will get that job which offers me amazing benefits!

  • http://twitter.com/DreamlifeMoment Jennifer Bell

    My goal to write one blog per week.

    I promise I will find the time to write one blog per week consistently!

  • Jonathan Nagel

    I wanted to say that I liked this post a lot because I needed a different perspective then what I was seeing with goals.  Now I need to re-organize my yearly goals and see which ones are true promises to myself

  • Katiekinz32714

    I promise to memorize all my lines in drama & read them everyday till the play. I also promise to exercise 30 min. more than I usually do daily

  • sheniqua

    My goal to stop after my first drink at holiday cocktail parties is now a promise to myself to stop after my first drink.  I’m going to cultivate the art of drinking gracefully in public settings and learning to nurse a drink then switch to something non-alcoholic is perfect starting point. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/corn.storm.3 Corn Storm

    I’ve ruminated on this topic few times and have realized this truth probably before this article and have accomplished a few things in a very short amount of time, but I never did think of it as a promise, more like a passive hobby, so it’s something interesting to think about anyways. My next promises to myself are to become an expert chess player, and before reading this I never thought of it as a goal and after maybe 6 months I’ve come a remarkable long way and have progresse

  • karina

    My promise to make it to management by June 15th 2013 :)

  • Ana Caroline

    No, whenever I make promisses, I break them xD. 

    • Jennifer

      i promise to myself i will not upset.

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  • http://the-fundamentalist.com/ Baggio Wong

    Goal: To commit myself to the Challenge of the Week system for 1 year to improve myself. 

    Promise: I promise to commit myself to the Challenge of the Week system in order to better myself as a person for a year. 

  • Jlyn

    I promise myself that I am going to lose 40 pounds this year and keep them off!

  • Jaclyn

    I promise that today I will finish my application essay and my cover letter.

  • Matt Woodhall

    I would love to quit smoking. I promise to quit smoking as of the end of this packet

  • Liz Wesbrooks

    I promise to learn to play the guitar, dance into shape, and obtain a Master Degree in science for me and my family.

  • Liz Wesbrooks

    This year, 2013, I am learning the guitar and will attend dance class in June 2013!

  • Liz Wesbrooks

    I have already begun the attending class towards a degree in science!

  • http://weblogpulse.com/ Vertika Nigam

    I am really impressed by the idea of changing a goal to a promise. And, that promise should be deeply related to you so that you do not break the promise this time. We need to take it personally.
    So here I am to make a promise that from today i will start writing out my dreams and untold feelings and this I am going to do everyday, whatsoever may happen.
    Thank you for making me realize the importance of a promise made to ourselves. Thank you very much.

    • http://techsmaz.com/ ASHRAF KAMAL

      @vertikanigam:disqus I appreciate, What you are saying about !

  • Meg

    I promise myself to complete the first draft of a novel this year.

  • Christia

    I promise myself that I am going to be punctual and feel good about my school assignments and college applications this year

  • mrmag83

    i promise to go back to school to complete my BA in English, to go for my MFA in Creative Writing, and pursue my PhD afterwards. i promise myself all of those things.

  • Anonymous

    I promise myself to complete a juice fast for at least the next 30 days.

  • Jessica Heredia

    LOVE THIS!!!!!!!!!!! II PROMISE TO ACT ON ALL OF MY DREAMS!

  • R

    I promise to be a whole perfect strong powerful loving harmonious & happy human being

  • Eric Davidson

    A promise vs. a goal? What a wonderful way of “tricking” the mind into helping you get where you want to go. Will definitely promise myself to begin thinking this way!

  • Elly

    I promise to abstain from eating my problem foods and also from eating between meals from right now and for forever.

  • Giordano

    my goal : stop playing world of warcraft after 7 years, improve my programming skill and to be a happy guy

    My promise : stop playing world of warcraft after 7 years, improve my programming skill and to be a happy guy :)

  • Socratez

    I promise to set up my new website this month.

  • RG_WON

    Today, I promise to pass the Series 7 exam – and I am going to read 2 chapters every day to bring me one step closer to fulfilling my promise.

  • John Dough

    I understand the reasoning behind the contents of this article, but acknowledging the fact that your “promises’ have a near 100% success rate, what happens if you change your goals to promises and end up not being able to keep them? I’m scared that if i set my goals as promises and for whatever reason am not able to keep some of them, this will diminish the importance of my promises, and have a much larger negative impact. Anyone understand what i’m saying?

  • littleone

    Goals:- save money, find a career i like, lose 80 pounds, get a girlfriend..

    I wholeheartedly promise my family and myself included that I will become the man I was suppose to be, take on the responsibilities bestowed upon me.. To accomplish the inevitable.. To become healthier and fit, to do all the things I wanted to set out to be.. to stop smoking, to detox my body and take care of myself and most importantly not shy away from the truth to take it on with hope of a better future and to find a partner someday.

    Good luck to everyone, Hope the best.

  • Jack

    Great article! I had never thought of that, and it really makes me feel more responsible about my “goals”.
    I promise than that year I will succeed in my current project! :)

  • http://www.yawncentral.com/ YawnCentral

    Very interestingly made article. At first I wasn’t so sure I agree with you. After reading the rest of it, it does make sense.

    I remember before I had started my own website I simply had “goals”, then I started to create “deadlines” for myself and that’s when things actually started taking shape. However, all my will to continue was established on a deeper more profound level about how I want to lead my life. In some way, as you say it, its more like a promise to your self.

    Excellent Article.